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    I have this regular and he is a lawyer. He pays ok when im working. I gave him my number cause he knew me even back in my cocktail waitressing days. He WAS a cool but when I started dancing, he all of a sudden calls me, asking for nude pics, trying to have phone sex, and wanting me to meet up with him.

    I dont want to be rude or mean, but I have a damn boyfriend and he knows this! He is married with a son and I dont even like him like that. How do my politly ask him to stop without it hurting my money?

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    I have a guy who is a little attached. I gave him my 'real' cell number and he proceeded to text me like 5 times overnight while I was trying to sleep. It pissed my fiance off and me too of course. So the next day I told him it was very inconvenient for him to call me at that time, and that I really dont answer or mess with my phone much anyway. So he stopped texting me at night and I just NEVER answer his call unless we have set up something prior. I will never answer a text or his message...and I think thats what you have to do here if you want to keep him as a customer. Good luck!

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    Default Re: Customer crossing the line..

    if you want to drop him as a regular: tell him the truth: that he is being creepy and you want him to fuck off

    if you want his money enough to deal with some bullshit: say you have a shitty phone plan and are very low on minutes and that texting is not included in your plan. Tell him your phone does not send and recieve pics messages. That and you are way to busy to meet up with him, but since you are working tonight he should stop by so you two can catch up.

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    Honestly, I would not even bother trying to be polite. He is WAY out of line, and he only pays "ok," so is it even worth it? But you can be firm without being rude. Tell him, "I feel really uncomfortable when you proposition me for sex. I have a boyfriend, you have a wife, and if this behavior doesn't stop, I don't want to continue seeing you in the club."

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    IMHO there is no way to get him to stop and be polite at the same time. As a matter of fact I don't even think being polite is the way to go because that isn't going to get the message across. I'm not saying be mean or nasty but be up front and honest and make it clear you don't appreciate his behavior and that it's completely unwelcome. You'd be better off losing the money (which doesn't sound like a lot) than allowing this to continue.
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    Yea i have to stop this soon. He texted me telling me, not asking, but TELLING me to visit him at work....I didnt respond back. The next time I see him im just going to tell him. My boyfriend dont know the situation and I need to fix it before he finds out.

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    Default Re: Customer crossing the line..

    Sometimes peace of mind is better than money. Drop him and another custy who is not psycho will come out of nowhere.

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    ^^^ So true!

    There's no point in hanging onto these guys. When they're that disrespectful, they very rarely pay enough to be worth the trouble. If you lose him, so what- The time you spend on him can just be spent on someone else.
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    I'd just tell him that when you gave him your number, it was so that he would recognize when you text him to come see you at work - i.e. it was only for professional reasons. Personally, I don't ever give out my number but if you need an excuse that is the one I would use. Tell him that you never intended for him to actually start contacting you, and that it's imperative to keep your relations with him strictly professional.
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    Update: He came into the club this past thurs to see me. He took me in the vip and tried to kiss me...DENIED! lol than he said hes gunna call after work so we can have phone sex. I told him tht I am not down for any of this stuff and it needs to stop. Lets see if he actually listens now

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    Make it VERY clear to him that your relationship is a professional one. Tell him that you'd be happy to entertain him, but that you have to charge $200 an hour plus tip. Charge him $20 per nude pic.

    You already have a professional relationship in the club, it just stands to reason that you would also charge fees for these kind of out-of-club services as well. Keep everything light hearted and friendly, just like when you are selling dances at the club.

    Who knows, maybe you will find a new stream of income from this guy. If he gets defensive about the fees, just mention that you assumed he was seeking professional services because of his marriage ( a little guilt goes a long way to getting cash out of many guys!).


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    ^^^^ I would charge more for a nude pic, unless it's sent via text message or something.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stevie3k View Post
    Update: He came into the club this past thurs to see me. He took me in the vip and tried to kiss me...DENIED! lol than he said hes gunna call after work so we can have phone sex. I told him tht I am not down for any of this stuff and it needs to stop. Lets see if he actually listens now
    Set up a cam account on IMlive.com or equivalent, and CHARGE HIM for your time! Set up an appointment, and he can pay you that way. You can be on the phone with him while he rings up minutes on the webcam site. You can set your fees, too.

    It sounds like he is getting confused as to what your relationship is with him. He needs to be hit over the head that you are a professional providing a service, and he needs to pay you for your time. As a lawyer, he should be acutely aware of how annoying it is when "friends" try to get service for free.


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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    ^^^^ I would charge more for a nude pic, unless it's sent via text message or something.
    That's what I was thinking was a cell phone text message pic.


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    oh ok
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    Stevie,

    Any update? Does it look like he got the message?
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    Stevie,

    Any update? Does it look like he got the message?
    Quote Originally Posted by Vamp View Post
    As Katherine Hepburn put it so eloquently " Nature is what we were put here to rise above"

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    I told him straight up, and he just told me *well it seems like you dont know what you want. You want me but you are hesitant* ....I dont think he gets it cause i clearly DONT want him but hes so clear that I am just "not sure what I want" GRRR I hate when people tell me what I want and what I dont want!!! Next time he comes into the club imma just tell him hes my customer and thats it. Im going to have to be mean now >.<

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    Wow! What a PL.
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    All you have to do is cut him off. It's so easy. You can get money somewhere else. ESPECIALLY if he's giving you just OK money- it is not worth putting up with the crap. Why in the world would you make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of not being rude?? RUDE? Don't you think what HE'S doing is a little rude?? C'mon...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stevie3k View Post
    Yea i have to stop this soon. He texted me telling me, not asking, but TELLING me to visit him at work....I didnt respond back. The next time I see him im just going to tell him. My boyfriend dont know the situation and I need to fix it before he finds out.
    Or else what??? You have to be open with your boyfriend for safety reasons.

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    Seriously, you need to be more aggressive and stand up for yourself especially if you're in this business.

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    So I let him know that I dont want to do anything with him other than be his entertainer and he be my customer. Lol now I dont get any more phone calls/texts/visits. But I am not gunna keep my hopes up because its only been a week...Hopefully he doesnt reappear >.< but so far so good

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stevie3k View Post
    So I let him know that I dont want to do anything with him other than be his entertainer and he be my customer. Lol now I dont get any more phone calls/texts/visits. But I am not gunna keep my hopes up because its only been a week...Hopefully he doesnt reappear >.< but so far so good
    I think that now is a good time to change your phone number just incase he tries to start calling again.

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    I would have taken Paris' advice in a heartbeat.

    Men like that deserve to be drained of their income. Time is money in this business, and you have to call the shots. What he's trying to get is a free service AND he's being manipulative in the process.

    I suggest in future if you're ever going to give a customer a number, make sure it is NEVER your personal one. I have a separate phone just for this purpose. Keep your stripper persona SEPARATE from your real life (that includes your real phone number). I cannot emphasise this enough! Good customers can turn weird really quickly and the minute you start to be really friendly OTC with them *poof* money is gone! Talking from experience, understand.

    Any OTC encounter should be stated beforehand - strictly professional. I hope he leaves you alone now though.

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