
Originally Posted by
Elvia
Sorry this is kind of long, but any advice would be MUCH appreciated.
Before I ever started dancing, I worked as a Dominatrix for a couple years (real time, no phone or other distance stuff). I gave it up and went into dancing when the only public dungeon rental space in my town shut down, and I decided I wasn't devoted enough to the business to invest in building my own space.
Fast forward three years later- I'm getting a little bored with dancing, and getting back into pro BDSM is starting to sound like fun again. Plus, dancing seems to be taking a toll on my feet, and it's making me wonder if my days in the SC are numbered. So, I've started fantasizing about having my own little distance domme business.
Here's the thing- even when I was doing real time, my approach was a little different than many dommes. I chose my clients selectively. Before I would take on anyone as a client, I would require an in person interview, which I would charge for. In addition to weeding out time wasters and being a great security protocol, it's main benefit was that I really got a sense of who the client was before I started sessioning with them. I would take about an hour to interview them, find out what they were interested in, what their past BDSM experiences were, what things they might be interested in experimenting with, etc. In short, I would just interview them and get a sense of who they were before we ever entered into a Dom/sub dynamic. After the interview, I would go home and look over my notes, brainstorm and just generally get a feel for how the first session would go. My clients consistently said that this was one of the things they liked most about me, that I took the time to really get a feel for who they were as a sub, and that it often led to the best first session they'd had with a pro, and the best ongoing pro experience overall.
Here's my question- is it impossible to adapt this approach for a Distance Dominatrix business? It seems that most distance dommes get their clients when they call them directly through Keen, and I'm assuming most of the clients want to get right down to "playtime" then and there. That sounds really taxing and stressful to me. I guess you could say I like to "plan my attack." And I want to be able to get a feel for who's contacting me before I decide to play with them.
I haven't checked out distance domina sites in years. But when I did, I noticed a lot of Dominas had a survey form for potential clients to fill out, and required a financial tribute be sent along with it (to weed out timewasters, I'm guessing). Is this still a viable way of getting distance clients? And if so, how do I market myself and bring traffic to my site if I'm not just going to be instantly available for immediate play on niteflirt? (I will use niteflirt, but would rather set up appointments ahead of time with clients I've talked to through email first and know I'm compatible with).
I really appreciate any help or feedback. This has been a dream for awhile now, and these concerns are all that's held me back.
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