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    I read a interesting bit on life support and thought i might throw this out there. Coming from a psych background this makes me wonder just how the opposite sex looks at this particular affection

    My thoughts.
    I love to hold hands. It does not necessarily turn me own, although it can make sex better in my opinion--I will spare the details of applications. I find holding hands intimate, i feel closer to that person. I feel when you have someones hands you are connected.

    I wonder if men and women are completely opposite on this. Is it a gender thing. I understand that dancers through training their minds can get pass the connection of holding hands with a customer. I wonder though how many shy away from holding hands just because of the intimacy. No it is not sexual but yet i still think it is intimate.

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    Default Re: holding hands

    I hold a customer's hand when leading him to the VIP, and in there as well because I think it makes me seem more engaging. Then again, I employ a lot of subtle touch into the experience I provide to simulate closeness, which I think a lot of men like.

    Then again stressed, I get what you're saying... one of my favourite memories is with the love of my life and I falling asleep holding hands. Yeah, yeah, everyone do the resounding "Awwww..."

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    Thanks for the thoughts. I was hoping for more responses not just in the club but in general, what it means to you. This probably shouldnt have been posted here, since the main responses i wanted was indeed what it means to you outside of the club. I sometimes find myself on the outside of the box in relationships, and was just wondering if it is indeed that important to others.

    although anyone relating to itc is welcomed also, both men and women. I didnt search this so if the Search king found some threads feel free to post

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    Hand holding need not be sexual.


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    ITC, I will hold a customers hand while Im leading him to a private dance, or I've even been known to do it if they're getting handsy because it makes them think I want to get closer when in reality Im just trying to keep them off me.

    OTC someone really has to mean something to me for me to be holding their hand. That's not something I do lightly (as lame as that sounds).
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    I hate holding hands.

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    I don't like holding hands either, but I don't know why. Holding my hand while being led to a VIP is not the same as holding hands as a display of affection. The action is the same of course, but the purpose is not that same, and that make a big difference.
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    My wife loves holding hands but I just am not too fond of the idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyril View Post
    I hate holding hands.
    ? now i am curious ?

    it can be an amazingly complex mix of erotic and innocence. So much emotion conveyed though something as simple as two warm, slightly moist palms touching... Some are neutral at best, but outright hate? Any particular reason why?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    Any particular reason why?
    As for myself if I'm attacked by Ninjas I need both hands.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earl_the_Pearl View Post
    As for myself if I'm attacked by Ninjas I need both hands.
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    I love holding hands. I love the way it feels when someone you have feelings for slips their hand in yours for the first time and an electric shock goes through you.

    I remember when I was on my first date (I was 15, mind you), and my guy grabbed my hand during the movie and I felt like I was high or something. The same goes for first kisses too.

    After a while, hand holding seems like comfort and security, which is also nice. My college boyfriend and I had a hand holding code--when we crossed a busy street, we'd look at the road and squeeze twice to stop, and then squeezed once when it was all clear. Yes, I'm fully aware of how weird that is.

    As far as customers, if they are craving intimacy I will most certainly grab their hand and stare into their eyes like a girlfriend would. It's the fantasy they are paying for.

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    I will hold hands on the way to the VIP, but it is far too intimate for me to hold hands at the table/bar with a customer.
    I love holding hands with a significant other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by earl_the_pearl View Post
    as for myself if i'm attacked by ninjas i need both hands.
    lmao ;d

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    Holding hands is very intimate and I would never do so with a customer. I love to hold my SO's hand however, just feeling that connection of warm skin on skin. Taking my thumb and stroking the back of their hand lightly, just to remind them that I am not just thoughtlessly clasping their hand. Little things like these are the things I have missed most as my marriage slowly died these last few years.
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    ^I was thinking "oh how sweet" until the last sentence.

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    ^^Sorry for being such a downer! I am good though, moving on and hopeful that I will be happily holding someones hand again one day.

    Sometimes divorce really is a blessing in disguise!!
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    ^True. I guess I was putting my views into your comment when you didn't necessarily mean it that way. In that case, congratulations!

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    Quote Originally Posted by princessjas View Post
    Sometimes divorce really is a blessing in disguise!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by xdamage View Post
    ? now i am curious ?

    it can be an amazingly complex mix of erotic and innocence. So much emotion conveyed though something as simple as two warm, slightly moist palms touching... Some are neutral at best, but outright hate? Any particular reason why?
    No particular reason. It just seems like a PDA to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyril View Post
    No particular reason. It just seems like a PDA to me.
    I guess the Ninjas are also down on the whole PDA thing so ya, better to be safe then sorry.

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    Default Re: holding hands

    I hold hands lightly inside the club ( in " real life" .... I'm very grabby and affectionate so of course I like to hold hands ) . Holding hands is really intimate to me ( but I'm weird about getting a kick out of the non-sexual touches life offers ). When receiving professional massage for example, I sometimes find it odd when the therapist does my hands. Like ... of course they would do my back / legs / butt ect. , but hands are what they would touch first if we were dating or something.

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    I very rarely even hold hands with my SO. I don't like the sweaty palm thing...plus, it just seems so stereotypical. The couple walking down the street holding hands. It can seem like an obligatory gesture to me. I only do it if I'm really feeling it.

    I hold my customers' hands as I lead them to the back room, and I'll hold their hands if I'm trying to keep them from touching me. Otherwise, there aren't really any opportunities for non-awkward hand-holding. He's sitting down, and I'm dancing...so that's hardly conducive to holding his hand. However, if he grabs my hand, I willingly oblige. Peoples' hands can tell you sooo much about the people to whom they're attached.

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    My SO will grab my hand while we're watching TV, etc... I don't mind, but then I feel obliged not to move, so I have to put up with itching, etc... so I don't necessarily love it. There's a height discrepancy as well (6'1" to 5"), so walking hand in hand doesn't work too well.

    ITC, I'll let a stripper grab my hand to lead me to a dance area/VIP, but I'm not necessarily comfortable. I DON'T think I'm handsy beyond the norm (usually get "you're such a gentleman" comments), but I have had girls hold my hands during dances. Maybe I'm not as self-aware (or as much of a gentleman) as I thought...

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    I can see the grabbing by the paw and leading to the VIP ITC, but not any REAL hand holding.

    With a bennie/guy I'm dating, it really is almost obligatory. It's my way of saying "I want to be close to you" and it's very romantic to me in an innocent sort of way.

    It seems the way that I handle contact with the hands (holding, shaking, etc) is a very gentile, ladylike way- unless I'm trying to show that I can be dominant if need be. Then I do the "witch's handshake". Works every time. ^_^
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