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    So I realize that I don't have a blog going but a lil background. I have just gotten back to dancing after a year and a half hiatus. There's this one girl at my club who appparently thinks she's a good hustler by being really what she thinks is cut throat. I don't mean she sits with my guy when I'm on stage, I mean she comes over and forces her way in between myself and I guy that I'm sitting with tonight by pretending she's saying good bye. Of course, I don't mind her saying bye to someone so I scoot back a little, but she proceeds to grind on him and show him her boobs. Then she asks if he wants a dance. He says no because he was just about to dance with me (just refilling the bevvy so I'm waiting but chatting). She won't stop grinding on him and won't take no for an answer until they finally go and he buys 1 dance from her. Forgot to mention that the whole time she was talking shit about ME- that he should dance with her because she's so much hotter than me (she's not. she is skinnier than me, but I have grade A ass, tits, face and I do have an outgoing personality, always carry on funny convo and listen because in my mind I understand what type of experience a man wants to have when they enter those doors) and this girl, while she is cute, is definitely not as traditionally pretty and had a TERRIBLE attitude, always complaining and talking shit about everyone!

    My question is this: Am I sooooo far out of the loop that guys don't come to the club anymore looking for actaul entertainment and a good time?

    Now, I let her actions slide this time, but really do you find it attractive when a girl puts down other dancers to make a buck or does it take away from the atmosphere?

    Honestly, I wouldn't be writing this if she had said " Honey, I'll rock your world" but she said " You don't want a dance from her, I'm so much hotter" and obviously the guy liked me.

    Interjection please. Sorry so long. Sorry for typos, I hate laptops.
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    No, the 2nd dancer would have greatly annoyed me if I was obviously sitting with and paying attention to you. Also, I don't really like the trashing another dancer thing. I think your feelings are in line with what the situation was. Did the guy get a dance from you when he was done with her? Did he say anything about the situation?

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    No the guys he was with are all coming back on Friday and I handled it pretty well ( I think) because at this point I've had much worse happen that it didn't really bother me. I think the $25 she made in the long run is prolly all she'll get out of the entire group all though I'll probably hang with them for a long time. I just, I dunno I feel like guys come in to have a good time and a lot of them have a jealous gf or wife at home and I don't think it's sexy to trash talk, even if you really hate the other girl unless it's an absolute inner circle regular who likes that kind of fem. drama.


    I really hit if off with the whole group of guys, I just second guess myself a little because I've noticed a lot of changes in the club environment. I just didn't want to second guess about men and women, I mean we haven't changed all that much!!
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    Yeah, men and women and their interaction haven't changed much in a few 10,000's of years.

    It does depend on what the guy's looking for. If he's just looking for the grind/extra's type thing, it sounds like the other girl might be his cup of tea. But from what you say, it sounds like that was just the easiest way to get rid of her.

    It sounds like you've got a good attitude about it. I'm sure some of the other dancers may have some input, and there's probably lots of good advice about how to deal with the changes in the environment in the Hustle Hut forum.

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    Now, I let her actions slide this time, but really do you find it attractive when a girl puts down other dancers to make a buck or does it take away from the atmosphere?
    Nope, I don't like it when someone I'm with makes fun of someone else.

    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    Honestly, I wouldn't be writing this if she had said " Honey, I'll rock your world" but she said " You don't want a dance from her, I'm so much hotter" and obviously the guy liked me.
    He needs to become more assertive (like most men).

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    Well, she shows that some people suck.

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    A dancer telling me she's hotter than someone else? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. You don't get hotter because you tell someone you are...hotness is something I determine for myself.

    And her interrupting me when I was clearly into you would be tremendously annoying. I wouldn't even have gotten 1 dance from her, and would avoid her on future visits.

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    The thing is guys just aren't wired to say no to hot naked women who are rubbing their sexy parts on them. For a woman it would be very easy to tell that guy to fuck off, and its easy for me sitting at work in front of a computer to say i would tell her to fuck off also, but when in that situation our brain just doesn't work right. Would it be annoying? heck yeah, specially if i was already getting along with you, but guys just don't have a lot of practice saying no to hot naked women. Like Chris Rock said "guys have been offering you dick since you turned 13, nobody ever offers us shit", so that approach probably works most of the time.

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    I can say no. I can also keep my hands to myself. I have no problem keeping myself in check. Because you can't (but more likely "won't") doesn't mean every guy can't....won't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    So I realize that I don't have a blog going but a lil background. I have just gotten back to dancing after a year and a half hiatus. There's this one girl at my club who appparently thinks she's a good hustler by being really what she thinks is cut throat. I don't mean she sits with my guy when I'm on stage, I mean she comes over and forces her way in between myself and I guy that I'm sitting with tonight by pretending she's saying good bye. Of course, I don't mind her saying bye to someone so I scoot back a little, but she proceeds to grind on him and show him her boobs. Then she asks if he wants a dance. He says no because he was just about to dance with me (just refilling the bevvy so I'm waiting but chatting). She won't stop grinding on him and won't take no for an answer until they finally go and he buys 1 dance from her. Forgot to mention that the whole time she was talking shit about ME- that he should dance with her because she's so much hotter than me (she's not. she is skinnier than me, but I have grade A ass, tits, face and I do have an outgoing personality, always carry on funny convo and listen because in my mind I understand what type of experience a man wants to have when they enter those doors) and this girl, while she is cute, is definitely not as traditionally pretty and had a TERRIBLE attitude, always complaining and talking shit about everyone!

    My question is this: Am I sooooo far out of the loop that guys don't come to the club anymore looking for actaul entertainment and a good time?

    Now, I let her actions slide this time, but really do you find it attractive when a girl puts down other dancers to make a buck or does it take away from the atmosphere?

    Honestly, I wouldn't be writing this if she had said " Honey, I'll rock your world" but she said " You don't want a dance from her, I'm so much hotter" and obviously the guy liked me.

    Interjection please. Sorry so long. Sorry for typos, I hate laptops.
    thats disrespectful and rude, but it seems to make money for her. however someone is going to beat her down one day if she keeps that up. just hope you're there to witness it .

    some guys come in for sexual release so a dancers attitude doesnt really matter. others come in for fun/meet new people so attitude is very important. i personally go for fun/meet new people so a girl like that would turn me off, especially knowing that its a hustle.

    if ive known a dancer for a while and we were cool i wouldnt mind if she needed to vent about something/someone in the club, but only if it was between us and it wasnt to cause drama with everyone else. last thing i need is to be in the middle of a stripper fight .

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    the guy has no backbone or he just doesnt give a shit about other people. He should of stood his ground and told her that he was with you and she may come back later if he was alone. I will and have gotten downright rude with dancers like this. My employees say i have a knack of making one feel like an ass or just stupid with comments i make. If they do not get it the nicest way i can put it, then i will be just as rude to them as they are to you.

    It would be a turn off if someone did that i would not even be attracted to get a dance from them. I am so business oriented, that is all i would be thinking about. She is stealing from you and that is all there is to it. Until he ask you to leave or you leave on your own, its hands off. Bitch----that just pisses me off. they deserve each other.

    sorry rough day

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    A dancer talking crap about another dancer is a huge turn-off, and I'll never understand why some do it. But if a dancer is all over you (without the smack talk) it is pretty darn hard to resist. Being a man has nothing to do with it....some of us women are pretty weak when it comes to that too.

    When this situation has happened to me in the past, I politely declined the "intruder's" offer out of respect for the dancer that I was with. But I definitely got with the "intruder" later on when I was free.

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    If she wants to do business that way she will end up not being as succesful in the long run so let her continue down her path and you take the higher road which should lead to a more fruitful and happier path.

    Customers will like you better and like her less. It sounds like she needs to mature in her business dealings so she can learn a business model designed to attract more customers. It sounds like she has found what works for her and it also sounds like a she has found a niche strategy, and it might prove a long term success of hers based on the availability of current psychological profiles of a guy who would buy a dance in that situation.

    If I were YOU, I would keep working the conversations and hopefully guys will bring more friends to see you.

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    I would not get a LD form her. Of course I would not get a LD form you as I don't do LD. It is way too easy to hustle me then I feel like a fool.

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    Like other guys here said, grinding and other close contact is a turn on as much as grade A tits and ass, but the other girl would have to be a decent grade herself. I care more about how sexy a girl is than contact, but contact makes me want a girl more.

    I wouldn't let the pushy girl tell me what to do. I decide what I want and when I want it. I also wouldn't offend you by letting her cheat you. I'd take whichever one of you I actually like.

    A sexy girl shouldn't have to put down other girls to build herself up. But if she is a sexy girl and she puts down other girls, fact remains she's sexy - just a sexy bitch. But then I'd be wondering if she's going to be a bitch to me and not show me a good time, or cheat me somehow.

    I'm there for sexy girls, sexy stage shows, LDs and the strangeness of the whole environment and the experience. I don't expect girls to chat with me for long (if Ilike a dancer that much, I'll tip her to chat a while) but I do like them to hustle me in an entertaining way. Generally I'm not there for company.

    It seems your competitor was showing the guy a good time by being all over him, assuming he liked her. She just went about it the wrong way.
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    Suggestions: If another dancer competes with you that way then adopt the same tactics. When she butts in, slide onto the guys lap before she does (you don't have to be "all over" him, just block her from doing it). If she beats you to it and uses contact to turn him on, you give him some visuals and talk which will turn him on - i.e. you can compete from the sidelines. You'll look like the more confident one if you calmly sit back and full-on tease him. Make a liar of her. If she's with a guy, go and stand or sit with them and see if you can steal him away from her (without making it obvious the way she does - reflects on you ) to compensate for the ones she took from you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    The thing is guys just aren't wired to say no to hot naked women who are rubbing their sexy parts on them. For a woman it would be very easy to tell that guy to fuck off, and its easy for me sitting at work in front of a computer to say i would tell her to fuck off also, but when in that situation our brain just doesn't work right. Would it be annoying? heck yeah, specially if i was already getting along with you, but guys just don't have a lot of practice saying no to hot naked women. Like Chris Rock said "guys have been offering you dick since you turned 13, nobody ever offers us shit", so that approach probably works most of the time.

    Oh no, I agree with that (he WAS a younger guy) I don't really blame him but I do think he was also trying to get rid of her. I mean, she practically gave him a friction dance at the table anyway!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    My question is this: Am I sooooo far out of the loop that guys don't come to the club anymore looking for actaul entertainment and a good time?
    Sure they do, but you have to recall that as the purchaser they get to define what product works for them. In this case what constitutes entertainment and a good time.

    Now, I let her actions slide this time, but really do you find it attractive when a girl puts down other dancers to make a buck or does it take away from the atmosphere?
    I don't find it attractive and yes it does take away from the atmosphere in my case, but I'm one guy and the fellow sitting next to me is another and what I think doesn't effect him and vice-versa.

    Bottom line is most guys don't want to be involved in the business between dancers and this is business between two dancers. The Ladies should get together in the dressing room and use peer pressure to enforce rules that are agreed upon by the majority as "proper decorum and etiquette" and not expect their customers to be the source of that enforcement. The customers are just guys tired and beat up by the world outside coming into the club seeking escape.

    Escape doesn't include resolution of problems caused by dancers competing for the same dollar in his pocket. That's true in most consumer situations, not simply in strip-cubs.

    That might not be what you want to here but it is the honest answer.
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    I would have complained to the manager and asked that she be kept away from my table, LOL. I have done this in the past.

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    In the past I probably would've said "yes" only because I'm not assertive enough and she'd wear me down until "no thank you" became "ok." Not that I'm much more assertive now, but I don't bother to hide my displeasure in situations like these. A deep sigh and staring off into space with a frown work better than "no thank you" in situations like these anyway.

    So I think it's more likely him caving in than actually prefering her approach.
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    I would have complained to the manager and asked that she be kept away from my table, LOL. I have done this in the past.
    You complain to the manager that a dancer is sticking her breasts in your face wile grinding her pelvic area on your penis? You have a very dancer centric way of posting.

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    No Mr. Troll who's new hobby in his too-much-free-time world is tracking my posts and stating repeatedly that he thinks I'm a fake, I would not complain to the manager that a girl was putting her breasts in my face and grinding on my pelvic area. I absolutely would, however, complain to the manager that a girl I had not asked to sit with me and who did not ask to sit with me interrupted a conversation I was having with another girl and tried to hard-sell me a dance in a manner that in a SC is the epitome of unprofessional. I can't stand that shit and any dancer who pulls a stunt like that with me will ever, under any circumstances, get a dollar out of me, period. i will cease to tip her on stage and I will never buy her a drink or get a dance from her. Period.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Almost Jaded View Post
    No Mr. Troll who's new hobby in his too-much-free-time world is tracking my posts and stating repeatedly that he thinks I'm a fake, I would not complain to the manager that a girl was putting her breasts in my face and grinding on my pelvic area.
    Actually I said the dancer is grinding her pelvic area. Men don't call it a pelvic area; men call it my dick.

    As I said your posts read like a dancer typed them. You have a great excuse for having the same IP as MissMynxx.

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    Actually there several IP's for both of us, depending on who's using which laptop and whether either laptop is connected to the networ at our house, or my office, or my partners house, or somewhere else with WiFi. In fact, there are no fewer than 8 machines on the office network at any given time, and since they are VPN'd through a DSL, they ALL show as the same IP you tech savvy super sleuth you.

    As for the pelvic area/dick - I was paraphrasing your post, thus the lack of a direct quote. And no, not all guys call it "my dick"; some of us occasionally - sometimes - every once in awhile - have some tact, in person or online.

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    Well I have the perfect remedy for this girl I thought about it long and hard and we'll let you know once I've put my plan in action. (PS It's good- I can be so clever when I step back and think about things!)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Almost Jaded View Post

    As for the pelvic area/dick - I was paraphrasing your post, thus the lack of a direct quote. And no, not all guys call it "my dick"; some of us occasionally - sometimes - every once in awhile - have some tact, in person or online.
    This is my quote just for the record.
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    You complain to the manager that a dancer is sticking her breasts in your face wile grinding her pelvic area on your penis? You have a very dancer centric way of posting.

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