







i think the guy was playing mind games. or wanted to see how had you would try to convince him. possibly even wanted to see how you handle rejection, the possibilities are endless. considering he was tipping does mean he was interested, in my opinion. perhaps he was just a bit of a weirdo, haha!



i think it might have been a little fast for him. When i see a dancer i want i will go up give a come see me tip and wait till she gets off stage. Most of the time they will come sit for a bit while we introduce ourselves to each other and chat for a little bit. Then i will suggest going up if she hasnt already.
If she comes straight over with lets go up, i will assess the club, before asking her to sit a moment first. If it is really busy or if i have decided she is the girl for the night, then i will oblige her, otherwise i want to talk for a moment.
He could have wanted to chat a moment first and then become comfortable enough to go with a strange girl to a room by himself where god knows what she will do with him.
I mean she could be some deranged lunatic that is waiting to stomp on his balls with her spiked shoes or something.We guys have to be careful you know
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some guys are just asses and they like you to work or hussel them to see how Bad YOU want to give them a dance.. they are just dumb asses..


I dont think it has a negative connotation. A pool hustler wants to give you the illusion that he is not as good a player as he really is, then when you play, he beats you...fair and square....and he makes his money
You want to give the illusion that you are very interested in/attracted to the customer inducing him to spend more time/money on an attractive young lady.
both situations, any reasonable person should be aware that they may be being hustled.......and most reasonable people will not care.
Well, thanks for all the input, everyone. And to clear things up a little, I wasn't "hustling" him very hard. I have a way of popping the question without being terribly pushy, and he did seem very very interested in the idea originally.
He loved the dances I gave him, btw. I just checked my myspace, and he's coming back tonight!
So, I guess maybe he was just intimidated by my enormous funbags approaching his face at terminal velocity.












I am going to have to go with pehaps he wanted an aggressive woman? Sometimes guys will play this game because they want you to take the lead/ persuade them to do what they already want to do they just don't know it. You did a great job as a sales woman
*appalauds*
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I don't think he wanted the dance but you pressured him into it.



I usually got to a club with the MAX amount I'm going to spend in an evening in cash. I used an atm in a club ONCE -dude...they took 20% -never again. However, I do like to keep a little cash reserved just in case something unforseen happens on the way home. Perhaps he realized he was at the take-home threshold $$, and so was hesitant to spend, but with a little coaxing he lowered his reserve....after all, do you know how hard it is to say no to a gorgeous half naked woman??

The kid is an idiot. I'm glad you got the Benjamin, and wished you got two!

As a customer I experience a good deal of ambiguity over the "Not now. Maybe later" issue. At many clubs I don't want a dance right away after arriving. I prefer to see who may be working that day and to ascertain my dance options. When I am in "settling in" mode I may really mean "Maybe later." I mean no disrespect nor do I intend to send an ambiguous message. Sorry if this may come off as a spineless way of saying "NO." That is not my intention.
Nice husteling skills, girly! You didn't quit, love it. As for him..he's just wierd.
There are a few possibilities why he was trying to evade you.
1. He didn't want to spend the money on a private dance.
2. He didn't want a private dance from you.
3. He is into just watching from the stage.
I've been in all these situations and if you like the dancer you don't really want to tell her no. Sounds like he is probably glad that you prodded him on though and I've been in that situation too. You are good at sales, the way you overcame his objections and didn't let him off the hook like that.




Holy old thread resurrection, Batman!
I'll admit I've been guilty of similar in the past. In my case it's because I was afraid of the upsell (one dance becoming two, which turns into three, which evolves into a half-hour VIP...etc.). In the OP's customer's case, he probably worried that she may expect a high-priced VIP to match the proportion of his stage tips.
Nowadays I rarely even get the chance to tip at stage, and in most clubs it's been difficult to even find a seat that isn't in a VIP room...so if I'm going to commit to a 3/$100 or more, I really have to have a good, instinctive feeling about who I'll go back with.
"Women, not girls, rule my world" - Prince
"No parking on the dance floor" - Midnight Star





My guess: He didn't want to spend the money, or he actually couldn't afford to spend the money, so his way of controlling himself was to tell himself he didn't even have it. But you closed anyway....
ps.... that's why you only bring as much cash as you wanna spend and leave the cards outside....
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