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    I've been lurking on SW to learn as much as I can before I start dancing and be prepared, and so far it's been SO helpful and the people all seem so nice.

    I'm worried about being the "new girl" though and wonder what it will be like at the club. I know girls can be catty and I'm pretty drama free so I'm a little worried about it. I've read a little about how some girls in clubs haze new girls and was just wondering if anyone had dealt with this dancing at new clubs and tips on how to deal with it.

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    I just started 2 weeks ago at a club in London and I have to say all the girls have been really nice. Was quite suprised and went prepared for the worst but it didn't happen!

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    The best advice is to go to a club and try it out. You can't try to come up with answers to problems that don't excist yet. Take it as it comes.

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    It depends on a number of factors, namely the size of the club. If you are brand new I recommend starting at a smaller sized club as the girls will be more willing to help you out and you will be fresh meat to the reggies. If you go to a mega club with no experienxce you may get lost in the shuffle!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    It depends on a number of factors, namely the size of the club. If you are brand new I recommend starting at a smaller sized club as the girls will be more willing to help you out and you will be fresh meat to the reggies. If you go to a mega club with no experienxce you may get lost in the shuffle!
    I agree with this. Also, keep your head down, do your job, be nice to everyone and, especially if you're drama free, you really shouldn't have a problem.
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    Thanks everyone, I was thinking I'd probably do better to start at a smaller club too just until I know more and it will seem less scary to dance starting off for me. That way if I look ridiculous it will be (maybe?) less embarrassing

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    I've never been hazed. Mostly, I try to stay out of everyone's way, and i am not overly chummy with the dancers, either. We're all there to make money, not friends.

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    Just go in and keep to yourself. I don't mean "ignore everyone"... be polite and cordial by all means. If someone is snarky to you, just ignore it. You might make friends eventually, but let it happen naturally. You'll find that some girls are very helpful and nice... but I'd be wary of anyone who is OVERLY friendly to the point of following you around and whatnot. There are certain girls who "use" new girls, not at every club of course, but it happens. There's also a few total cunts here and there who will try to knock you down. Most of us though, are just there to do our job and (no offense) won't really notice you much unless you start cutting throats. Don't mistake quietness for bitchiness. We're just used to seeing oodles of new girls come and go.. so most of us are just oblivious to it anymore. I probably don't really start talking to a girl unless she's been there for weeks... and even then maybe not.

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    I've never been hazed. I'm just super friendly to everyone and wait a bit to see how cut throat girls are with hustling at the crowd. If someone needs a tampon or is dying for a cigarette or needs to fix her hair but doesn't have a curling iron I offer up. Once girls see you're a nice person, they can trust you not to steal their customers and their shit, they'll warm up to you. Fuck the ones who don't.

    I like to think of it this way. If a girl comes into my club that is a good hustler and hot, I'm going to be a bit rude and cattier to her than I would be to a girl who doesn't know hot to hustle and is pretty homely looking because I don't want that first girl to steal my customers and walk out with $ that could be mine. SO take some of the cattiness and rudeness as a compliment.

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    No. Everyone will ignore you most likely.

    I created this free presentation about what to expect your first week.

    I'm too lazy to type it all out....
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    Thanks for the help everyone!

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    No. Everyone will ignore you most likely.

    I created this free presentation about what to expect your first week.

    I'm too lazy to type it all out....
    EXCELLENT ADVICE!!!!
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    I was never hazed. I really have only had one encounter with a less than pleasant girl. And I've yet to see a 'cat fight'. Overall I think that most everyone just minds their own business and eventually you come to something that brings you and another girl together as friends. But don't expect it right away. And honestly, I have a couple friends at work but unless we're working a group together I have NO clue where my friends are or what they're doing when we're on the floor. I'm there to work...I'll talk in the dressing room or after work.

    Best bet though, being friends with the waitresses would be a better idea. In my club, it's a "you scratch my back I'll scratch your's" and who better to share that with than a waitress?

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    Honestly, just shut up. Be polite, don't step on anyones toes. It's the girls that come to the club thinking, i'm not going to take anyone's shit that usually will get harassed. most girls will ignore you, but if you're being loud and boisterous, it'll only cause negative attention. within 2 weeks everyone will forget you're the new girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by audrey_k View Post
    I've never been hazed. I'm just super friendly to everyone and wait a bit to see how cut throat girls are with hustling at the crowd. If someone needs a tampon or is dying for a cigarette or needs to fix her hair but doesn't have a curling iron I offer up. Once girls see you're a nice person, they can trust you not to steal their customers and their shit, they'll warm up to you. Fuck the ones who don't.
    Same here. When I started I always had granola bars, baby wipes, extra garters and a straightening iron and lots of other things like that and was always gracious (but cautious) with my stuff. It makes a nice impression when a girl is sitting in the DR complaining about how starving she is and how she's too broke to buy food and you pull out a granola bar or offer her some of your fries. I don't do it to be phony or ass-kissing - I really do wanna see my co-workers feeling satisfied or help out someone who left their garter at home.

    When a dancer is wearing a bangin' outfit don't be afraid to comment on how much you like it, again without it being ass-kissing or fake.

    DON'T TALK SHIT ABOUT ANYBODY, TO ANYBODY!!! Even if a really nice girl you wanna make friends with is talking shit about a "mean/nasty/ugly/dirty/drunk" girl, whatever, DO NOT ENGAGE IN IT. It WILL get back to them somehow, and it makes you look bad to the other girls or to any customer who overhears, and in turn makes your club look bad. If you are known as the quiet, smart, good girl who doesn't ever say a mean thing about anyone, you will get respect and will never be wrongfully accused of doing things or get "hated on".

    One time a girl thought I was talking shit about her (I wasn't of course- it was a case of mistaken identity), and another girl immediately jumped in and defended me, saying that she didn't think I could ever say such things. It's because they know that I'm quiet and just come in and do my job usually and if I do talk to the other girls it's not about someone else.

    I've known girls who ruined their reputation in the club by talking shit about a popular girl, and believe me if enough girls hate you enough they can make your shifts miserable.

    If you need to rant and get shit off your chest about such-and-such girl do it OUTSIDE the club to loved ones or others who do not work there, or anonymously online!

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