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    Duh get in a better moood??

    Ok I alllllwayyy seem to have a better night if I have a dance or get tiped well with in the first 30mins-1 hour.. yesterday. It was sooo slow at my club but here was some guys that did some dances as soon as I walked in.. after that it was sooooo slow but I kepted my head up and ended up doing very well. Tonight, I didnt have hardly anyone tip me on stage, (Im new- I understand that happens, but I have learned a few pole tricks, so Im not terribe) and It was like 9:30pm before I did my first dance, and I got there at 7pm! I have tried the drinking but I just cant do it.. I have to come home and take care of my kids in the morning.. I can do 2 or 3 drinks but Im not going to get drunk.. what eles could I do that might help "boost" my self-esteam or get me in a better mood?? I hate coming in later because I have to pay more.. does that seem to help?


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    no one?


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    Default Re: get in a better moood??

    My club doesn't start to pick up until around 11 pm. I usually don't get my first dance for hours after I arrive at 8 pm.

    If it's slow, it's slow. Don't take it personally.

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    I know how you feel! It helps to be occupied. I talk to people around me.

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    Default Re: get in a better moood??

    Im thinking about taking a book with me next time.. because when its slow and you have already found the dead beats its like UGHH this suckkss.. plus I am bi-polar, so one day I will be soooo happy then next is terrible..


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    red bull keeps your energy up. or those 5 hr energy shots. When people do come in if you do one of those 5 hr energy shots maybe itll help you feel bubbly.

    If its completely dead and there is nobody who is spending money, find a way to occupy yourself. I know people on here are generally not advocates of spending time in the dressing room, but if nobody is spending money or people are being rude i will go down there so my mood doesnt sour. Last night i had to do that because there was a guy in the club barking at the girls, which really makes my blood boil, and the management wouldnt say anything to him. WHen offered a dance, he declined because he "didnt want me on his dick unless he could touch me." So i hid in the dressing room to regain my cool so i could go back up and make money later, which i did . We have a nice housemom so sometimes i will talk to her or sometimes i will play games on my ipod. I was thinking of buying one of those books discussed in the stripper book list and going downstairs to read one of those to help improve my game and mentality when it was either completely dead or full of people i couldnt deal with.

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    I have tried like every energy drink, shot, gum ever lol... but its really not go with my medicine.. we dont have a house mom.. lol my phone is so ghetto, i dont have any games on it lol.. but I think that I might bring a book or magazine.. thanks for yalls help.. if yall find some kind of "happy pill" That is LEgal!! I dont do drugs let me know! thanks


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    Absolutely go for the magazine! I always have one with me. It's great not only for the slow beginning of the night, but for later as well.

    For me, the "fluffier" the content, the better. Celebrity rag mags over Harpers, and that sort of thing. When I feel my mood going south, I take a five minute break, flip through the pages, lose myself in LaLa Land, and I relax a bit. Then, reapply lip gloss, wink at self in mirror, and go!

    You could bring an Ipod full of happy music, too. Whatever cheers you up. For me, it's The Beatles.

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    this thread helped me feel a lot better. i worked with 1 girls today who is a dirty hustler. she will say everyone is her regular, which i just ignore, and then if i talk to them (or any other girl) she will tell everyone so and so stole her customer. but she can steal ours all day. the minute you talk to someone that she hasnt or has talked to even if she alreday made money on them, if you goo onstage she is right on that person . its so annoying cause im not the type to barge back in and look like an idiot standing there between her and the customer like "give me back my custy bitch!". i was in a bad bad mood today. she had done 2 dances already, i hadnt made any money other then 15 in stage tips and she kept taking the customers i was talking to when i went on stage. it just made me mad. then proceeds to talk about how she was sorry she did that but she was talking to them first. god that mde me mad. im not at work for the drama, i want to work and go home. thats why im not about to start shit over this, but i do need to find a way to get a customer back if she steals them. because it does affect my mood and money, both connected. any ideas for this???
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    ^ some girls do that just to intimidate others and wreck their hustle. so dont let her get to you. it's what she wants.
    -love everyone but keep them far from your soul-

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    no one owns anyone.. yes he might get dances from one or two people alot but.. sometimes they want something different.. I would just say something like.. no one owns a customers, and walk off or just dont say anything


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    slow nights have been the story of my life for the past month... im still a newer dancer so when theres down time i put a couple songs on the jukebox...yes i work in a dive... and i go practice on the pole for a while...

    on my way to work i listen to songs that get me hyped

    theres so much drama at my club unfortunatly but i think its hilarious just to sit back and listen to all the bullshit

    ive brought in books or magazines but those seem to get me in a funk that last even when we do get customers because reading puts me in kind of a chill mode

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    I head back to the dressing room for a few minutes and send goofy text messages to my boyfriend and snack (something healthy might be nice)... if I wanna stay on the floor I chit chat with the bouncer/doorgirl/other dancers. I make sure to smile and wave at people (smiling will put you in a better mood, even if you have to make yourself do it).

    I work from 4pm to 2am and sometimes don't make shit til about 11pm

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    ya I know what you mean!! I hate that.. but I figured out another good way!! Just pretend or act like your having a great time.. like its an acting job! Its helped me alot when I have been in a bad moood


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    I write things like, "you are super hot and fun and tonight is going to be awesome!" on sticky notes and put them in my car. I know it sounds cheesy but if I read them before I go into the club I really feel pumped about work! I also try and always keep in mind really really good nights, because those are what make the job so fun and worth it.

    It is hard on slow nights, or nights you don't feel wicked sexy or are just having a bad day - I really find that just smiling and acting happy make ya feel better because it puts people around you in good moods, and it always feels good to make others happy!!

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    everyone gets slow nights, i work from about 9pm to around 4am and some nights havent even made anything until 2 or 3am then its just busy from then!

    i find though if i go out the back to the changeroom to sit down, i dont want to go back onto the floor, i have a notebook where i write tips down from SW and whenever i feel unmotivated, i read that and it gets me into work mode
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    I can get in some BAD funks. I totally fucked myself out of work a couple times because of my attitude, for sure. I'm still trying to find healthy ways to cope. Drinking certainly doesn't help me. I don't smoke pot at work but damnit I wish lol!!! That would solve everything! It's weird I smoked at other jobs but for some reason I care more about my stripper reputation than I did at my "real" jobs. Ha

    Lately if this happens I try to find a customer I can actually talk to and somewhat enjoy myself, and just hang out with him until I feel better. And hey they usually buy a dance! And then I really feel better! I've done this a few times now, and even though one time I sat for an hour until I felt better, that hour lost was worth keeping my sanity and putting in the rest of the shift. (Looking back on it I wish I would have asked for a tip for chatting for so long, but oh well it still distracted me from having a break down at work!)

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    My club doesnt get busy until after midnight. We have to be there by 9 or we get a late fee.

    I get ready at the club. That gives me a good hour I can hang out in the dressing room and take a long ass time to do my hair, make up and get dressed.

    After that I just go to any guy that may be there. If the guy doesnt want to spend but hes the only one there, I just hang out with him and try and get him to buy me drinks so I can get my drink quota out of the way before it starts getting busy. (sometimes that helps get him to change his mind anyway)

    Other than that hang out with other girls. You're all most likely in the same place so can use each other for support. Practice on stage and try out some new moves, if you don't have a lot of customers (or any) try some new pole tricks out.

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    Maybe you have to contemplate going in later if it means that you won't be burned out sooner. I usually get to the club around 9pm because it does not get many customers in until 8-9pm so it doesn't make sense to me to come in earlier. It may be worth the extra house fees if it means that you're energetic to make money when there is money to be made.

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    if i am having a slow night, i change my outfit. i have a very favorite outfit that i look super hot in, and i alwyas change into that one when i'm feeling bad. it peps me up kinda, puts me in the omg i look hot right now mood.

    or sometimes i like to grab a dancer friend, and we change into our snowsuits. (we have these matching fishnet snowsuits) and then we go up to guys and poke fun at them.

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    ive been trying 5htp, which is a precursor to seratonin that you can get over the counter,these past few days... considering the amount of stress ive been under, i think its working. However, I would have to try taking it under normal conditions to give a fair answer.

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