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    Dizzy what the hell do i talk about

    im definitly having a couple of issues with my hustle/conversation skills
    i cant seem to get past the hey how are you? have you been here before? do u come here often? whats your name im caddy nice to meet you... especially the ones that seem to respond with one answer or short answers and dont take the convo elsewhere its like we sit and stare at eachother because i have no clue what the hell else to talk about

    how do you all handle language barrier? we have alot of spanish men that come into the club and i dont know a damn word of spanish they all try to speak to me in spanish and i have no clue what their saying and most of them dont know any english most of them think im spanish and im not


    and just one more thing how do you handle someone you are having a good conversation with but the drunker they get the more obnoxious they get its like they go from super sweet and funny to super rude and obnoxious all of a sudden... this happend to me last night and i was to the point i was going to tell him to enjoy his drink and the rest of his night and just avoid him but i didnt want to be rude...

    if these have been posted before i apologize i just need some ideas

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    Quote Originally Posted by blueyedmiss18 View Post
    im definitly having a couple of issues with my hustle/conversation skills
    i cant seem to get past the hey how are you? have you been here before? do u come here often? whats your name im caddy nice to meet you... especially the ones that seem to respond with one answer or short answers and dont take the convo elsewhere its like we sit and stare at eachother because i have no clue what the hell else to talk about

    how do you all handle language barrier? we have alot of spanish men that come into the club and i dont know a damn word of spanish they all try to speak to me in spanish and i have no clue what their saying and most of them dont know any english most of them think im spanish and im not


    and just one more thing how do you handle someone you are having a good conversation with but the drunker they get the more obnoxious they get its like they go from super sweet and funny to super rude and obnoxious all of a sudden... this happend to me last night and i was to the point i was going to tell him to enjoy his drink and the rest of his night and just avoid him but i didnt want to be rude...

    if these have been posted before i apologize i just need some ideas
    k, its helpfuall to ask open ended questions and then just act interested and ask follow up questions. ex: where are you from? oh yeah, do you like (local sports team) what do you do for fun? oh my god thats so awesome i always wanted to do that tell me more" "so what do you do? wow, that seems hard, you must be realy smart""wow, what are you drinking" well you don't seem nearly as drunk as i am , giggle giggle" keep the conversation focused on them about 80% with 20% of little tidbits/stories thrown in about you.- it makes them feel like they're really getting to know you. especially if you do it with a veil of secrecy. ex" ooo, i love the cowboys too, but i don't usually tell people that."just keep the conversation light. the biggest mistake you can make though, is sitting too long. you should develop rappor in 2 songs tops and then go in for the sale. ex: "well are you having fun tonight?" "good, lets go have more fun" as you get up expectantly. guys should expect to talk to you for free.

    k, spanish guys. i know that i don't know enough spanish for a whole conversation, but i know enought to ask for a dance, tell them how much it is and that theres no touching.

    k, drunk obnoxious guys. - it sounds to me like you're just talking to them without getting paid- that is all wrong. if you're on the floor and they're obnoxious, there is no reason for you to stay and talk- you're not there for good conversation, but to make money. remember abc- always be closing. with everything you say you should be coming one step closer to closing the sale. so everything you say should have a purpose and a goal. don't just get lost in conversation.
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    thanks ill try that next shift n see how it works maybe get to know more on some current events... and i think u hit my problem as far as sitting too long without closing like the other night i sat with a customer after he said no to a dance but he was buying me drinks it was slow as hell but it took me forever to even get to the dance part so ill work on that

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    Take your que from them they will want to talk about certain things. Ask questions that lead into conversation, such as ask about there hobbies and such.
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    I really like the ABC always be closing that is a good thing to repeat to yourself while on the floor.
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    I wouldnt really go with the "So you come here often" line unless you say it in a funny way because really, who wants to admit they come to a club all the time...haha...it might be taken as condescending. When you ask them certain questions, they will typically expand on the ones they like to talk about and others give you the one word answer.

    Example:

    "So are you from around here?"

    "No Im from X city and Im in town to do a little golfing"

    "Oh! A golfer! I love golfers! Do you wear one of those cute little hats?" *giggle giggle*

    (Usually gets a laugh) "No!"

    "What kind of clubs do you play with? I like Tailer Made personally" (Total BS)

    Now typically I will remember what Mr. golfer said and I can use it again with someone else so I seem informed. Keep it up, build you SS knowledge!

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    A lot of dancers will put together a list of key questions in other languages and memorize them. It can be small chit chat, but just enough to get to the point of knowing their name and negotiating for a dance.
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    i agree with echomadison about keeping informed on stupid guy stuff. I can now keep up a conversation about golf, video games, poker, different cities and local attractions, and i try to keep semi updated on sports. (although i really suck at sports talk) i can keep a guy yapping for hours- which is good - less work for me.
    note:we're not having these conversations on the floor but in the CR
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    I find that if you are legitimately a good listener, it is easy to keep conversation going.

    Keep acting interested.

    I was in a sorority in college, and I treat work like it is Rush...find out a few things right away, then ask about what you find most interesting. People love to talk about themselves, so it is usually easy if you ask something open ended.

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    If im lucky, my personality and the customers will click and then we will be able to talk very easily and conversation wont be forced. The longer ive been working, the more i notice i am able to make my personality click with customers more, which is great. When the conversation comes easy, the money often does to.

    Once in a while i get those customers who are really boring and have no sense of humor and conversation seems forced. When this happens, i usually try to turn the conversation to sex... everybody likes sex, especially if they are in a SC. Sometimes I will start by asking in a sexy voice what kind of girls they like. Then i will tell them that I am bi and describe what kind of girls i like and tell them an anecdote (often made up or severely exaggerated) about a hot sexual encounter i had with a girl, girls, or a girl and guy etc. I ask them what they like to do etc., which gives me some idea of what kind of sexual fantasies they have and i try to steer the conversation to make them think i agree so in their minds i would be their fantasy girl in bed. This gets them in the mood for dances. Then after a song or to im like ooh now im all hot talking about this... could i get rid of some of this sexual energy in a dance or something like that, and at this point they are turned on thinking about sex and think that i am turned on at giving them a dance which is a plus. If they seem really into the conversation then i try to work it into a private room sale, though usually i try to sell those after the dance. Usually it works on customers who i would otherwise not have been able to talk to.

    the downside to this strategy is it took a while for me to be comfortable with. When i first started dancing i wasnt comfortable with any sort of sexual talk and while this isnt necessarily dirty talk, it is sexual and you have to make it convincing and not awkward. That and when i do this if i turn it into a private room sale i need to be careful that they arent expecting me to perform the more graphic areas of our conversation heh...

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    so it seems like gettin my hustle on is getting a little easier i try to pick up on things that could lead into a deeper convo and just chatting period is getting easier for me


    i actually had a deaf/mute man come in last night and i was the only one he bought dances from i guess it helped i took sign language in highschool and remember enough to hold somewhat of a conversation

    so i guess it comes down to the more u know the better chances you have of relating to people and now i see this as far as language barrier too i dont know why the club i work at hasnt hired any spanish speaking females becuase they would bank i think it has alot to do with a customer being unsure when he cant understand what your trying to sell him or what your trying to get out of him that definitly does make hustling through a language barrier hard

    maybe i should go take some spanish classes

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