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    Angry Please!!! I need stripper advice!

    I've worked this club the past 3 years. I've made money I like the customers that come in, and most of the girls. There's only a few problems that are driving me crazy.

    I made friends with another dancer that was doing the Dj another friend of mine actually he used to live next store to me. Well, she calls me crying that hes beating her and she has nowhere to go. So I take her in. I told her work save all your money and get a place of your own. She needed that, plus thats a great deal figured 2 or three weeks she would be on her own.

    about a month and a half later shes still here paying nothing...alright whatever. then the girl had no car. so I go into work dayshift first five girls she wont go with because her ex is working...so i go to work have to drive back home pick her up and take her in for night shift...um i work doubles everyday so this is a bad deal for me not to mention i'm paying the gas the wear and tear on my car. and playing counsler to her because shes going nuts without the guy and the drugs he was giving her. I live in a loft so I gave her my bedroom so she would be out of the way and not just crying on my couch daily i didnt think she would stay so long and i would have been out of my bed that long. im sleeping on the couch. but i felt sorry for her.

    so girfriend and talk im trying to help her out had a little crush on one guy but had a guy from home come to AZ to be with me so im deciding who i wanna date. she and i talk about this drinking beers friends whatever.

    then its her birthday girls like wanting to kill herself...so I throw her a huge birthday party. had to change location because it turned out to be such a big party. um day of the party i broke my foot. but went along with the party anyways did it up!

    then she tells me she wants to be roommates. meets a customer at the club and starts hitting him up to rent us another place turns out dude knew my landlord and tells her im gonna burn her and move out...this caused so much trouble for me i almost lost my place because my landlord thought i was going to ditch out on the morgage and leave her to pay it. so i have to do all kinds of damage control on this. not to mention rents due and i have a broken foot that i have to work on or im gonna loose everything.

    this girl has $5000. that she saved. wouldnt even loan me a dollar moved
    out. not even a loan it was just fuck you thanks sucker. so she leaves im fucked on rent busted foot. i go into work to try for rent i gotta do something. so another girl loans me my rent. saves my ass.

    this girl i helped left a bunch of her shit here and refused to give me back my key in fact she still has it. so i have to pack her shit and wait for her to come get it and she refused to come when im here. so i have to leave my pad.

    this girl had no friends i brought her into my click. so i lost friends well just the girls that do coke because she did coke and if your doing drugs your going to go with girls that do your drug. i had nothing to offer with them i dont want that shit in my house.

    so now the ex boyfriend dj works day. im not allowed in the dj booth i cant look at the dance list to see when im on stage or he just wont let me do stage, i cant pick music and hes rude to me on the microphone. i told the manager he said don't tip him a year later its the same shit.

    then the guy i had the crush on she goes and turns against me and starts fucking which is actually the least damage she did. but i work with him to so its a tense situation.

    i have regulars at this club i need to go in but i have so much anger in me i know this is written like shit and im sorry but so much emotion to even talk about this.

    what it all comes down to is what the hell do i do???? if im wrong or a bitch say it cuz i need to put this behind me and its not going.
    what do i do?

    and ive danced since frickin 1993 never have i had bullshit like this. i get along with everyone which is why this has thrown me for such a loop! I really believe no one will understand a dancer like a dancer we are all sisters we are down in the trenches together everyday. you maybe able to go talk to your mom if you have have one but chances are your mother cant understand the bullshit we go through in these clubs.

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    Change your locks!!

    Tell her she has one day to collect her stuff with you in your house (why would you trust her to come in your house when you are not there?) or youre putting it on the streets..if she doesnt collect it then just get rid, you do not owe her anything not even politeness but no point being rude I guess just straight to the point.

    If you really dont want to switch clubs (which could be an option...fresh start?) Then just learn to deal with the dj's rudeness..dont tip him like manager said, or perhaps you could talk to him because why does he have a problem with you, you dont have one with him you just wanted to help a friend in need not take sides(did he actually even beat her up?)

    You just need good friends around you and to try and move on( I know its hard but once you get her stuff out of your life and just try keep busy time will heal this like it does everything else, everytime Ive felt so hurt and betrayed by people it sucks so bad and feels it wont get better but now I look back and think fuck them!!) , pick your friends carefully in future!

    Im sorry this happened to you, you were just being a really good friend and shes a waste of space but I guess its a life lesson. When will your foot be better? Try to make as much money as you can..if you can with your foot. Pay the girl back asap or will you be behind with rent again? x

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    Change locks and switch clubs. Let all of your regulars know where you are going. Talk to your manager and let him know that you love the club and most of the people - but the DJ and this girl are too much drama and maybe once they are gone you will return.

    Ask her where she's staying or who you can give her stuff to, and give her a deadline for the information - after which you trash it if she doesn't respond.
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    Default Re: Please!!! I need stripper advice!

    Eden45, i'm so sorry! i went through something *very* similar and it wasn't pretty

    i thought i was being a good person by helping someone in need, but they turned around and burned me... but it is what it is... take the high road and you can't go wrong! no one escapes karma.

    i agree with bexxx and kylea2 -- change your locks & change jobs asap!

    that girl has compromised you enough. distance yourself from her toxicity -- a clean break is exactly what you need. no contact at all. why should you talk to her? you can't reason with someone who is unreasonable.

    that's what i did, even though she went to great lengths to try to bring me down. she spread rumors & made up vicious, vicious lies and told them to anyone who'd listen (she wrote letters to those who wouldn't). she even planted dope in my belongings to try to set me up... her crazy ass brought only herself down. it didn't take long before people realized *she* was the one full of shit. after all, *she* was the ONLY one running her mouth talking crap.

    when i was approached by those she had smeared my name to, i declined to give them anything -- not a single negative word about her, nothing. sure, it was hard as fuck not to defend myself against her damn b.s., but i knew they weren't true, and if my real friends heard them, they'd know it as well... there were SO many times i wanted to beat the crap outta her, but she wasn't worth going to jail for.

    Like i said -- take the high road, take care of YOU, and everything will fall into place. We all reap the consequences of our actions. She isn't worth your time or energy!

    Take care and good luck

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    Default Re: Please!!! I need stripper advice!

    Thank you! Maybe I just needed to vent and feel someone hears me. I've kept my mouth shut trying to make it all go away, and its just filled me with anger I cant express. But that I'm not the only one makes me feel understood and for that I cant thank any of you enough... those responses were the greatest gift I could have ever gotten!! Thank you!

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    Default Re: Please!!! I need stripper advice!

    This is why the "Save a ho" campaigns always fail.

    Good luck with everything! I had a girls shit for like 4 months and finally threw it away when I moved. It really isn't your problem and I know it sounds insensitive but please learn from this experience and next time a "friend" needs help, drive them to the shelter of give them $100 for a motel. I hope your foot gets better
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