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    Are there any books dedicated to this topic that may help some of us who work (or wish to work) in bigger clubs (such as ones where there are 50+ girls)? I've looked various things up on Google, including how to command attention, have presence, attract attention, but I can't find any good resources. There are tons of books out there on how to "get men," which can be helpful in our line of work, but I think books about merely being able to command attention BEFORE even opening our mouths could be extremely helpful and save time.

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    Confidence. Good posture, a pretty smile and looking your best. When people look at you, meet their eye.

    Try it. It works. Seriously..

    Practice when your out and about. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

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    i have a pair of neon yellow fluffy legwarmers that i wear.

    people come up to ME.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Surprise View Post
    i have a pair of neon yellow fluffy legwarmers that i wear.

    people come up to ME.
    i love that idea!!!!!!!!!

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    Smile!!!
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    when you start walking into the main area of the club idealise that every one wants to photograph you. Make contact with all the cameras, eaven if your just in the background. Sometimes the background of a picture is more appealing than the main focus.

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    I agree with crow... good posture, tons of confidence, smiling and eye contact.

    When I walk into a room I just automatically pretend I'm someone everyone has been waiting for and is going to be looking at... then just do the above and I usually command attention. Practice when your out in public.

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    Move very slowly. Walk as if you are dancing, and make each movement thoughtful. Let your hands rest on things. Smile mysteriously. Imagine that you are glowing softly.

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    one tihing that helps me is if one or two guys talk to you and more walk in they see you with other customers and think you are in high demand.. when this happens i uaually have two or 3 guys walk up to and ask if they can get a dance, but also smiling also helps, posture, swtching outfits every couple sets, some do it every set. getting close to a guy, i mean like rubbing his back, if your close to him just pat run his back for a little, anything to show you are interested. also pole work, gets your noticed on stage and good floor work, anything to get you noticed s good. i have heard "superflirt" is a good book if your looking for body signals you can use.
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    Great books:

    Win the Crowd by Steve Cohen

    Influence: the psychology of persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini

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    Damn, I jus got finished reading "Win the Crowd," and that book is really awesome!

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    Head up chest, out, lips slightly parted with hips swaying some. If they make eye contact walk straight up to them and get your money.

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    i really like the camera idea. I smile a lot, talk to as many ppl as possible, laugh loudly, touch guys on the shoulder or gently brush them when I walk by-makes them look at you when you do. Good posture, eye contact...I practice whenever Im out-and-about. It really does work and practice makes perfect!
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    I have learned by watching other girls, not by reading a book (simply because I never thought of it). I have learned: a.) your posture is always a good thing. I was in the Army so I've been taught to stand straight and push my "knockers" out. b.) Men love women that smile. You don't have to walk around the room smiling ear to ear necessarily...I always have a smirk that tell people on it's own that I'm confident and sexy. c.) When I walk the floor, I tend to walk slowly...more or less to the slowest beat in the song. d.) I am also a firm believer in eye contact on/offstage. It makes customers feel as if you're interested in them. e.) Having something that you do or say that makes you stand out is always a plus as well. Whether it be a kick ass pole trick on stage or just a simple catch phrase and a wink you use when you introduce yourself.

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    Default Re: Commanding Attention in Full Room

    an outfit that stands out helps. nicely done hair helps. I just got super long extensions and it helps me command attention wayyyy better.

    definitely the good posture and walking with a swagger. like the other girls said, confidence is key. smiling too.

    the number one thing for me is eye contact. making eye contact gets them to remember you and feel compelled to come up to you. if you make eye contact with a smile and a wink on stage you will probably see a significant increase in your earnings. i did at least.

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