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    So I got hired at Delilahs in Philly. The only problem is that when I told my boyfriend he totally flipped shit and basically said that if I'm going to dance, he can't be with me. The problem is that he has dated strippers in the past and feels that it becomes a complete lifestyle and is degrading. I try to explain that it's a little different considering I am almost 25 years old, and the girls he's talking about has gotten into the industry at a really young age and were all drug addicts to boot.

    So, he said he's be okay (though not entirely) with me being a waitress or a shot girl, but....Delilah's is not currently hiring for these position. Besides, I really want to dance.

    Any advice??

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    Default Re: What should I do...

    Bargain with him. Tell him to let you try it for two months, and if it becomes an issue than you will quit.
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    Default Re: What should I do...

    I wrote a really long blogpost about Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders in relationships a few months ago. Here is the link.

    The big question for the SuperStripper: are you willing to sacrifice your income, livelihood, and lifestyle for someone who assumes your relationship is temporary?


    p.s. Delilah's is AWESOME! I may be back in a few weeks!
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    Default Re: What should I do...

    ^^^ Yep, and the nice thing about that "trial period" of two months is that it lets her decide what she really wants for herself. That way if he doesn't like it, but she really does - she can tell him to get lost.
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    Default Re: What should I do...

    I agree...a trial period is FAIR.

    And it also depends a whole lot on your relationship with the boyfriend: do you live together? Does he pay your bills? How long have you been together? How committed is he?

    When I first started dancing, my boyfriend FLIPPED DICK and we basically broke up. I stood my ground, it was something that I wanted, and needed, to do for myself. After the summer, he came crawling back. We never really discussed my dancing from then on. Ummm...and we still ended up breaking up in the long run. Ha.

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    Default Re: What should I do...

    Well, as of now I've decided to give the topic a little time to cool off, but have my mind set on being in there by mid-August.

    A little background on my situation:

    We lived together as room mates (for 6 months) before we started dating (will be two years in August). He absolutely does not pay any of my bills, but contributes a small amount towards rent. He does, however, help out a lot with my 6-year-old son.

    I'm a studio artist with legitimate gallery representation and plan on attending grad school in the fall of 2010. With the art market in such an awful state, this has obviously not proven very lucrative for me, despite frequent exhibitions.

    I've wanted to dance for years and I've obviously given it a lot of thought. My plan is to save as much as possible for the time I will be in the graduate program. One of the upsides to dancing is the flexibility, which will still allow for ample studio time and time with my son.

    I pretty much have my mind made up, especially since this is something that I have very seriously debated for over a year now. I am thinking about using the next month to study up in Hustle Hut and possibly try out DancersWealth.

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    ^^^ I'd suggest starting with DancerWealth. Some things in HH have to be taken with a grain of salt.
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    Default Re: What should I do...

    Why have you decided to wait?

    If I were you I would work a couple nights a week for the next month, maybe even one. Dancerwealth is definitely worth the purchase (I was skeptical, but it teaches you way more than just how to "hustle") but I don't think I could have appreciated the tips if I hadn't worked a bit.

    As for your boyfriend, his concerns are legitimate but not everyone is the same. I would say go with the trial period and discuss exactly what he is afraid of so you can make some ground rules.

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