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    Mind Blowing how do you handle this??!?

    ok.
    1. When girls out number customers like a 4:1 ratio?
    - I talk to other staff, tell them I am looking for a customer to sit with, but no leads. I made myself look busy, I guess all the girls planned their bathroom breaks so there would always be a girl or two, to one customer!!

    2. Customer that dont speak english, or spanish?

    3. Customer too drunk, too drunk to take advantage of how do you leave?

    4. How to be a bitch to an asshole, that tries to pretend he is not?
    - I have had guys tell me I dont want to be a dancer!! And Im always upbeat and like "OMG are you kidding me I LOVE my job!!?? I get to chat with guys and drink for free, plus I love being sexual!"
    - If guys talk about there kids and they have a stay at home mom, I sometimes talk about my kids a little but I have learned not to so much but. I have had so many guys say that " I know you would rather be at home, you hate working here, blah blah, blah" I say NO I LOVE getting out of the house, plus I dont leave til they go to sleep and I can spend all day with them. I Would never want to be a stay at home mmom because I like to work, and all moms need to socialise- moms are so much different than dads (It really just depends on who takes care of them the most.)

    5. If someone keeps touching you, and your club doesnt really care. Ever one says that try "Please dont touch me there, remember your not supposed to even touch me at all but I will let you touch me Here ( boobs), but if you do it again Ill have to charge/ fine you. "
    But I cant ever get anyone to pay up!! girls say they do it all the time!!??

    6.what about when guys tell you, " you are too smart/ too good to work here?" UGHH I hate this one! " OH I know Im smart, thats why I do work here Im a business owner, and I have unlimited income working here! I love my hours, music, dancing, chatting with great guys."
    THen they try that "Well you cant dance forever" I say "Well ya, thats why I am in college"
    They never give up..
    I guess these are timewasters


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    It sounds like you're responding as best you can to these kinds of questions. I can understand customers being ignorant enough to touch on these subjects...but if they're persisting after you brush off their assumptions, then I'd say they probably are just timewasters. Maybe this isn't a matter of how to deal with such a customer. Maybe it's more a matter of recognizing who's a time waster, and finding ways to spend your time with the better clientelle. When they persist in such questioning, I'd say it's time to deflect, as you've been doing ("are you kidding? I love my job!) then quickly pop the question. If they don't bite, get away from them before they eat up anymore time! (just say "Ok! It's been nice chatting, but I should really get back to work!") Then walk off.
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    If someone is being rude to me and I know that he's obviously not going to buy a dance, I just get up and walk away. If he starts asking me a bunch of personal questions I leave as well and tell him that I have a job to do and it's not talking about my life. I won't start an argument with someone that is upsetting me. It's easier to just avoid it and try to get dances from someone else.

    The only time I ever get into conversations with customers is after they have bought multiple dances from me and we are just casually talking in the VIP room. Usually these guys aren't rude or stupid.

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    Any guy asking such prying questions is a waste of time and or has stalker potential! Guys go to a stripclub to have fun and see some tna, really not a place to have intellectual "what will you do with your future conversations" (and seriously, like the random custie really cares about your future/life/etc or is concerned about what you will do later in life) I would say "do you really care? I am so horny/drunk/whatever I just want to drag you off for a lapdance!!!!" If that doesnt work then they are not worth the effort. This type are just trying to get a reaction out of you and waste your time. Usually desperate for attention or broke, they will do whatever it takes to get your attention. I am not saying u cannot have a decent conversation with all of these guys, but these timewasters want a response from you wether it is good, bad or you get upset, they just want a response and reaction. Like bullies, if left ignored they shut up quick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NREXM View Post
    If someone is being rude to me and I know that he's obviously not going to buy a dance, I just get up and walk away. If he starts asking me a bunch of personal questions I leave as well and tell him that I have a job to do and it's not talking about my life. I won't start an argument with someone that is upsetting me. It's easier to just avoid it and try to get dances from someone else.

    The only time I ever get into conversations with customers is after they have bought multiple dances from me and we are just casually talking in the VIP room. Usually these guys aren't rude or stupid.
    ALWAYS remember, you can take all the time in the world to tell them abot your "life" and all the pretty little white lies u want to make up, after you get their MONEY!!! If they want to get to know the "real you" they should prove worthy of it with their wallet! Tell them before you get too emotionally attached you should make sure you are physically attracted first lol!

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    as far as the talking, if you work somewhere loud just keep saying "What?!?" and say lets go back to the dance room where I can hear you better. Then once your back there talk till the next song starts and be like "while were back here...". I will also put my finger up to their lips and say, "You know what...you did not come here to talk to me, you came here to see tits and I want to go back there and show you mine." Stand up take their hand and start walking. If they won't go...fuck 'em. find another guy.
    If they keep touching you straddle them, look them in the eye like your in control (cause you are) and grab their wrist and place them over their head crossed like your handcuffing them. Or get on your knees, slide your hand up their chest and grab them around the throat and push their head back by their jaw bone. I get moans from that sometimes (ewww, but you know they like it). I take my open palm and push their chest till they sit back if they keep leaning forward to touch me. Let them know not to fuck with you.

    If they don't speak english or they're wasted just leave them. I don't want someone to hurl on me.

    As far as the ratio problem. I stalk the hell out of the guy I want and waste no time as soon as someone walks away. Hell I ran up behind someone last night to beat 2 girls out that are always super aggressive. It was funny as hell and he had no idea. I figure whoever gets thier hand on his arm or shoulder first wins this game lol.

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    ^ wow i think you're my hero. great advice!

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    added my answers below

    1. When girls out number customers like a 4:1 ratio?
    Talk to the bartender or hang out in back, but I NEVER look upset.... I always try to smile or whatnot.

    2. Customer that dont speak english, or spanish?
    Smile and walk away after I try to talk for a little bit..... Even if my spanish sucks. Lots of head bobbing and smiling

    3. Customer too drunk, too drunk to take advantage of how do you leave? Sorry honey I have to go to the bathroom!

    4. How to be a bitch to an asshole, that tries to pretend he is not? Smile, roll my eyes, and walk away. They aren't worth my energy.

    5. If someone keeps touching you, and your club doesnt really care. "Well, I'm not every girl.... Don't you deserve a classy girl? Do you really want someone that everyone else has had a chance to do that to?"

    6.what about when guys tell you, " you are too smart/ too good to work here?" UGHH I hate this one! "Hahah this is why this is my fun job! I work full time, and go to school.... There's just some times a girl wants to break out and be naughty, and let's face it - i write my panties off on my taxes, AND i have no student debt!"

    THen they try that "Well you cant dance forever" "Lol I know, but why not have fun while I can? I don't have to dance, I like it! And let's face it, who doesn't like a little extra spending money!"

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    I really liked number 6 thats a good one..


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    Quote Originally Posted by callista View Post

    6.what about when guys tell you, " you are too smart/ too good to work here?" UGHH I hate this one! "Hahah this is why this is my fun job! I work full time, and go to school.... There's just some times a girl wants to break out and be naughty, and let's face it - i write my panties off on my taxes, AND i have no student debt!"

    THen they try that "Well you cant dance forever" "Lol I know, but why not have fun while I can? I don't have to dance, I like it! And let's face it, who doesn't like a little extra spending money!"
    Dude, that's almost exactly what I say when I get the second statement!

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    1. When girls out number customers like a 4:1 ratio?
    I walk around, chat with other girls here and there.. but never stay in one place for long. Basically I try to look like I don't care that it's slow, even if it's driving me nuts.

    2. Customer that dont speak english?
    Honestly? Unless they are flat out throwing money at me, I don't bother.

    3.Customer too drunk, too drunk to take advantage of how do you leave?
    If they are THAT drunk, I just walk away. It's not like they'll remember, lol.

    4.How to be a bitch to an asshole, that tries to pretend he is not?
    I just smile and say "wow" or "really?", maybe laugh, and walk away. It lets them know how I feel without making it seem like they really "got to me". The last thing in the world I want is for guys like that to think they "won" by upsetting me.

    5. If someone keeps touching you, and your club doesnt really care?
    I subtly move their hand/whatever the first time. USUALLY this "gives them the hint" without me actually saying anything. If it doesn't work and they do it again I say something still fairly nice explaining that they can't do that. If the even so much as attempt it again, dance is over. This is, of course, in MOST cases. There are some cases (like trying to lick me or trying to flat out grab my crotch) when the first try is the last.

    6.what about when guys tell you, " you are too smart/ too good to work here?"
    I say "that's funny because you seem too smart to follow the 'all strippers are dumb/dysfunctiona' stereotype." or "your surprise indicates that you have a very low opinion of strippers to begin with". <--- I didn't use to use these, but quite frankly, I'm a bitter cunt these days.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    6.what about when guys tell you, " you are too smart/ too good to work here?"
    I say "that's funny because you seem too smart to follow the 'all strippers are dumb/dysfunctiona' stereotype." or "your surprise indicates that you have a very low opinion of strippers to begin with". <--- I didn't use to use these, but quite frankly, I'm a bitter cunt these days.
    Ha! I've totally used that first line! It tends to make guys laugh and usually spend money.

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    ^Yeah, I've started to notice that the more sarcastic and blatant I am, the more guys are spending. Fucking figures.

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    I've noticed that too! You turn up the smart assery, and the wallets open up wider..... I don't get it, but i like it! Helps get the aggression out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    It sounds like you're responding as best you can to these kinds of questions. I can understand customers being ignorant enough to touch on these subjects...but if they're persisting after you brush off their assumptions, then I'd say they probably are just timewasters. Maybe this isn't a matter of how to deal with such a customer. Maybe it's more a matter of recognizing who's a time waster, and finding ways to spend your time with the better clientelle. When they persist in such questioning, I'd say it's time to deflect, as you've been doing ("are you kidding? I love my job!) then quickly pop the question. If they don't bite, get away from them before they eat up anymore time! (just say "Ok! It's been nice chatting, but I should really get back to work!") Then walk off.
    Quote Originally Posted by NREXM View Post
    If someone is being rude to me and I know that he's obviously not going to buy a dance, I just get up and walk away. If he starts asking me a bunch of personal questions I leave as well and tell him that I have a job to do and it's not talking about my life. I won't start an argument with someone that is upsetting me. It's easier to just avoid it and try to get dances from someone else.

    The only time I ever get into conversations with customers is after they have bought multiple dances from me and we are just casually talking in the VIP room. Usually these guys aren't rude or stupid.
    Agreed with both of these.

    There is no reason to waste time answering useless questions. Your positive response (are you kidding? I love my job!) is perfect, and a great lead-in for a sale. Example: "Are you kidding? I love being a stripper! Let me show you!" as you gesture toward the VIP or lapdance room. Vary that to suit your specific needs, but I'm sure you get the idea.

    If the guy doesn't bite, time to move on. Never waste time trying to persuade a guy who's already indicated he's not interested. It's far better to spend that time working on someone else who may be interested. Also, spending too much time with an uninterested customer only leads to more frustration for you. Save your mood: move on


    I too use a lot of smartass responses and wisecracks, and it does work a whole lot of the time. I still won't waste any time after I get a no, but the smartass stuff turns a lot of guys who started out with a negative attitude into a sale

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    It's the classic "maybe if I say something meaningful to this airhead stripper she'll get her life on track and get out of this tragic lifestyle...my amazingly original comments to her should spur her into action to get off all the drugs and do something meaningful with her life...like work in an office building like I do and get my balls crushed everyday by a douchebag manager while living a life similar to that of Ron Livingston in the movie Officespace that almost drove him bonkers."

    Sheesh.

    Of course we all know the truth...If you describe what we do to anyone else without telling them what the job actually is, it's what everyone wants or wishes they had...freedom to come and go, flexible schedules, unlimited days off, Holiday's off (if you wish), music while you work, unlimited income potential, a plethora of tax write offs, the ability to pack up and travel while still being able to earn money in almost any city in the USA (if not the world), etc etc. Silly guys...that stuff gets old REAL quick...lol. Smile and nod, just smile and nod... :-)

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