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    I really like my manager!
    He's so sweet and nice and attractive
    On my first night he talked with me for hours because I was feeling uncomfortable
    We talked about everything from tools of the trade to the 19th amendment lol
    He's so understand and intellectual
    I've only known him for a week but I'm already imagining our future together!
    On Saturday he told me that I looked adorable
    Today he asked my fellow friend stripper where I was and how I was doing etc...
    He's so respectful, as in he doesn't touch me or check out my butt or whatever
    I feel like he genuinely cares about my well being
    Unfortunately, I don't think that he sees me as anything more than one of his employees
    Not to mention that he's old enough to be my father and has daughters that are older than me!
    What do I do?
    Should I just continue to obsess about him in my mind?
    I would LOVE to make a move onto him, but I don't think that he likes me, and I don't want to ruin our professional relationship...

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    Come on here and post all about your fantasies and we will all listen. DO NOT ACT ON THIS!!! VERY VERY BAD IDEA!
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    distinctly not worth it.

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    Please please please take the advice given here and DO NOT GET INVOLVED! This is one of the worst things to do to yourself!
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    dont do it!!!!!! he prob does this to every girl that works there. he can break ur heart and theres too much emotional bs

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    dont get involved with anyone at your club... i learned this he hard way recently
    your manager may seem nice but managers are generally sleazy and looking out for themselves and dont have respect for their dancers. he sees you the way any customer does, as a stripper...

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    no no no no no no no no no no no.

    NO.

    this is a very very very bad idea. don't shit where you eat. this cannot turn out well for you.

    his job is to make sure the club runs smoothly, this includes making sure the girls are happy.

    if you want to fantasize, that's ok. You can do this all you want. However...... You go after him, and it fucks up your money.

    NOW.... you can turn this to work in your favor. It sounds like you two hit it off, maybe you can offer to tip him out for him setting you up with high end customers? Every manager has his favorite girls, and it really sounds like you have a good chance to be one of his. This could be very beneficial to you, but don't fuck it up by trying to get in his pants! There is absolutely NO way that this can turn out well. We all have our 'club' personality. The dancers, the waitresses, the bartenders, and yes.... The managers. He could genuinely like you as a person, rather than something sexual. The moment you try to act on something like this, it becomes awkward at work - even if it ends up being that he feels the same way.

    You can talk, flirt, whatever. Just don't get involved too much mentally. The chances of a situation like this ending well are very very very low. It's just not worth it. However...... that's what fantasies are for.

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    You might want to read my post under bad relationship in the life support section. You should never get involved with your manger I am involved a big mess at a Hustler club and there's so much drama. Managers seem to pray on the naïve, troubled, young girls.

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    That's great that you have a awesome manager but i definately think you should avoid getting romantically involved with him. Dating the manager equals drama!

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    I agree with the other girls. Do not get involved with him or anyone else at the club! You don’t want people who you barley know to know about your business. You’re there to work & not to hook up with your co-workers. Your there to make $$$$ girly not get your manger’s number. What if he does to every new dancer? It might be a game he plays to see if the girl will fall for his “charm” & then sleeps with her. Then you become one of the dancers who slept with the manager & nothing more. I would not keep on fantasizing it because the more you fantasize; the more you want to pursue the romance. Best of luck to you Girly!

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    Again, DON'T!!!! Do not hook up with the manager or anyone else who works in the club for that matter. I have NEVER met a dancer/waitress/bartender/whatever that hooked up with manager and it turning out well. You will be just another girl who fucked the manager. You do not want to be forced to change clubs or deal with your ex at work would you??? Thats exactly what will end up happening. Just because he is nice to you doesn't mean you need to drop your panties!!! I'll tell you again too, Don't mix business with pleasure and DO NOT shit where you eat.
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    Some people are very good actors and use this to their advantages....to get some ass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by callista View Post
    no no no no no no no no no no no.

    NO.

    this is a very very very bad idea. don't shit where you eat. this cannot turn out well for you.

    his job is to make sure the club runs smoothly, this includes making sure the girls are happy.

    if you want to fantasize, that's ok. You can do this all you want. However...... You go after him, and it fucks up your money.

    NOW.... you can turn this to work in your favor. It sounds like you two hit it off, maybe you can offer to tip him out for him setting you up with high end customers? Every manager has his favorite girls, and it really sounds like you have a good chance to be one of his. This could be very beneficial to you, but don't fuck it up by trying to get in his pants! There is absolutely NO way that this can turn out well. We all have our 'club' personality. The dancers, the waitresses, the bartenders, and yes.... The managers. He could genuinely like you as a person, rather than something sexual. The moment you try to act on something like this, it becomes awkward at work - even if it ends up being that he feels the same way.

    You can talk, flirt, whatever. Just don't get involved too much mentally. The chances of a situation like this ending well are very very very low. It's just not worth it. However...... that's what fantasies are for.

    i thought the saying was don't shit on your own doorstep?!

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    Yeah, I'd agree with everyone. At the very least, wait a loooong time before acting on it and see how he acts around all of the new girls. To me, it sounds like he's very good at his job: he made you feel comfortable, which makes the club more money. He's probably a genuinely nice person, but in such a sexualized environment, it's easy to mistake this for heartfelt affection.

    Put your feelings on hold! Flirt and have fun with it, but don't do anything. It'll mess with your money (even if you do end up dating, it'll screw up the working vibe), and too many other bad things could come out of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cashing in View Post
    i thought the saying was don't shit on your own doorstep?!
    I can honestly say I've never heard this one.
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