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    Someone posted this forum as a link in another forum I read.

    As background, I'm midtwenties guy with a fiancee whom I love very much, and I occasionally go to strip clubs to blow off some cash and have a good time.

    As I read this forum I've really started to see the whole experience from your point of view and honestly it's quite possibly ruined the whole experince for me.

    I have a good job but I'm not loaded and I don't want to spend much more than $300 in a night. But now everytime I turn down a dance I'm going to think about how that girl felt putting herself out there like that, half naked and how much that sucks.

    Next time I'm there I'll think about how many of you seem to feel burned out and used. Someone convince me why I shouldn't feel this way.

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    Ummm...just get it outta your mind when you go to the stripclubs. Rejection is a big thing in this business, and we know you will say no everyonce in a while, but that doesnt mean that we wouldnt try... So keep coming in to the stripclubs and keep bringing your money in, I'm sure you will help out one of those girls who feel burned out and used... or heck bring in more money so you can treat more girls with your prescence lol...
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    Default Re: How can I visit clubs after reading this forum?

    You should feel however you want to feel. Who are we to say different?

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    Or better yet get ur girl a pole, buy her some cute outfits, mayb a wig or two if u want her to have a diff look, and let her learn...

    But I agree with hockeybobby we cant tell you what to do, b/c obviously thats you...lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by stanly View Post
    Someone convince me why I shouldn't feel this way.
    Why would I do that? Why would I want a young man with money in a club? Go with your gut and stay home. BTW how does your fiancee feel about you blowing $300.00 in a strip club?

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    Quote Originally Posted by stanly View Post
    ... But now everytime I turn down a dance I'm going to think about how that girl felt putting herself out there like that, half naked and how much that sucks. ...
    Stanly, if you really read this forum than you would understand that the ladies are professionals and mearly ask to be treated and respected as such.

    Declining a dance is your right as a consumer to choose how you wish to spend your entertainment dollars. However, being respectful means if you do decline a dance, simply do it in a polite manner. Exaples include avoiding phrases like "maybe later" when you have really no intent on getting a dance later on, and not wasting a dancer's time by occupying her with several minutes of free conversation when you have no intention of buying a dance.

    There are simple guidelines one can follow and still be considered a good respectful customer while still being thrifty.

    Reading this forum shouldn't rouine the experience for you. If anything you now know all of the unwritten rules which should help you get the most out of your experience.
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    Exactly, listen to the nice gentlemen over there. Its a part of our job to be rejected every once in a while. Dont go into a frantic rant about how those girls feel when you say no to them. B/c most likely they found someone else who is willing to spend alot of money on them or at lease buy a few dances... so dont worry about our feelings, unless you are totally rude about what you say to them when you reject there offer. Dont worry sweetie, you didnt ruin our night by saying no to us.
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    Default Re: How can I visit clubs after reading this forum?

    Here are some threads you may find of interest...

    "How can I be a good customer?"
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=112359

    "What makes a good customer"
    http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=52830


    (Btw - Not even the dancers would want you to say "yes" to every other dancer who comes by asking for a dance. A particular dancer would prefer you save your money for her. LOL)
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    Quote Originally Posted by stanly View Post
    Someone posted this forum as a link in another forum I read.

    As background, I'm midtwenties guy with a fiancee whom I love very much, and I occasionally go to strip clubs to blow off some cash and have a good time.

    As I read this forum I've really started to see the whole experience from your point of view and honestly it's quite possibly ruined the whole experince for me.

    I have a good job but I'm not loaded and I don't want to spend much more than $300 in a night. But now everytime I turn down a dance I'm going to think about how that girl felt putting herself out there like that, half naked and how much that sucks.

    Next time I'm there I'll think about how many of you seem to feel burned out and used. Someone convince me why I shouldn't feel this way.
    Ruined the whole experience for you? Come on stanly, a bit over dramatic aren't we? Just ask yourself this: Do you like hot, good smellin', soft skin be havin', naked women dancing for you? If the answer is still yes, I think you can muster up the courage to get back in there.

    I bet if you knew everything your financee thought about you, you may also think twice about having sex with her, right? (rhetorical question here.. the answer of course is no!)

    Stick around a bit longer and you'll also read that every dancer here is a professional.... while they may not like you turning them down (i.e. not earning money), they'll brush themselves off and move on to the next guy.



    Knowing more about the SC business may make you feel a bit awkward at first, but once that hottie that you've been eyeing all evening asks you for a dance, your brain will be put on cruise control and the other...errr... "guy" will take over for the night


    In summary: Boobs are still boobs. SW doesn't change that
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    Quote Originally Posted by *~Angel~* View Post
    Or better yet get ur girl a pole, buy her some cute outfits, mayb a wig or two if u want her to have a diff look, and let her learn...


    by far the best suggestion you're going to get.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stanly View Post
    As background, I'm midtwenties guy with a fiancee whom I love very much, and I occasionally go to strip clubs to blow off some cash and have a good time.
    First: Why are you an engaged mid twenties guy? Huge mistake dude. I've got another link for you nomarriage.com

    Second: I didn't go to strip clubs until my 30s & I think you should wait. They're great for the "I'm turning 30 blues" or for when your wife becomes the horrible women she's destined to be, nagging, lets herself go after the baby. Oh man I've seen it too many times, it won't be pretty.

    Third: Don't worry about the girls feelings, they're not worried about yours. Of course it takes practice to become as jaded as I, so again my advice is to wait, the clubs will be there when you need them. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    First: Why are you an engaged mid twenties guy? Huge mistake dude. I've got another link for you nomarriage.com

    Second: I didn't go to strip clubs until my 30s & I think you should wait. They're great for the "I'm turning 30 blues" or for when your wife becomes the horrible women she's destined to be, nagging, lets herself go after the baby. Oh man I've seen it too many times, it won't be pretty.


    I'm thinking most of this is tongue-in-check... but either way, I wholeheartedly disagree here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy View Post


    I'm thinking most of this is tongue-in-check... but either way, I wholeheartedly disagree here.
    You think it's wise for a 20 something to marry?

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    ^^ oy vey..... I have a feeling that this would end up in a major thread jacking.

    Why don't we save it for another thread, agreed?

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    Default Re: How can I visit clubs after reading this forum?

    If you are that hyper-sensitive to just reading about stripclubs & their inhabitants, perhaps a real club isn't the right place for you after all.

    This realization might have just saved you alot of future anguish.

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    If you pull back the curtain, be prepared that you may find that there is no "Wizard of Oz".

    Sorry to say it, but most things in life are exactly like this. Welcome to being a grown-up.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    You are there to have a good time and we are there to provide you with that good time. Just because you know what we are potentially thinking and feeling doesn't mean you shouldn't go and enjoy yourself. It helps us more when there are ppl there spending than us working in empty clubs!
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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    You think it's wise for a 20 something to marry?
    Excuse me, I've been happily married for years now and was engaged at 19. Not everyone feels the way you do.
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    First of all, don't feel sorry for someone who is earning more than you probably ever will... Save your sympathy for the ugly women (sorry couldn't think of a nice way to say this) that slave away in minimum-wage jobs like McDonalds, Taco Bell, Wal-Mart, etc..., with no improved future in sight.

    Second, no one enjoys their job 100%. I love my job, but there are times when it sucks. There are people I work for that I don't like and I am forced to put on the act... I get paid to listen sympathetically to whiny (and often unethical) people and act like I really care about their personal problems and am commited to resolving them... (which I am, but ONLY because they are paying me)

    Do you want people to stop paying you to do YOUR job because they suddenly discover that you're not ECSTATIC about going to work each morning?

    Third, if you look at the thread on Dancer's Fantasy, you would realize that most dancers have well-though out plans that include college degrees, PH.D.s and starting businesses.

    If I go to the SC, I am polite, respectful and friendly to the dancers. I am not one of the jerks in the clubs gets off feeling superior and is condescending to them... Also, I do think there is such a thing as "dancer-custie chemistry". I am not talking about love or sex appeal... I'm just talking about a good working relationship between the custie and the dancer... You find a dancer that you connect with and that appreciates you as her custie and you become her reg.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Excuse me, I've been happily married for years now and was engaged at 19. Not everyone feels the way you do.
    Yes, thank you. I'm getting married in two months, so I like to think there are a few happily married couples out there.

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    Keep this in mind too ( since you seem to be worried about what dancers think ):
    We don't get mad about a guy coming in and spending $300. The experiences that make us feel angry and depleted from this job are the guys who come in with the intention of spending something like $30 ( which is basically cover and a drink ! ) . No one wants to work for free and if you part with $300 or so in the club ........ no one is mad AT YOU at all !

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy View Post
    Yes, thank you. I'm getting married in two months, so I like to think there are a few happily married couples out there.
    You don't list you age, but if you're under 30 don't do it. You'll regret it. I'm serious. Your SO will most likely change after you get hitched and it will be for the worst.

    At best both parties will be content, I don't know ANY happily married couples, I know some who are content. I've seen some who "seemed" happy when together but then I get the guy alone and he says he hates her. And what wife doesn't complain about her husband? Objective evidence suggests it's just a bad deal for men.

    I'm curious, why are you getting married? What is in it for you? What's the benefit?

    Of course I think ALL LTRs with women are pointless, but regardless the stats are NOT in your favor. Sorry for thread jack but this fascinates me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_Guy View Post
    Yes, thank you. I'm getting married in two months, so I like to think there are a few happily married couples out there.
    Oh there are! I got married at 27,was engaged at 25(to my now husband...I was also engaged at 21,but ended up leaving him before we got married) And we've been happily married for almost 9 yrs now,together almost 12. Yes ACTUALLY happily married..both of us. Marriage isnt something you should rush into IMO,but some people are ready at 22,while others arent ready yet in their 50's.

    commanderadama...I'm sorry you have such a horrible view of relationships. But you need to realize that it is just YOUR opinion,and that other people can and do have successful happy marriages/LTR's.



    To the OP...this is a place where most of us rant. So you'll prob see more bitching about our jobs then praising. If we thought it wasnt worth it,we'd be doing something else. We are free agents and most of us are smart,strong women. We arent being forced to do anything.

    So go in,spend the money you intend to spend,be respectful and have fun. Then you can potentially be a very bright spot for a dancer in what otherwise might be a night worth bitching about!! We LIVE for cool,fun customers that make us laugh AND spend money on us. Thats what makes this job worthwhile. So be THAT guy!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    You don't list you age, but if you're under 30 don't do it. You'll regret it. I'm serious. Your SO will most likely change after you get hitched and it will be for the worst.

    At best both parties will be content, I don't know ANY happily married couples, I know some who are content. I've seen some who "seemed" happy when together but then I get the guy alone and he says he hates her. And what wife doesn't complain about her husband? Objective evidence suggests it's just a bad deal for men.

    I'm curious, why are you getting married? What is in it for you? What's the benefit?

    Of course I think ALL LTRs with women are pointless, but regardless the stats are NOT in your favor. Sorry for thread jack but this fascinates me.
    I was engaged at 29, and I'll be marrying her this year - when I'm 30. We've been together for 10 years. I'm marrying her because I love her and I couldn't imagine living without her. It may be hard for you to understand, but I do want to get married - not out of religious obligations, parental pressures, kids, etc.... because I love her. Comprende? It's nothing complicated... I'm not try to "get" anything out of it other than expression of love and unity.

    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post
    Oh there are! I got married at 27,was engaged at 25(to my now husband...I was also engaged at 21,but ended up leaving him before we got married) And we've been happily married for almost 9 yrs now. Marriage isnt something you should rush into IMO,but some people are ready at 22,while others arent ready yet in their 50's.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post

    commanderadama...I'm sorry you have such a horrible view of relationships. But you need to realize that it is just YOUR opinion,and that other people can and do have successful happy marriages/LTR's.
    In the US of A 1/2 of all marriages will end in divorce. I wonder what the rate is when the man visit SCs?

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