So the other thread in custie convo mutated into a few people going back and forth about dating dancers. What follows is a statement I made in one of the last posts, that I thought (and I hope others agree) summed things up nicely and would make for a good seperate discussion specifically about the stigma that dancers tolerate when it comes to dating - since this rears it;s head here a LOT. That said...
Why the insistence that dancers are any different than any other women? Do guys not see how patently narrow, shallow, close-minded, and just plain rude that is - not to mention WRONG?!
The ongoing implication is that there is something wrong with the girl who chooses to be a dancer when the real problem is with the guy who can't get over the stigma of a girl who chooses to be a dancer. That's it, that's all; as Dennis Leary says "end of fucking list".
Women in ANY OTHER JOB will have the same hangups. You'll find the shallow money-grubbing ones, the gold diggers. You'll find the insecure whack jobs and the totally together grounded types. You'll find addicts and to use the short terminology, whores - and you'll find refined ladies. You'll find pretty girls and not so pretty ones. Ones with work done and ones that are all natural. You'll find geniuses and mouth breathers. Total bitches and amazing sweethearts. In short, get a random group of strippers together and a random group of girls from any other job description, and you'll get the same ranges. The dancer group will probably have a higher average as far as looks go, and for the most part will be more secure with themselves and more outgoing. Basically, in my experience dancers have a higher average as far as finding a secure, good looking girl goes, and everything else levels out about the same percentage-wise.
They work in a sex industry. You will find that this results in averaging things back out, really - girls who would be more open are actually more guarded because of the assholes they deal with at work. Some who might be more timid were they elsewhere ecome more confident about their bodies and about sex in general. And ya - more of them tur bi or lesbian percentage wise, because they're around hot girls all the time and let's face it - girls look better naked than guys, no matter who's looking, LMAO. As a whole, I find that dancers are more open minded and have fewer hangups in the sack, and more of them are bisexual, but really in the bedroom a dancer isn't going to be night and day from a woman in another profession, nor any more likely - stigma again - to be "easy".
So I ask instead of state: Where does the problem lie? With the strippers? Or with the men who have hangups and issues that prevent them from considering dating a girl because of her profession, and as a result stigmatize these women in our society?



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