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    Default Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Do you perform strip-tease and/or lapdances for your BF or husband?

    A dancer once told me that she NEVER does it for her BF because it would make him think of her job and that she dances for other guys at the SC.

    I would also think that a woman who dances for a living, might want to "take a break" from dancing when she is with her BF or husband.

    What is your reason for dancing or not dancing for your BF or husband?

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    no. cause i'm shy about doing that for anyone i actually like.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I have on occasion. I tend to be nervous when I dance for a boyfriend though, and with customers I'm never nervous. Your friend has a good point though, it always makes them wonder what moves you use with customers and can lead to jealousy.
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I do. But only when Im working on something new and I need something other than the mirror watching me.

    But why do I get the feeling you have an alterior motive for asking this question?
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    No, I've come close to doing it a few times, when he asks, but I always chicken out and stop myself because I CANT.

    1) He's already had issues accepting that I do this as a job, and to show him what I do with other guys (even if it is work) I think would be too graphic and difficult for him to really enjoy, as a dance. It would probably be a torturous demonstration of what "other men get" every time I work a shift.

    2) I think I'd be extremely uncomfortable going through my routine for him while NOT pretending certain things or thinking about whether or he'll buy another dance, or when is this song going to end? I would be concentrating way too hard about NOT work-mode, I'll be really self-conscious and probably inhibited and awkward.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post

    But why do I get the feeling you have an alterior motive for asking this question?
    I get that impression also. Jack, are you writing a book? You ask a lot of very typical customer questions.
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Jack, have you ever dated a dancer?

    Perhaps you should ask those who have if they ask or expect their dancer gf's to dance for them. The feedback may provide some interesting context to the question and responses you're getting in here.

    Just a thought.
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I've never danced for anyone outside of the club. When I had a bf, I knew perfectly well that if I tried to give him a dance at home, it would probably just turn into sex before too long, and the idea of that really bothered me.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung View Post

    Perhaps you should ask those who have if they ask or expect their dancer gf's to dance for them.
    A GF is a GF and after you have sex a few hundred times a LD just isn't going to do anything. Maybe in the first week of a relationship but after that why bother?

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    No. A lap dance isn't sexual for me so I'd just feel vacant and or stupid doing for someone I was actually attracted to and sleeping with. He feels the same way - if I'm not into it what's the point? He's not even into my stripper clothes, to us it's just work attire and about as sexy as a striped Footlocker polo.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I did for my previous bf. But that was a special case and I don't think I'll be doing it with any more bf's. He was an exceptionally good sex worker bf, very supportive, never got jealous, really enjoyed watching me at work. I was with him before I started dancing, and he was very helpful and supportive the whole time, so it sort of had a feeling of "we're getting into this adventure together." I don't think I'd feel that way with other bf's. It'd be awkward.
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

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    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung View Post
    Perhaps you should ask those who have if they ask or expect their dancer gf's to dance for them.
    A GF is a GF and after you have sex a few hundred times a LD just isn't going to do anything. Maybe in the first week of a relationship but after that why bother?
    This is kind of what I was implying, but for other reasons as well.

    My impression was that the question was asked in the context that a dancer not dancing for her bf was somehow depriving him of something, when I expect that many actual SO's of dancers would say they don't really ask for LD's anyway.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkkitten View Post
    no. cause i'm shy about doing that for anyone i actually like.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung View Post
    This is kind of what I was implying, but for other reasons as well.

    My impression was that the question was asked in the context that a dancer not dancing for her bf was somehow depriving him of something, when I expect that many actual SO's of dancers would say they don't really ask for LD's anyway.
    Yeah, I don't think my husband has EVER asked me for a LD.

    I'm sure this question is being asked bc he was flamed for it in the other thread....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Perry View Post
    No. A lap dance isn't sexual for me so I'd just feel vacant and or stupid doing for someone I was actually attracted to and sleeping with.
    That's exactly how I feel. If I ever did dance for a boyfriend, it would be completely different from what I do at work. It wouldn't be a lapdance. It would be foreplay.
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    i did..he wanted to see this plaid skirt, he had picked out for me, it didnt make him think of what i do at work because it wasnt remotely close to a work lapdance, (like Chris91 said it was foreplay) so no i didnt feel weird and he loved it becuase he came home form work and i was wearing that skirt as a surprise, becuase he had mentioned that he wanted to see it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    ...it would probably just turn into sex before too long, and the idea of that really bothered me.
    YEAH you're totally right! That would totally wig me out, omg. I'm used to the idea that lapdances should NEVER turn into sex!!! Ugh gross!
    If he touched me (if I managed to let him), I'd have like, BAD reactions, reflexively. I'd want to call a bouncer, haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    I'm sure this question is being asked bc he was flamed for it in the other thread....
    I had fun debating you in the other thread, JayATee,... You'll make an EXCELLENT prosecutor... But, this is a NEW thread... I'm just curious about this... If you want to continue the old debate, PM me...

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung View Post
    Jack, have you ever dated a dancer?

    Perhaps you should ask those who have if they ask or expect their dancer gf's to dance for them. The feedback may provide some interesting context to the question and responses you're getting in here.

    Just a thought.
    In this thread, I'm only interested in how the DANCERs feels about this. But, your suggestion is a good idea for another thread.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I cant do it either my boyfriend asked but I cant do it.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    Once or twice, when we were both drunk, and it turned into sex after like 20 seconds.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    No my boyfriend is fortunate to get more than 'just a dance'.

    If he asks I would consider it. He likes me to sport my new costumes for him for inspection and 'quality control'. That's about as far as that goes.




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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    My husband has ask a few times, but I'm just too shy and feel too stupid to manage. I DID try once many years ago after a few drinks, but he started nervous giggling and I thought he was laughing at me so I got embarassed and stopped. Later he told me he was just nervous and thinking "Holy, shit, this is my wife." Too late tho, the damage was done.

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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    When I first started dancing I gave a ld to a very close platonic (although he always had a crush on me) friend in exchange for something. Something really stupid I can't even remember now- like giving me his last ciggy. It was really awkward so I had to stop.

    The guy I was seeing came into my club when I first started dancing- I don't know if he knew I was there or not, can't recall. He was with his friends and this guy like one table over bought a table dance from me and I was mortified. That was the end of boyfriends at the club for me!

    I did make it up though, I brought a work friend to spend the night. I'm such a lezzy!
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    Default Re: Q for Dancers: Do you dance for your BF?

    I would sometimes rather have a lap dance than sex. I am a bit on the fat side and out of shape. Having sex is like working out for me and requires performance from me. Getting a lap dance is nice because I can just sit back and enjoy it.

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