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    Sad A situation with my favorite regular......

    So I work one night a week at one club, and two other nights at my regular club.

    Since I have been working at my regular club, I have sort of ignored a guy I wanted to talk to, sort of because I thought be "belonged" to one of the house girls that has been there for forever, and I didn't want to piss her off.

    One night he showed up at the other club I work at, so I introduced myself, figuring this was alright territory. We got to talking and he bought me a drink and gave me $$$$ when I danced. He said he stayed away from me at my other club because he knew I would be dangerous for him.....and he winked and stuff, so I figured it was a line.

    So for a little while we have been spending a lot of time together at my regular club, and he pays me big $$, and is really nice and we flirt and I am attracted to him.

    I have about 3 regulars who have my #, just so I can let them know when or if I won't be in, or if I am working an extra night. I he took my cell # last week. He txted me saying he was thinking about me, and he had come by my work, but he was still very appropriate and really normal and nice so I didn't feel worried at all about it.

    Sorry this is getting long....

    So yesterday we met for sushi and then sort of made out in his truck. I have a boyfriend and he is married and I WAS IN HELL about it before, during and after, but I just was like, out of my mind at the time I guess!

    Anyway, he wanted to meet up for sex (not for pay, just cause we are clearly soooo attracted to each other. At first I said yes, but then I like, snapped back to normal and was like, what the hell!!??

    So I txted him saying I couldn't do it, that I thought I could, and that I wanted to, but it isn't something I am comfortable with. I told him I have so much fun with him at the club, and I like him as a person and I was sorry - I didn't mean to lead him on.

    So he called and sounded sorta sad and that he understood and that "the club wasn't enough for him" anymore.

    I almost feel like I went through a breakup! I am so upset about it! I am proud that I learned and kept my boundaries, even though I totally tested them..but I am just sad that I have lost my favorite regular I think...cause I don't feel I can act the same way at the club to him as I have in the past.

    What do I do?? Maybe just how do I feel better and stop feeling that part of my fun has been wrecked?

    HELP!!

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    Ugh. Just let it go, girl... as quickly as you can. At this point I feel like you've already lost him as a regular -- even making out with him was giving too much. He's not gonna pay for it now.

    Example: my ex recently came into the club. He's a great guy, but when I tried to talk him into getting a lap dance from me (I'm fairly new and still want to practice) at the club, he was like, "Not gonna lie... gonna have a hard time paying for it."

    And yeah, I can see why. Even making out... too far.

    Next time -- just let your regulars be your regulars, and try to keep your club life separate from your real life as much as you can help it!

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    ^ I agree with this. Use this as a learning experience and cut your losses.
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    Let sleeping dogs lie. It's done and over with. Next time don't go out with the customers even if you think it's innocent.
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    Just leave it alone. My regulars usually don't last more than a few months anyway. They feel like "they really know me" and "the club isn't enough" that "we ARE friends"... nope, I'm just good at what I do.

    Had one of my good regulars pull that shit last night. He saw me in the club then left. Then texted me that it was too expensive to come see me and that if I wanted to see him we would have to hang out outside the club. I said something like "are you going to compensate me for taking off work?". Knowing good and well that it would piss him off, but I figured I may as well try it. Then I get the "your all about money" shit, which I responded "yes, I'm a stripper, it's my job".

    You'll find that these cycles with the regulars get very predictable. Don't stress, more guys will come

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    Thanks for the replies! I figured that is what I needed to do....it is just hard to ask for advice on this kind of thing from non-strippers!

    I think I am going to buy fun new eyeshadow or something sparkly as a get-over-it gift for myself so I will be extra pumped for my next shift!

    Thanks!!

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    ^^^ Sounds like a good idea.
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    So not to bash you but you'd think you would know better than to get in his truck. Don't you think the two girls that got murdered in Boston by that Craigslist guy thought he was normal on the phone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    So not to bash you but you'd think you would know better than to get in his truck. Don't you think the two girls that got murdered in Boston by that Craigslist guy thought he was normal on the phone?

    I know! and I am a pretty smart girl usually! It was without a doubt the sketchiest/dumbest thing I have ever done BY FAR. I am mad at myself for even entertaining the idea of all this, never mind getting in his car.

    Boy have I learned though, the way I feel about the situation makes me sick, and I KNOW it will never happen again because of how terrible I feel (for a lot of reasons).

    I realize that he is the sort of classic guy to trust......comes to the club but never gets dances or really spends money on girls (besides maybe one drink) , knows EVERYONE there....that's why I approached him at the other club and not where I regularly work/see him - cause I didn't feel like it was his territory.

    UGH

    I gotta just not beat myself up over it and move on. WAY FAR ON.

    Thanks for everyone';s comments, seriously, they have helped me feel so much better and smarter about it!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisy82 View Post
    I know! and I am a pretty smart girl usually! It was without a doubt the sketchiest/dumbest thing I have ever done BY FAR. I am mad at myself for even entertaining the idea of all this, never mind getting in his car.

    Boy have I learned though, the way I feel about the situation makes me sick, and I KNOW it will never happen again because of how terrible I feel (for a lot of reasons).

    I realize that he is the sort of classic guy to trust......comes to the club but never gets dances or really spends money on girls (besides maybe one drink) , knows EVERYONE there....that's why I approached him at the other club and not where I regularly work/see him - cause I didn't feel like it was his territory.

    UGH

    I gotta just not beat myself up over it and move on. WAY FAR ON.

    Thanks for everyone';s comments, seriously, they have helped me feel so much better and smarter about it!!
    Everyone fucks up now and then hon. Be thankful nothing really bad happened and def move on knowing you're now smarter after the experience.
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    Default Re: A situation with my favorite regular......

    One. Don't let guys like this string you along. The clubs are not enough for him any more because they are costly to his wallet. Nothing some free sex will not cure FOR HIM. You are not the one okay?

    Two. He's married and is not: a) boyfriend material, b) marriage material and c) up for consideration in any, way, shape or form.

    Three. You should be taking this person for every penny you can get out of him especially if you're going to meet him OTC. Sushi. Cool. Shoe shopping when you're done. No making out in the truck. No free nooky, quicky HJ etc.

    Don't get me wrong it's possible to date people from the club. Not people like this no matter how much money he makes or how attracted you are to him. From now it should be strictly business with this fellow if you're comfortable. Otherwise he's cut.

    Sorry if my answer is rather unsolicited but we have to look out for each other.

    Glad you're safe.




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