When I told one of my best friends about my job, she was okay with it. She was a little worried, but she was also curious, and she asked a lot of questions, which I like.
I like answering questions that people wonder about strippers and stripclubs, and just don't know who to ask. Then I can be a mythbuster and teach them things that aren't in the movies, like, "No, I don't just walk around naked the whole time," or "Actually, I don't know any pole tricks, and most of the girls I work with don't either."
But anyways, she asked,
"How do you feel about being objectified? As a woman? Are you OKAY with it?"
And it seems to be common idea that strippers are objectified, used, and exploited. Another feminist friend once (who is mostly supportive) said to me, "Take care of yourself- don't get raped or murdered anytime soon."
ALSO, when I started this job, my boyfriend-at-the-time told me he'd prefer if I went to be a dominatrix or model instead, because then at least I wouldn't be taking up a "submissive" role.
Objectification? But don't we objectify each other all the time? Do stripclubs have anything to do with it, or is it human nature that would happen regardless? Is it okay to be okay with being objectified sometimes?
Plus, I told her I feel more empowered- as a woman- when I work at the club, than when I'm working some minimum wage food service job where customers treat me like shit. I told her I feel more human working as a dancer, talking to people about their lives, than I do making coffee. I get more verbal abuse and disrespect working behind a counter, and I'm not even allowed to clock them with my heels when it happens, I'm supposed to smile and thank them anyway.
I read some older threads regarding your thoughts on feminism and Christina Ricci and objectification, of stripping vs. stripping culture.
But I just wanted to ask yall anyway. This question sort of boggles my mind; I want to think about it from different angles, and try to put myself in other peoples' shoes, thought I would try to get some outside opinions from other dancers like yourselves.
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She could tell I was ok.
<- really just kind of sums it all up.





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