do you find that working with your close friends is a problem?
i had a big argument with my best friend on saturday night which ended with me leaving work very upset and now i don't want to go back to that club. we were very close inside work and out; we have worked together for a few years now and been fine, but lately i haven't been doing quite as well at work due to issues in my personal life, and she has been interfering and giving me a hard time because of it, giving me shit for texting or calling my boyfriend a couple of times a night or texting my friends when it's very quiet or i'm not getting dances. she makes me feel very guilty if i cancel my shifts to the point i'm nervous about telling her i'm not coming to work!
on saturday night i was complaining about girls undercutting others by doing half price dances and didn't realise that it was her and the girl she now works as a team with (that she dropped me for when we weren't doing as well together anymore) that is doing it. she took offence and then launches into a tirade about how bad my attitude is towards work and in general, and that if i don't "sort myself out" i am going to lose all my friends.
she says i don't care about work or money anymore and that i'm not as good as i used to be. these things really hurt me and it just pissed me off so i retaliated and said some things back. we're now not speaking. everyone now knows about it, all our other friends that we work with, because she has told them about it and read to them the texts we have exchanged.
i think that if was to go and work in another club where i don't know anyone i might be able to start over and get my confidence and motivation back, which i have lost lately for reasons i'm not sure about, maybe its burnout (i've been dancing 9 years) or maybe other things. i used to be one of the top earners but lately i am barely managing average, and have had quite a lot of time off.
really though i just want to be left to get on with my job in my own way, without people criticizing me for what i'm doing. she says she is just trying to help, but now its all come to a head and i just feel i cant work with her anymore.
i have 2 choices... to stay at the same club, we will avoid eachother or be polite and it will be awkward... she is less sensitive than me so it won't affect her work but it will mine, i find it hard to leave problems at the door. the thing is the club is great money in the summer so it will be giving that up and will have to travel an hour or so to work every day if i go elsewhere.
my other choice is to go somewhere new where i don't know anyone, and hope that it will get me out of my rut and renew my outlook on things, and allow me to rebuild my confidence without feeling scrutinized by my friends. also it saves going back there with everyone knowing what's happened. i hate drama and i've never been in a situation like this. this could be a good thing, but then again, i am worried that i won't make the same money elsewhere.
what are people's opinions on working with friends? do you think it's a good idea? any input would be great.
hope this is posted in the right place.
xx



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