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    Call me over, flag me down etc...just to tell me how pretty I am. I know this might come off sounding snobbish, and trust me I do love recieving compliments (like most women do) but I cannot pay my bills with compliments. Please do not make a big production of calling me over to a table because "no, you don't want a dance, you just wanted to tell me I'm the most beautiful woman you have ever seen". STOP IT.
    If we are already engaged in convo and you would like to say such a nice thing, feel free.I like my ego stroked as much as the next one, but I am at work to make money, so unless you would like to spend some, please don't distract me from doing my job.

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    You don't come back at them with "its not aleast worth one dance with the prettiest women you ever saw " or something like that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by fast tan77 View Post
    You don't come back at them with "its not aleast worth one dance with the prettiest women you ever saw " or something like that?
    Most of the time, that doesn't work.

    I get this basic scenario quite often:

    Guy calls me over and says, "I just wanted to tell you you are the most beautiful woman in this club/that I've ever seen," etc.

    I smile, say, "Oh, thank you! Would you like to have a dance with me?"

    Guy acts all offended. "God, I just wanted to tell you I think you're gorgeous, and you're just trying to use me and take my money! I'm not like all these other suckers in here, I have no problem getting girls, I don't need to pay for anything."

    Sometimes, they'll seem to calm down after the rant, then try and ask for my number. And I'll tell them I don't give out my number to customers, and they ALWAYS say, "Oh, but I'm not a customer."

    Um.

    Then I'll try to rephrase, and say something along the line of, "I'm not interested, sorry."

    Then, once again, they'll get pissy. "Jeez, don't flatter yourself, I just want to chill or something, I'm not interested. What, do you think I just want your number so I can try and hook up with you?"

    Um, yeah.

    I actually had a guy get violent last weekend when I refused to give him my number. Started yelling and shit, I had to get the bouncer to throw him out.

    Maybe customers don't understand what makes them fall into that customer category. For me, the instant you walk into that club, you're a customer. Regardless of whether you've spent any money on me.

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    Guy acts all offended. "God, I just wanted to tell you I think you're gorgeous, and you're just trying to use me and take my money!
    And he is trying to use you and get free entertainment. Dont you wish you could just slap dumbasses like that.

    How about everyone that walks into a club must pay an extra dollar amount good for one dance. I say this only for selfish reasons, because i dislike the crowd of people in the club that take up space. If they aint buying they need to stay out and let me have that table or whatever.

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    No problem in New Jersey there can be 20 dancers and 5 customers. I don't have to call them; I can't get rid of them.

    I may be a PL but I know the game, No Money/No Honey; I wish more dancers would learn No Honey/No Money.

    You are preaching to the choir the regular PL posters know the deal.

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    LOL Tell them it's $2 to listen to compliments! ;-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    Guy acts all offended. "God, I just wanted to tell you I think you're gorgeous, and you're just trying to use me and take my money! I'm not like all these other suckers in here, I have no problem getting girls, I don't need to pay for anything."
    These kinda guys amuse me. There is no free sexuality, it all costs something. IRL you must pay in time, drama and money (dates, marriage) ITC you pay cash. I prefer cash.

    I've learned from this site that I am the most awesome custie type. LOL Is it ironic that a misogynist is the ultimate stripper customer or is it just me?

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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    LOL Is it ironic that a misogynist is the ultimate stripper customer or is it just me?
    Only if she is a size 0.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    Only if she is a size 0.
    LOL true it is my hero, but I'll dance with a 2 too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    LOL true it is my hero, but I'll dance with a 2 too.
    Like Avis she has to try harder though because she is number 2.

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    Customer: *compliment*
    Dancer: oh nice, would you like a dance?
    Customer: What? Jeez no! wtf? You think I need to....
    Dancer: *turns around and walks away*

    What could be simpler?

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Customer: *compliment*
    Dancer: oh nice, would you like a dance?
    Customer: What? Jeez no! wtf? You think I need to....
    Dancer: *turns around and walks away*

    What could be simpler?
    It's a time thing. On a 6hr shift I have that amt of time to make a certain amt of money. You calling me over to tell me how gorgeous you think I am when you don't want dances is a time waster. There are ppl in the club who will buy dances and who will spend money and I have to waste my time talking to you bc you think you're better than all those other ppl bc you don't have to "pay for it" and you just wanted to compliment the pretty girl. This isn't the mall. I'm at work, and you're distracting me from my work.

    Don't get me wrong, I like compliments, I just don't like self-righteous hypocrits. If you're in my club and you're not into strippers go to a reg bar.
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    I can see the OP's point if he flagged her over and disrupted her mojo. OTOH, if a dancer happens to pass by my table and smile, I don't think giving her a compliment at that time would be unreasonable. Of course, I know that would be an invitation for her to ask to join me or to ask for a dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post

    What could be simpler?
    What no drama?

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Of course, I know that would be an invitation for her to ask to join me or to ask for a dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    It's a time thing. On a 6hr shift I have that amt of time to make a certain amt of money. You calling me over to tell me how gorgeous you think I am when you don't want dances is a time waster. There are ppl in the club who will buy dances and who will spend money and I have to waste my time talking to you bc you think you're better than all those other ppl bc you don't have to "pay for it" and you just wanted to compliment the pretty girl. This isn't the mall. I'm at work, and you're distracting me from my work.

    Don't get me wrong, I like compliments, I just don't like self-righteous hypocrits. If you're in my club and you're not into strippers go to a reg bar.
    I understand this point of view completely. The turning around and walking away at the first hint that it is just a compliment, no dance is going to happen (and furthermore, he would never pay for one etc etc), and doing so without any explanation or apology is the education that dude needs. Otherwise, he's just gonna keep doing that shit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    I understand this point of view completely. The turning around and walking away at the first hint that it is just a compliment, no dance is going to happen (and furthermore, he would never pay for one etc etc), and doing so without any explanation or apology is the education that dude needs. Otherwise, he's just gonna keep doing that shit.
    Oh I understand, I'm just saying it's completely obnoxious on our end. And sometimes you never know. If he's with friends you might be able to sell the friends. It depends I guess.
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    Ok, if we are doing "Please don't", then:

    Please don't "Wanna dance?, me"
    Please don't sit down without asking, and not leave no matter how strongly I hint.
    Please don't tell me how you need money for your rent, kids, electric bill, car payment, etc...

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    Quote Originally Posted by gameover View Post
    Ok, if we are doing "Please don't", then:

    Please don't "Wanna dance?, me"
    Please don't sit down without asking, and not leave no matter how strongly I hint.
    Please don't tell me how you need money for your rent, kids, electric bill, car payment, etc...
    who said we were doing "please don't"? Did I miss the part where the op asked for a list of things strippers do that you don't like?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    Never make eye contact if you don't have money in your hand.
    Actually, they ignore this, as I got chastised before on this board by the ladies, because it's their job to ask guys for dances.

    They rejected my hypothesis that going up to a guy who is ignoring eye contact is a waste of time. I've never gotten a dance from a wanna dance girl, but apparently there are guys who do.

    Now I just take the Hell NO body language and talk approach, therefore they don't waste my time and I don't waste theirs, no more mr nice guy. They say "Hi", I say "no thank you". I've learned a lot from this board.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    Never make eye contact if you don't have money in your hand.

    ^^^ That sentence should be put in a giant banner outside of every SC.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chris91 View Post
    who said we were doing "please don't"? Did I miss the part where the op asked for a list of things strippers do that you don't like?
    It just seemed like the OP was whining about something pretty minor.

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    ^^^That's because you're not a dancer, and don't have to deal with it a million times a night.

    We can "whine" about whatever we damn well please. This site is largely a place for DANCERS to vent their frustrations. Or haven't you figured that out yet?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    ^^^That's because you're not a dancer, and don't have to deal with it a million times a night.

    We can "whine" about whatever we damn well please. This site is largely a place for DANCERS to vent their frustrations. Or haven't you figured that out yet?
    I'm confused, I thought that customer conversation was for interaction with customers? Many of the women seem closed off to opposing viewpoints. It's seems many have misconceptions about why most men go to strip clubs.

    Of course I can only speak for myself and my area and I've never been to a air dance club. I honestly don't see the point of going to one.

    Do men in clubs I don't go to really show that much genuine interest in the dancers to become an annoyance? (I'm talking about wanting a real "date" as opposed to a one night stand or pay for play sexual activity)

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    Quote Originally Posted by commanderadama View Post
    I'm confused, I thought that customer conversation was for interaction with customers?
    Nothing on the pink side is for customers. Customers in pink serve at the pleasure of dancers and should never forget their position.

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