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    when you have been sitting with a customer for a few mins ask to do a dance or tell them.. whatever.. and they say I dont really ever get dances.. or they say something negative about dances.. like I dont like dances or whatever.. do you ever say "WEll what the FUCK are you doign here??" Im soooooooo temped to say that all the time. they usually follow with just came here for a beer or two after work.. well there are regular bars in the area!!


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    It's usually not a good idea to flip out on or be rude to any customer that hasn't actually done something bad. Other customers DO watch you walk around, and watch you interact with guys. And if someone from across the room sees you do something like that, he probably won't know why--but he might not buy a dance from you if you come around.

    Plus, if he says he doesn't like dances, he doesn't necessarily MEAN it. I've had guys say that to me, then disappear in the back 5 minutes later with some other girl. I might not have hustled him right--he might not have gotten used to the idea yet--or he may just not have liked me. Guys are never going to say, "Oh, I'll get a dance tonight, but I'm not getting one from you."

    So when guys say they don't want a dance, I just smile and tell them to enjoy their night. I've even done that, then had the guy approach me an hour later wanting to go ahead and do one, because my reaction to him was the nicest out of all the girls there and he liked that I was so friendly. So, always try to be positive and don't take it personally.

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    Im not saying I would.. but Im tempted to say that.. Im always nice, but its annoying


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    Then maybe they do not want a dance for you. If you can not convert that no into a yes. Then walk away politely. Also I would avoid the whole want to dance question. It is cheap generic and most guys will reply no. Show a bit of interest and be creative. Ask if they are having a good time and if they wanted to be. Ask if you can kidnap them and say shhhh Im kidnapping you. When they say they dont want a dance be like No silly I wanted you to dance 4 me. Come on Ill tip you. Or something to that affect. Read around you will find some good things. Those typically work for me. The first one alone got me a dance about 95% of the time.

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    I've said "then why r u here?" a few times to the obvious losers who tip waitresses $.50 and NEVER get dances. I intimidate them and they have nothing to say LoL.. I love it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CarlyMIA View Post
    I've said "then why r u here?" a few times to the obvious losers who tip waitresses $.50 and NEVER get dances. I intimidate them and they have nothing to say LoL.. I love it!
    I have done the same. I dont' make a scene, but if these broke ass peepers say how they are broke, whatever...I have asked them, "Why are you here then?" or "So you're just a broke ass peeper here to get a free show, huh?"

    I say it, of course, with a smile so that the other customers don't think I'm a psycho stripper or that I'm a bitch (although I guess I am a bitch lol).

    So sick of broke ass peepers. UGH
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    I havent ever said it but last night thats all we had at my club.. there was only a few guys there but i was about to go crazyyyy


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    Tempted? Yes. Would I? No. It's not professional, and it's bad for business. You don't want other custies in the club to see that you were a bitch to someone bc than they won't want dances either. Of course, sometimes being a bitch is necessary.
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    Tempted? Yes. Would I? No. It's not professional, and it's bad for business. You don't want other custies in the club to see that you were a bitch to someone bc than they won't want dances either. Of course, sometimes being a bitch is necessary.

    They can't hear what you say to other custies. You just ask with a smirt and walk away.. noone else knows you said anything bitchy

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    Quote Originally Posted by CarlyMIA View Post
    They can't hear what you say to other custies. You just ask with a smirt and walk away.. noone else knows you said anything bitchy
    <sigh> ok....
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    I will never, ever understand why guys come to SC's just to bash the whole SC experience, strippers, and lapdances.

    Don't get it, when I hear things like

    "I don't like/hate strip clubs"
    "I don't like/hate lap dances"
    "This place is too expensive/the drinks are too much" (then stay and close the place down)

    Then when I ask them "Why did you come here then?" I get answers like

    " I was bored and needed to do something"
    " I just stopped in for a drink, really"
    " I don't know"

    I just can't even wrap my brain around it. I don't even try to understand anymore....too time consuming and smoke starts to rise out of my skull. I can't even deal with these people. The SECOND a guy starts bashing strippers, strip clubs or anything related I leave immediately.

    Just last night, there were two guys sitting by second stage, and within an earshot saying how "This place sucks", "None of these girls are hot" and other banter about how much they didn't like it there. 3 HOURS and 3 pitchers of beer later, they were still there. Not tipping, not getting dances, just drinking their beer and looking miserable. I even saw them do the "shoo away" hand motion to a really pretty dancer that approached them. I just.don't.get.it. I didn't even think about approaching their table either. FUCK no.

    I know this town isn't the biggest but there ARE PLENTY of other things to do. It's like they act like there's a gun to their head to stay at the club.

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    i totally get the logic behind "well then why dont they go to a REGULAR bar????"

    do you know what the answer to that question is?

    because strip clubs have naked girls.

    "but, we don't get paid by the club" you say. "but, it's rude" you say.

    well, i'm going to tell the cold hard truth here:

    95% of the guys who come into strip clubs to "just have some beers"... the ones who don't spend any money/get dances/etc. they know full well that we don't get paid by the club. they DO NOT CARE. period and end of story. most of them think someone "else" will give us money and they pride themselves in "not letting us take" theirs.

    i left out 5% for those guys who are honestly just not used to how a strip club works or they just don't "get it". they are the rare exception, but they exist. they respond well to training.

    my advice for how to deal with the other 95%? IGNORE THEM.

    yelling at them doesn't change anything and the real assholes get off on it. i've said it time and time again on here, only give attention to good behavior. it's best for everyone involved. any customer who is open to your suggestion/opinions doesn't need to be screamed at in the first place. the others don't matter.

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    and to add a disclaimer to my above post.. i'm not saying every guy who doesn't spend money on YOU. i'm talking about the ones who come in and never spend, ever, on anyone.

    my favorite line(s), if i say anything at all to non tippers/spenders (and i rarely do) does not involve a raised voice. instead i say:

    do you tip the bartender/cocktail waitress?
    (they usually respond with a yes.. or a stare)
    do you tip your waiter or waitress when you go out to eat?
    (same response)
    but you DON'T tip the girls dancing naked for you?...interesting...

    and then i walk away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    <sigh> ok....

    There are ways to say things and ways not to say things.. Example. Last evening, I was at work. I asked a gentleman if he wanted a dance. He replied with he was just enjoying the scenery.

    I smiled and said.. " Ah. I see." he got it and promptly left. Tone of voice, eye contact. If you are smart and know how to work your craft you can say so much with one word, or even a few simple words.

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    yup as Pretty Penny would do just ignore them and move on. Don't be rude. They are not supporting you but they are supporting the bar which is supporting you and that bar has mad bills to pay.

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    When someone tells me that they are just stopping in for the beer I tell them that the bar down the street is cheaper and that they are obviously looking for something extra. When they tell me "oh well I also like beautiful women," I respond saying that touching beautiful women is better then watching them. If they really don't want dances they'll keep thinking of some lame excuses about how they are leaving soon or how they don't have money. I just leave them alone after that point. No use spending time on someone that is obviously against dancing with you.

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    I don't mind when they don't get dances as long as they're tipping.

    But if not, if they're sitting at the rail, I'll just mention that it's rude. . . . Along the lines of, "honey, it's ok THIS TIME, but it's really RUDE . . . to sit at the TIP RAIL . . . and not tip." I don't shout. I smile the whole time. And I walk away right afterward if they still refuse to give me anything. Then I just ignore them the rest of night.

    Why? Because they didn't pay for my attention, that's why.

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    I don't think I've ever said that, but I've come close sometimes. I don't mind when they're not getting dances, either, as long as they're tipping. I also don't mind if they came to see another dancer, bartender, or waitress. Just bc they're not tipping or getting dances with me doesn't mean that they aren't here for someone else.

    The one guy who pisses me off the most is this mexican guy who comes in, buys 1 beer, and sits in the back the whole time with his hand in his damn pocket. Guess what he's doing? Ugh.

    I also don't like to get mad bc once I start, there's nooo going back. I honestly have to be fake in real life situations, too, at times, so I don't get extremely mad...almost to the point (and sometimes to the point) of violence. It's horrible. Like...I can't just get mad then be "nice" again. Once I get mad, it's over bc I get THAT mad. Just looking at me, though, you most likely wouldn't think that...probably because I don't let myself get like that normally. So no, even if I wanted to say that to someone, I doubt I'd let that ruin my night.

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    If you think he's the type that will change his mind say:
    "O good I love a challenge...and I know I can change your mind"

    or if he's just a time-waster, just look at it as he just saved you time by outing himself.
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    customer: I came in to have a beer and watch the game
    me: as long as you show the ladies love, we are all for your team

    customer: I am just here to have a beer I don't get dances
    me: They sell cheaper beer down the street

    I just hate when they regularly come in and have a beer, some of them never tip the stage, a lot of them only tip $1 bills at a time.
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    if they're sitting at the edge of the stage, and not tipping, then i'll call them out on it. i'll hold out my garter and normally they get it and hand me some ones. if they don't, then i'll start making fun of them.

    the best part is when they're with their friends. they hand over no monies, and i say "awwww, baby don't you want me to get naked on top of you?" they say things like no, or, i'm not a lap dance kinda guy, or i'm just here with the guys, or whatever.

    so i make eye contact with one of his friends and i say "OH i get it, he's gay, right? oh, okay. i'll stop bothering you. i'll just get naked for your friend over here who appreciates women."

    then his friends all rag on him about it and most of the time ALL of them buy a dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    If you think he's the type that will change his mind say:
    "O good I love a challenge...and I know I can change your mind"

    or if he's just a time-waster, just look at it as he just saved you time by outing himself.
    I agree with this. Turning around a situation will make you stand out from all the other girls. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't.

    I run into dudes like this every time I work, and most likely they say "they're just here to relax" to most ladies...not just me...I think they're too chicken to actually say no...and I think a lot of guys think if they say 'no', it'll hurt our feelings.

    Even as a veteran dancer, I still have nights when the "maybe later" guys, or the looky-loos really irritate me, and it seems like I'm getting nowhere...and what I usually do is vent my frustration to another co-worker in the dressing room or backstage...I always want to appear positive and upbeat when I'm on the floor.

    Something else I do is smile or think of something funny to make me laugh, so even if I had a so-so night money-wise, I'm still happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CarlyMIA View Post
    They can't hear what you say to other custies. You just ask with a smirt and walk away.. noone else knows you said anything bitchy
    this is true-plus if youre good at faking,you can amke it seem like youre having fun and laughing at a custy as youre really putting them in their place

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    and to add a disclaimer to my above post.. i'm not saying every guy who doesn't spend money on YOU. i'm talking about the ones who come in and never spend, ever, on anyone.

    my favorite line(s), if i say anything at all to non tippers/spenders (and i rarely do) does not involve a raised voice. instead i say:

    do you tip the bartender/cocktail waitress?
    (they usually respond with a yes.. or a stare)
    do you tip your waiter or waitress when you go out to eat?
    (same response)
    but you DON'T tip the girls dancing naked for you?...interesting...

    and then i walk away.
    i do the SAME exact thing. It always gets attention and 50% it will teach them better if they are receptive

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    Usually it is just a line to make you work. Otherwise they would have had a beer at home or at a normal bar.

    You have to realize most customers don't have a lot of female attention or someone to argue with on a domestic level so they go to the clubs to do it.

    If they are rude to me then yes I might say "You know this is a strip club right?"

    Most of the time I just smile and say "Well enjoy yourself and call me over if you change your mind about a dance."

    Because I'm not going to waste my time with someone who just gave me the brush off. This goes for guys that say "Come back later."

    Sometimes they come find me, sometimes they don't. Either one works for me.

    Usually when I don't come back I've had several men grab me while I'm hustling some other guy.

    Ingrain in their head that your company is not free.




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