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    I just want to apologize up front if this is a little long. Thanx in advance for reading.

    So I just started back at this club I worked at for about 5 years. This is my 3nd week there, but I only work 3 days a week. So I don't really know a lot about the girls, there's maybe a handful that I've known since I was there the last time, and a few who remember me when they had first started. My very first day back, which was a week from last Friday, I met a customer and ended up doing about 4 dances for him. He told me that he would have really like to stay there with me, but had to leave, but that he would be back into see me the following week. So he got my shedule before he left.

    Ok, fast forward to last Friday. I was coming out of the dressing room and he was sitting at the bar, and waved me over. I was a little surprised that he came back, but that's only because I don't do regs, I have no time, nor patience for that, lol. Yea, I bet the money is nice, but sometimes it just seems like more trouble than it's worth. But anyway, after a few minutes of talking, he asks me if we can go back for dances, because that is what he came in for. So we go back and he does 4 again. And then we go out to the bar where he was sitting, and another dancer was sitting there next to where he was sitting. She was obviously waiting for him. So I made my exit into the dressing room to freshen up.

    So after about 20 minutes, she went on stage, and I went over to talk to him for a minute. I had no interest in hustling him at this point for anything else. So he tells me that she had yelled at him for leaving her there...blah blah blah. She was onviously upset that I had him back in the lap dance room, but he asked me to go back there, not the other way around. And there was no indication that she was sitting with him. He never said anything. Now, this is where I'm a little baffled. The dancer and I are in the dressing room, along with a few others, right before I went on stage. She starts talking to us and says something to the effect of, "I hope nobody is mad that I'm making money from that guy, or that I'm sitting with that guy." The other girls all piped up and said, "No" or whatever was said. I knew she wasn't talking to anyone else, she was talking to me. And I replied to her, "Why should anyone be mad that you are talking to a customer? We're all here to make money....go make your money!" And that is honestly how I felt.

    So I go up on stage and she is sitting with him, and I am at the front bar where they have a clear shot of me, he is watching me cause I can see him without directly staring at him. So she decides that she is going to sit on his lap, facing him. So she's strattling him, face to face, so he can't see anything else....LMAO!!! Really???? I mean come on.

    So she takes him back to the lap dance room while I'm on stage, which I wanna say up front that I have absolutely no problem with. I make no claims to this guy. And after she comes out she comes in the back and sits down with me, and waits a few minutes and says, "Yea, did you see that guy I was sitting with? He's coming back to see me next week."

    So now I'm guessing she is now deliberately seeing if she can piss me off. And I'm wondering if the customer started it. Like he said to me before how she was yelling at him because he left her there while he went and did dances with me. I'm wondering if he might have said something to her about him coming back to see me and she took that as I would get mad or something, and she wanted to see if she could push my buttons.

    I just decided while typing this that I'm not gonna do anything about her. I'm just gonna let her think she "won" or whatever. I don't have time for high school games. And I'm not going to do anything to jeopardize my job because she wants me to stoop to her level. I make decent money, and customers are disposable anyway, lol.

    This is the exact reason I don't keep regulars.....they always come with drama.

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    I think you handled it perfectly. Let it be obvious to everyone who has the problem and you go do your thing.
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    Good job, hon! You handled it exactly the way you should have. The customer is the one that decides who he wants dances from. She's obviously a bit insecure and threatened by you, and so she's feeling that she needs to act out and get attention. She's acting like a child, for sure.

    If a customer wants you to dance for him, you can't do anything about it! You didn't hustle him, you didn't hypnotize him (well ok, maybe you did, but not on purpose lol!), and obviously he sees something in you he likes.

    She's jealous, plain and simple. You really handled the situation perfectly! She probably thinks that this is 'her' customer, but you know what? If he comes in, he's perfectly free to get dances from whomever he wants. When you respond positively to her bitchy comments (like how you did), she fails at upsetting you - which is exactly what she wants to happen.

    Don't let someone like this phase you. And I do want to point something out. It's not the regular that's causing drama, it's a girl. If you get upset about it, she wins. The more gracefully you handle the situation, the more she looks like an asshole.

    If the customer brings up that she got upset, then just say this.... "Well, you're the one that called me over.... I'm going to view your opinion as more important. I'm sorry she was upset and took it out on you; that's not fair to you - you just want to come in to have some fun, not drama!" Don't let it seem like a big deal. Maybe she was just having a bad idea, but don't dwell on the subject. If he doesn't want dances from you anymore, no biggie! Plenty more fish in the pond.

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    Default Re: What do you think?

    I would have snuck in "Oh yeah he's really good like that. He came in tonight to see me."

    The whole sitting on the lap and not letting the guy watch you on stage is annoying. If it works for them oh well. Not something I'm ever going to do.

    You did the right thing. Some regs are worth it most are not. Some guys like seeing women fight over them. Let her throw herself all over him for money and get all bent out of shape about shit. Not you.




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    I think you are handling this situation appropriately. And I understand what you mean about having regulars causing drama...it'll be either the girls or the guy, but dramam and regs come together. I used to have 3 regulars, and other girls almost always tried to start shit by being possessive or proving they are "better" than me. whatever...girls, just go make your money and stop with the drama.
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    Just let her run her mouth. Money talks...
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    Good for you for handling that with grace. It's sooooo tempting to get sucked into these bs situations, but it's sounds like you've got the right attitude. If he asks you to dance again, go for it, but let her waste her time trying to pull him away while you're making money elsewhere

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    Yeah I posted about a similar situation a few weeks ago, what the hell is going on? This whole industry is overrun with teenagers and extras girls. I need to finish school ASAP!!! You're right it's not worth the bullshit!
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