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    Default Discouraging unwanted custie contact.

    When I first started dancing I seemed to meet many asshole custies who would try to break the rules. A few girls I befriended started theorizing why this seemed to happen to me more than it happened to them, and in the process I found a few things to change that made the occurances far less frequent.

    1. Looking innocent and by association defenseless. That I couldn't really do anything to change, since even make-up doesn't seem to help.

    2. Saying the rules up front. I don't know why this is? Mentioning no contact of the ass seemed to frequently be followed by slapping me on the ass. Now I only state them when asked, and customers who ask seem to always follow them.

    3. Sounding angry or raising my voice if they started inching where they should go. The theory on this one is that it sounds like you are nervous and intimidated. Now, I try to just sound threatening. Lean in, quietly say "did I ask you to touch me?" ... then continue dance as normal. Oddly enough, this seems to stop them in their tracks, and they usually behave and stay for more dances.

    Is this just me? Does anyone else have similar/different experiences or other insight?

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    Default Re: Discouraging unwanted custie contact.

    Your third option is the one I go for, honestly. I work in a VERY high contact club, where it's not unusual to get your tits grabbed and played with through your dance, or your ass touched or even custie's hands wandering down by the kitty.

    SOMETIMES, since I'm relatively comfortable in a high contact environment, I'll let a couple things slide. A light caress of a boob here, an ass grab - whatever. I ONLY allow this because of the club I work in. The last club I worked at, no matter what my comfort level, was strictly no-contact. I kept to the rules to keep customers from saying "But THAT girl let me touch her!" I don't want to create problems. ANYWAY. </rant>

    When I get a REALLY grabby guy that I just flat don't want touching me, I go for the dangerous, growly, "Did I tell you you could touch me?" thing. I rock a goth look, so I guess it kinda works with my whole MO. I pull the dominatrix card on their asses, and either get a laugh and they behave, or I'll straight grab their hands, pin the guy down, and work it into my routine.

    I sense I've created a BIT of an issue for myself, because now some guys that I've danced for on different occasions will intentionally try to grab me just to get pinned down - but eh, it works.
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    Default Re: Discouraging unwanted custie contact.

    yeah, the thing with saying the rules up fornt - i noticed it too - sooo weird! so now i don't say them and it actually works a lot better. i just practice defensive dancing, always being in positions where they cant touch. as far as telling htem - at first i take the nice route "oh, o, baby, you'll get me in trouble. but if theyre really grabby i'll just take 3 steps back and finish the dance from back there- fuck them if they're gonna be jerks. sometimes i'll do the dominatrix thing too, if i think i can get a lot more money out of them - i'll just grab their wrists and hold them - i make it seem like part of the dance
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    Default Re: Discouraging unwanted custie contact.

    I always tell them the rules up front, and I have a three strike system. After three strikes, I tell them if they are going to act like a child, I am going to treat them like a child, and hold their hands for the remainder of the dance.

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    Default Re: Discouraging unwanted custie contact.

    ^^ I like this idea (telling them they are acting like children). I'll have to try this next time i have to play patty-cake to keep the hands away from me during a dance...

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