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    Default how can I get my kid to understand NO

    I have a two year old. She doesnt listen when I tell her not to do something. I know she understands No cause she uses the word herself. How do I get her to listen to me???
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    Default Re: how can I get my kid to understand NO

    There is no magic answer.

    Children are not born as good angels despite popular myth. Mostly they are self-serving, oblivious to anything but their own wants, and their intellect is many years off from being fully developed. Just as it is readily apparent their little bodies are not fully formed, nor are their brains and neural path ways.

    Basically then, patience, and many on going years of guidance, rewarding good behavior, gently/safely punishing undesirable behavior, and over time your child will become socialized. It is hard because as parents, we really have to spend far more effort to teach ourselves to have realistic expectations and patience then we the effort required to teach our children. But basic behavior training works.

    That said, keep an eye open. Could be she is a child who has ADD but at 2ish it is too early to tell. Most 2 year olds are incredibly energetic and well, only 2. They do grow out of it in time

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    Default Re: how can I get my kid to understand NO

    there's a reason why they call it the terrible twos....

    I'd suggest rewarding good behavior. That way you get the positive reinforcement thing going.

    I cannot suggest anything more than this, as my only experience is that of dealing with my twin sisters (they're ten now) and my dog.

    When you ask her to do something, have you considered doing it with her, and then rewarding her? That way you set yourself up for success. Just an idea....

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    Default Re: how can I get my kid to understand NO

    They don't understand no untill they understand that you say no because there is a consiquence to their action. If their consiquence is making mommy run around and say omygod theres crayon eveeeerywear, every single wall in the hole house!!! they will do it again(Lets face it, we look kinda funny when we freak). If instead you say calmly, thats bad, now we have to scrub the walls, and make them scrub it w/a mr clean magic eraser, they will not do it again.
    Two is not to young to set rules and boundaries, the more set their boundarys, scheduled naptimes, etc. are, the easier time you will have. It takes about one week for a two year old to set a habit, learn a rule, or unlearn a bad behavior.
    You can do it, keep your chin up!

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