I am posting this here so I can get input from guys and girls alike. These two scenarios gave me a serious 'WTF just happened?' vibe so maybe someone can help me out.
Situation A: Yesterday, I sat with a very nice gentleman and his friend. The man bought me a drink, told me how pretty I was, how much he liked me etc. I proceeded to ask him for a dance, and he said no, he doesn't do dances. I sat and chatted for approximately ten more minutes, then told him I had to go do some dances, but would be around. He looked upset, so I mentioned very tactfully that we also accept and appreciate tips for our time, if he would like me to stay. He then hands me $10 and says "You've ruined our relationship. Here's ten dollars, and don't come back." WTF HAPPENED? In my eyes, he didn't want me to leave, he didn't want dances, so I provided him with an alternative.
Situation B: This has happened to me a milion god damn times. Guy seems super cool, we get along great, he asks what I like to do other than work. I list some of my hobbies. He then proceeds to ask me what I plan to do after dancing. Trusting my rapport with the customer, I am honest about it. He then tells me like likes me as a person and thinks I am cool, but can't get a dance because "Now I respect you too much and it would be weird", but generally tips me for the time. WTF? Respects me too much to get a dance? What the shit is that? This happens to me like once a week.
Shed any light, anyone? This really annoys me.



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It's almost like giving them permission to think about (and go get) lap dances versus thinking of you as a girl in a bar and playing mind games. How tiring for them when all they really want is a dance anyhow. haha. I know there are customers who really like a "genuine" dancer, but I try to read carefully as to who that customer is versus treating every customer like they actually want real answers to their questions. The ones who bombard me with 50 million questions are usually the A and B types you just mentioned. Get control of the conversation so it's going where YOU want it to go because you need to know if they are potential customers or definite time-wasters.

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