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    I was a dancer for a year until I got pregnant. I was 110lbs and super fit so I did really well. Now 2 months after having a baby I'm 130 lbs and I'm not fat but I'm by no means firm.

    I'm having problems with the father of my baby and he supports us so if I put my foot down I'm risking losing any means of supporting my daughter. Which would mean right back to stripping before I'm back in shape. I know dancing will tone me up eventually, I'm just scared until then. I've seen girls work and make money with bodies worse than mine but I know I'm not confident like this and I don't want customers to see that.

    So I guess I'm just wondering if anyones had to dance before in a position like this, where they weren't in shape and were uncomfortable with their bodies. If so how did it go for you and any advice?

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    Default Re: stripping with a little extra weight

    Stripping is all about acting...Acting sexy, for some girls its acting like you like a guy when you dont, acting friendly when you are thinking 'you are an ugly, stinky bald guy, rude and an asshole, get the hell away', etc etc...

    So ACT confident and sexy. Maybe you will eventually feel that way.
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    Firstly congradtulations on he birth of your daughter.

    my friend at work has just come back 4 weeks after having her little girl, she says she's not as confident but she wants the money, she has been doing well and i think she looks good.
    i'm sre you'll be fine just think of the money and your little girl i'm sure you'll forget your worries once you get into the atmosphere anyway x
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    Default Re: stripping with a little extra weight

    I am not a parent, so I cannot empathize with body issues resulting from childbirth; but I can empathize from a bit of weight gain as a result of a messed-up eating disorder I went through in the past.

    My suggestion:

    Turn the nervous/negative energy into positive energy by hitting the gym every day. I know it's tough. I know it certainly can't be hard w/ a baby. Really dedicate yourself to yourself, and even if you don't see results immediately, you will get that endorphine-fuled confidence, and you can bring that with you to work.

    And like the previous posts mentioned, a lot of stripping is acting. Act confident, act postivie. I've always noticed that the top earner is very VERY rarely the thinnest/most attractive/etc. It's the girl that knows her game better than anyone else.

    And finally, maybe try working at a smaller club in a diff. location. Hone your game and your body during that time, and faster than you can imagine, you'll be back on the ball!

    Good luck!
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    don't work out too mch after just givig birh so recently!!!

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    ^^Oops! I meant to say certainly can't be EASY with the baby. (I accidentally typed "it certainly can't be hard).
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cashing in View Post
    Firstly congradtulations on he birth of your daughter.

    my friend at work has just come back 4 weeks after having her little girl, she says she's not as confident but she wants the money, she has been doing well and i think she looks good.
    i'm sre you'll be fine just think of the money and your little girl i'm sure you'll forget your worries once you get into the atmosphere anyway x
    thanks!

    I think I'm just more nervous than anything. It's been almost a year since I've worked, I feel like I'm just starting all over again...with a little extra cushion.

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    Congrats on the baby! My lil one is 6 months old and Im still not feeling 100% yet (have about 10 lbs left to get back to pre baby weight), but have been wanting to go back for SO long.. I also dont feel confident or sexy at all.. And I really dont want customers or gils commenting on my post baby body...I decided to start camming instead for now, and have been working out a bit (VERY hard to do w/ a little one, a after a c section), and hoping to go back in the fall when money is good!!!

    Good luck! And maybe consider a part time job, or camming!!

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    Wear clothes that flatter your post baby body and work it!!!

    From someone with a few pounds to lose, also make sure your hair, make up and smile are extra perfect!
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    don't be insecure about the extra weight. if you are, people are going to pick up on it. i just started dancing again about 6 months ago, and that was after over a year off.... and an additional 30 lbs. If you feel sexy, that's what matters. I've lost 20 lbs so far, and now I have customers upset that my curves are going away.........

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    Quote Originally Posted by shaina View Post
    thanks!

    I think I'm just more nervous than anything. It's been almost a year since I've worked, I feel like I'm just starting all over again...with a little extra cushion.
    I recently "started over with some extra cushion" I wasn't all that comfortable at first, but it didn't take long at all to start losing the weight.

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    Default Re: stripping with a little extra weight

    Yay! Babies! Congratulations.

    Some guys like curves. So why not?

    Over the winter I gained 20 pounds. It's all about the hustle. You know this.

    If I were in your situation I would wait as long as possible before going back. Are you breast feeding? You'll burn zillions of calories doing so. Wait a few more months if you can.

    If you can't wait - do what you gotta do. Good luck!




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    Default Re: stripping with a little extra weight

    Nothing to worry about. In my experience, the bigger girls tend to make more money (not that 130Ilbs is "big"). But it always seems to be lesser attractive girls that make big bucks. Either they become amazing at hustling or the guys are less intimidated by them, but whatever they are doing the men do not seem phased by the little extra weight, body hair or lack of style. Whenever Im feeling not on my "A" game I just think of them. If they can make it...Anyone can!

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    when you give birth its not the same as putting on weight where you get curves, fat settles around the stomach and you can't work out as much as when you've put on 'a few pounds - childbirth is strain on the body 1 in 4 women world wide die from childbirth,also childbirth is alot different to gaining weight because you ate more, plus you have less time to go to the gym when you have a baby!

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    Different people like different things. A girl in my club is huge and yet she makes more money than all of us. Im more muscular and I still make money. You may not be what you use to be but you will still attract other people tht will spend money on you.

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    @cashing in she can do yoga. That is very low impact.

    Bodies are tougher than most people think and as long as she didn't have a C-section she can do pretty much whatever she wants if she feels up to it.

    I agree that sometimes you can tell who 'just had a baby' in the tummy area but some girls it doesn't show or they lose it pretty fast.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Stevie3k View Post
    Different people like different things. A girl in my club is huge and yet she makes more money than all of us...
    Word.

    Sometimes at my club I feel as if I need to gain 10 lbs! Most of the girls at my club who are like yourself....a little extra weight and maybe some visible signs of childbirth, make all the dough. At least that's the way it seems to me. Don't get me wrong, I still make my $$, but I have my small little crowd and a few regulars that like my type (i'm the skinny tan tattood girl) As fas as appealing the the masses, no go there. I never get tipped much on stage, or am able to sell dance after dance to a packed room. The girls whom I see constantly getting stage tips and selling mad dances are the "curvier" ones. Also girls with "mommy tummy" will always be making a killing. I have heard guys say they get turned on by a girl who they can tell has had kids.

    It depends on your location, your club and the crowd it attracts, and how good of a hustler you are in my opinion. I work with a girl (or two) who are way more overweight than you describe yourself to be (i mean they are big girls) and I never see them unhappy.

    If your are feeling welll enough to strip and want to to it, then do it. That's just my opinion.

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    Don't forget that stripping will help your body get more toned, too!

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    130 is fine. trust me. at about 120 i was makin bank! now i've lost a lot of weight and am around 100. my money has lowered...all my old customers are like wtf happend to your ass. and my nickname is now tits on a stick. so....do some sit ups and you'll do fine! besides a month of dancing will shed and firm.

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    Damn, I am in the exact same situation bodywise. I gave birth to twins on 4/12/09 and I've lost all of my babyweight except 5 lbs. I am definetely not fat at all but my tummy is still a bit soft and a "mommy belly"

    I had C section and could not work out for a while too, so now my belly is a bit loose and I am feeling a bit embarassed and insecure about it. I am returning on friday, and will try to remember that I look great. We just had baby(s) inside of our bodies and most men are not hung up on little imperfections like we are. I know there are girls with bigger bellies than I have and they don't have any kids! But I know how you feel, when you are used to looking a certain way, you have to learn to accept your new body. I always had a real flat tummy.

    We must remember that 99% of men are not looking for absolute perfection, they want someone to make them feel good and give them attention. I will go to work and enjoy myself, and remember that I look great. I work nude, so I will be wearing dresses and just pulling out my boobs and taking off my undies. Not ready to reveal my belly yet, but I'm positive it will look the way it did before in another month or two. You could try this if you are insecure about your belly as I am, or try a corset.

    Also, it can make you feel a lot better to get some new make-up, a new sexy outfit that flatters your figure, and to exercise. I'm very busy but I try to exercise every day, even if only for 20 mins. I am also eating a lot better. Drink a lot of water too!
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    I started stripping a few months after giving birth, and with breast feeding I was dropping weight fast. I'm a bigger girl, I was probably about 160 (I'm 5'9) or more when I first started. I did fine then and was working on my body, but I never got any complaints about being bigger (alot of complements, actually). Even though I had the "mummy tummy" and my boobs are a little saggy from getting so huge during breastfeeding lol.

    Then I hit a rough patch this past winter and actually gained all of my weight back plus ten pounds! I had quit breastfeeding so that might of had something to do with it, but I was just being unhealthy was the bottom line. That definitely affected my mood, self-image, and especially my money. Since winter I've lost about 20 pounds (hopefully more I haven't weighed myself in awhile) and it's awesome how many customers actually notice. I'm doing better now money wise too. I'm still considered "bigger" at my club, and honestly I don't know if I'll ever be even average sized again, but at least now I'm starting to feel comfortable in my body. I'm thinking another 10-20 would be perfect, but another 20 might be unrealistic for me now. Pre-pregnancy I was reeeally skinny without hardly trying and DAMNIT I had no clue how good I had it lol

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    You could be in awful shape making minor stripper money and have more cash flow than you're probably getting from your father's child.

    Why would he stop supporting you if you put your foot down? What's wrong? You know, he has to pay child support whether he likes you or not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    You could be in awful shape making minor stripper money and have more cash flow than you're probably getting from your father's child.

    Why would he stop supporting you if you put your foot down? What's wrong? You know, he has to pay child support whether he likes you or not.

    But if she is working, would he still have to pay child support?

    My ex doesn't pay child support. I've always relied on stripping for income.

    Back on topic...

    I was in your shoes. I started stripping when my son was 3. No matter how much I worked out, the lbs. just stayed on. Healthy diet+Tonalin CLA + working out 4-5 times a week toned me up super fast. You could see a very noticeable result within a month. But are you breastfeeding? Don't take Tonalin if you are breastfeeding.
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    And I'm over here like "fuck you, pay me". No non sense, sorry.

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    ^ Of course he would have to pay child support even if she was working! If your ex isn't paying child support, he should be! They can garnish his paycheck and send it right to you so you don't have any contact. He doesn't have to pay all the bills for both of you, but he needs to be contributing to bringing up your child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    ^ Of course he would have to pay child support even if she was working! If your ex isn't paying child support, he should be! They can garnish his paycheck and send it right to you so you don't have any contact. He doesn't have to pay all the bills for both of you, but he needs to be contributing to bringing up your child.
    This would require a court order, would it not?

    My ex and I share custody. Does that make a difference (like 60% me, 40% him.)
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    And I'm over here like "fuck you, pay me". No non sense, sorry.

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