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    Smiley Using your REAL name???!!!!

    This may be a stupid question, but are there any girls who actually use their real name?

    I am about to start dancing, and I already have the perfect stage name picked out, but I think my ACTUAL name IS perfect!!

    In other lines of work dealing with sales (I lease apartments at the moment) my name has often become a conversation topic and has actually helped me build rapport amongst customers of a certain nationality that my name relates to.

    My name is beautiful and not common at all, and most people (in the environment of a strip club) probably won't expect it to even be my real name in the first place!

    And I'm quite sure that once I start working I will run into at least a handful of acquantances/or friends who already know my real name.

    I love my name and it is a part of WHO I am and would really like to use it, but I also want to be realistic:

    I'm not really worried about the issue of being "found out" or "discovered." I don't think being a stripper is anything to be ashamed of, and I wouldn't pick a stage name if it was simply to hide. I'm mostly concerned with the SAFETY aspect of it.
    So- just your honest opinions please. is this maybe a bad idea? Do you know of anyone who has done it before with success?

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    As long as its only your first name and not your full name,its fine. I've known a few girls who danced by their real first name.

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    I picked a stage name when I first started, but now I'm really considering just switching to my real name. It's prettier, it suits me more, and it's much easier for the drunk guys to pronounce. But I would be careful if you have a myspace or facebook or any of that; I'm not really worried about the whole concealing my identity thing, but stalkers are something everyone should be concerned about, and if they find anything of yours online, it's very easy for them to locate you.

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    I use my given name.. Never had any problems.

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    ^^^^ me too

    I so take advantage of the line, "that's my real name and my stage name!" guys seem to find that amusing...

    As far as safety goes, that depends on how you feel about it, it's all subjective. Is your name Zora or Zorabelle?
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    I have met a lot of girls that use thier real name.. I think think since most people think it's a stage name anyway it's really not that big a deal. Go with what makes you happy.
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    I'd say go for it!

    Just, please, be very careful...Don't tell anyone your last name. I know that's a no-brainer.

    I'm sure no one would be able to tell the difference. Just hope you don't run into anyone you've leased apartments to. That might be a little awkward...
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    This is my personal advice, and I think we come from a similar situation. You may not be concerned with being found out, but I am sure you are concerned about your safety. I've had stalkers before and had people get a bit crazy, which is why I like living places that have security. If I were you I wouldn't use your real name because it is so unique... which would make it easier for people to do research on you like finding out where you live. It's pretty easy to look up property records and such, so I just wouldn't do it. If you had a very common name it probably wouldn't be the same situation though.

    Why not pick another really unique name?
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    Default Re: Using your REAL name???!!!!

    most custies seem to think that every single thing we say is a bullshit hustle. use your real name if you want. especially if it's unique. they won't believe you anyways.
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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    Is your name Zora or Zorabelle?
    lol. Not quite. Zora is the stage name that I've decided to use if I in fact decide to use a stage name.

    Thanks everyone for your insight/advice. I will definately take it all into consideration!!!

    And Kylea, thanks for bringing that up, because I really did not think about the fact that since my name is so uncommon in the U.S, except perhaps among foreigners, it might be easier to get my personal information.

    However (and maybe this is wishful thinking), I am somewhat comforted by the fact that even though my name is uncommon in daily life, it does come up quite often in Eastern Literature/Religion/Philosophy. So maybe if someone did attempt to seek me out (using just my first name & city) , their queries would just result in a dead end of educational references lol. (my fingers are crossed haha)

    For those of you who may have had an issue with possible stalkers in the past (or currently), do you know how exactly they got your personal information? Is it really that easy to do so with just a first name?? (be it common or uncommon)
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    i go by my stage name on stage only when i inderduce myself i use my real name i never had any problems my name is kimberly and I love it.

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    Be careful if you're in school--I've had someone find me using Facebook just because I trusted him enough to give him my first name (after a year of his being my regular). He didn't try to hurt me or anything, but I was still freaked out.

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    Ive used my real name once or twice , no belived me as it is quite a common stripper name, one of my friends uses her real name too.
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    It doesn't matter, guys never believe you anyways if you say your real name, but make sure you don't tell them your last name, type of car, you drive, where you live, etc.

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    Been there done that.... I used my name for well over 2 years. I changed to my stage name just to sort stuff out. But if you want to use your real name, give it a shot.... you can always change it later.

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    i personally wouldn't use my real name, but there are a few girls at my club that do. but they all started out just waitressing...then months later they started dancing. so everybody already knew their real name....but i like your name, and if you feel comfortable using it, have at it!

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    I use a fake name and when the guys reeeeally want to know my "real" name I give them a "real" fake name...
    Stage name- Christy
    Fake "real" name- Marie
    REAL real name-- neither of those!

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    Quote Originally Posted by zorabelle View Post
    For those of you who may have had an issue with possible stalkers in the past (or currently), do you know how exactly they got your personal information? Is it really that easy to do so with just a first name?? (be it common or uncommon)
    If your name is unique and they can at least get close with the spelling then personal information is pretty easy to find. A lot of states keep online records where the searcher pays about $5 puts in a name and it pulls up any records of that name or close to the name.

    I would suggest you just pick another unique name.
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    I swear I'm not trying to be rude, but, you're SERIOUSLY over thinking it. Stripping is a job. It's about money. If you like your real name, use it. I would worry more about what you're going to do when you're emotionally exhausted from men trying to suck on your nipples, and you're in a VIP room w/a drunk wall street guy and still have 56 minutes of the hour to go.

    The reality is, in the beginning, it's fun to pick a name - by the end, well, you are just trying to figure out a way to get X's money without letting him molest you.

    I guess I'm being kind of negative to an excited newbie!
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    ^^ And PS, on a serious note: NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU "SWEAR" IT'S YOUR "REAL" NAME, THEY WILL STILL THINK YOU'RE LYING...
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    Quote Originally Posted by hl1986 View Post
    I swear I'm not trying to be a b*tch, but hun, you're SERIOUSLY over thinking it. Stripping is a job. It's about money. If you like your real name, use it. I would worry more about what you're going to do when you're emotionally exhausted from men trying to suck on your nipples, and you're in a VIP room w/a drunk wall street guy and still have 56 minutes of the hour to go.

    The reality is, in the beginning, it's fun to pick a name - by the end, well, you are just trying to figure out a way to get X's money without letting him molest you.

    Go ahead ladies, tell me I'm being negative to the excited newbie!

    Hmm... I'm really sorry that you don't enjoy what you do. I'm quite aware of what I'm getting myself into and if it turns out that it's not the business for me, I will leave. Never in my life have I stayed anywhere that I was unhappy or uncomfortable. And that's the whole reason I am doing a test run and just plan on working a few nights while keeping my current job in order to determine whether or not I actually can handle it. (The last thing I want to do is go into this with a glamorized notion of something I truly have no experience in).

    If it turns out that it's not for me, then whatever- I'll cut my losses and move on. This is simply something that I've had a strong curiosity with for quite some time, and I'd much rather try it out and perhaps regret doing so than not and always wonder, "well, that might have been fun- guess I'll never know!"

    I just enjoy thinking things through to the detail (in all areas of my life), that's just how I am. So while I am aware that they're are other "more important" issues regarding working in this industry, I do admit that, Yes, I am having fun picking out a name lol

    So, while I very much appreciate your concern, I assure you- it is quite misdirected.

    Thanks though!
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    Quote Originally Posted by chanzep View Post
    Ive used my real name once or twice , no belived me as it is quite a common stripper name...
    Enough custies believe that strippers only go by a stage name that girls can get away with using their real names, especially if it's a common stripper name ! I still don't advise it, especially if you've got a unique real name that stands out, and it's not just because of stalkers and weirdoes and the like.

    I worry about keeping my personal life and my work life separate. Now, I don't live close to where I work, and I can all but guarantee neither do all my custies. It's a small enough world that I may run into them someplace else, with my friends or family. I want enough plausible deniability when they come up to me and say: "Hey, Danni!" to indicate that hell, no, I don't know that guy.

    Call me paranoid (you're paranoid!) but I feel safer that way.

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    Your stage name should be unique and should fit you (your look and everything)- Don't pick Barbie if you've got small boobs and a pixie cut- type of thing. So if your name fits you then use it, like all the other girls said all the guys will ask you "What's your reeaaalll name"? Anyway.
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    Doesn't matter what you use anymore, I think. They won't believe you anyway.

    I am sooooo over the whole "Oh, come on now, what's your REAL name??!!" after I introduce myself to people.

    They aren't gonna believe you even if you give your real name, so you might as well use it. After all, all of us strippers are just there to lie and be deceitful, right?
    Seems always after I introduce myself (stage name): then I get the "Yeah right, what's your REAL name? " So then I introduce myself as (my real name) then I get the "Oh come on, yeah right" No matter what you say, trust me they think it's a lie even if you give your real name.

    I'm just gonna start introducing myself as Bob just to see what kind of raction I get.

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    ^^^This is SO true... You are absolutely right.
    Despite my paranoia about people knowing my name, that is the real truth. Well said.
    It is SO OBNOXIOUS! ugh

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