When I first started dancing I seemed to meet many asshole custies who would try to break the rules. A few girls I befriended started theorizing why this seemed to happen to me more than it happened to them, and in the process I found a few things to change that made the occurances far less frequent.
1. Looking innocent and by association defenseless. That I couldn't really do anything to change, since even make-up doesn't seem to help.
2. Saying the rules up front. I don't know why this is? Mentioning no contact of the ass seemed to frequently be followed by slapping me on the ass. Now I only state them when asked, and customers who ask seem to always follow them.
3. Sounding angry or raising my voice if they started inching where they should go. The theory on this one is that it sounds like you are nervous and intimidated. Now, I try to just sound threatening. Lean in, quietly say "did I ask you to touch me?" ... then continue dance as normal. Oddly enough, this seems to stop them in their tracks, and they usually behave and stay for more dances.
Is this just me? Does anyone else have similar/different experiences or other insight?



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