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    Ok, so I call the manager at one of the clubs I filled out an application at last week & confirmed our meeting for this afternoon. He was totally nice on the phone & said basically I will have an interview, then have an audition.

    Sooo...I spend 2 hours getting ready & making sure I look as hot as I can, & drive 20 mins to his club. I walk in & the door girl was super nice, then there was a guy standing talking to her & he goes.."oh wow dammmm" (lol) when i walk in. They asked me what I was applying for & I said dancer, the guy goes "oh your hired for sure!" "you will make good money here" "i'll front you $10,000 right now" (LMFAO!)....so I'm standing there like ok i got this in the bag, i already have a customer & i'm not even in the actual club part yet.

    Ok, so the manager guy comes out & he looks me up & down once, then proceeds to say "I'm not holding open auditions right now & I don't think you are what we are looking for".....WTF?!?!?

    Then the front girl, the guy, & myself all just got quiet & I'm like um ok thanks, and walked out. How embarrassing!

    I am SUPER discouraged right now because obviously something about me turned the manager off, he didn't even give me any reasoning or nothin. And the worst part is that I know that club hires pretty much anyone (so I thought).

    I left there wondering WTF just happened in there? And why didn't I even get an audition, he didn't even give me a dam chance.

    So I drive to the other club I applied at last week & walked in there, the bartender wasn't friendly, BUT the manager came up to me & I made sure she got my app last week. She told me to come back between 7-10 any night & tell them I am there to audition.

    Now this club (I heard) is more particular about who they hire & i was sure she was just gonna tell me they aren't hiring.

    So this is so f 'in wierd, the sure-fire club that I thought would be cake to get into shot me right down & the more particular club seemed to kinda like me.

    I'm confused & really discouraged. I know it's only one refusal, but it struck me by surprise, especially since I was wayyyyy better looking then the door girl ( I thought).

    Any advice??? Has anyone ever called back a manger that refused you & asked why you didn't get hired? Cuz that is what I want to do soooo bad....it's just bugging me & irritating the shit outta me.

    Sorry so long & boring but had to get off my chest...hoping you guys have some input on this....Thx
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    what does looking better than door girl have to do with anything? are you applying to be a door girl?

    you think too much. go somewhere else where they will hire you

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    I dunno, I just figured if they would hire her, then they would hire me. That's all.

    If anyone here are door girls, please don't take offense to what I said.

    She looked like she just rolled out of bed, & came in. Not very pretty & no curves. Once I saw that, I was like hell yeah i'm definately in. Was wrong though.
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    It's a tough business hon, you can't assume anything. You'll find a place.
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    Thanks for the input. I'm kinda over it now. F that place. The only thing I wouldve liked to ask what exactly about my look did you dislike that much to reject me right there?

    O well, tommarrow I'm headed to a couple more clubs...maybe more dive bars that I was trying to avoid but just to get experience.
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    BTW I love your stage name, but maybe I'm partial.

    I've been shut down at Tootsies and went to Gold Rush the same day, so fuck them, if that's u in ur avatar than u shouldn't have a prob.
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    Lovvveeeeee the name Gia!!!!!

    I realized at trying to get a dancing job, fuck the ones that don't what ya cuz the one down the road might love ya....such an odd biz

    Yeah thats my avatar, gotta find a club soon, i'm totally determined to find that club that will say 'yes' to me. I won't rest til I get it.
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    Just for curiosity sake, what ethnicity are you?? A lot of black girls have trouble getting hired as do other minorities at some clubs. Girls don't usually get turned down unless they are heavier and/or black. Especially if they already told you over the phone that they were hiring. If the club has a black qouta or only hires really skinny chicks then thats the breaks. I don't know if you fit this criteria, just wondering.
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    Im caucasion & Im not a super skinny girl at all. I have curves...im not heavy at all but I do have a lil xtra mid/bottom areas. No biggie...doesn't about everybody? lol Maybe he was looking for stick figures....who the hell knows....

    Well guess I'll have to find a dive bar just so I can get dancing, making money, & getting in better physical shape.
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    Default Re: Rejected & totally cofused now..Sry LONG

    Ain't no shame in working a dive bar. I've worked dives and super swank gentlemen's clubs, and I like the dive bars better in a lot of ways.

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    If you're overanalyzing that much about the manager you're gonna have a tough time dealing with customer rejections.

    It could be anything. Maybe he just got dumped by his fiance and you reminded him of her or the owner called to yell at him because they were down for dances so he's in a bad mood or some girl just threw a diva fit in his office and now he's pissed at women in general. Or they were really busy and he didn't want to have to deal with an audition and he just hired dancers earlier that day. Or he just doesn't like girls with blonde hair or brown hair or whatever color hair you have. A lot of managers hire girls a lot of the time based on whether they would want to buy dances from them or f*** them, maybe you weren't his type.

    A lot of guys are going to reject you and give you no reason why (they rarely do). You might not have pushed one of his hot buttons (am loving dancerwealth!) but he might also just not be into you physically. I've had guys tell me I have a perfect body, that I look like a little boy or a coke head, and that I need to tone my stomach and legs because they're flabby. You can't let other people's opinions about how you look get to you because you are going to get all sorts of good and bad. And you can't try and analyze why you got rejected because you're going to spend the whole night in the bathroom crying and wondering what's wrong with you. Guys are retarded and don't even know why they're rejecting a girl half the time, but they do like ALL types. You will find many who will think you are a goddess, just focus on them and tell the others to fuck off because they don't know what they're missing.
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    Ok, so I went to another club....heard that they hire almost anybody. It's a gown club so that was new for me. I have talked to the manager there several times & he told me to come audition between 4 & 6, then start working immediately if hired. So I'm walking in very optimistic (again), & I asked the security guy for the manager, & he's kinda giving me a hard time...saying well i doubt we are hiring, we just hired like 20 new girls last week (WTF!!)...blah blah bullshit bullshit....BUT i'll give u an app anyways. He said he'd go try to find the manager & never came back.

    I filled out the app & stood there for fuckin 20 minutes looking like an idiot. The security guy didn't come back, nor did the manager come out.

    So, finally I said fuck this & walked out. I'm getting a bit tired of the same shit. I'm gonna try another club this weekend. I feel like I must be giving off a bad first impression.

    WTF is wrong with me? Maybe I'm not meant to dance, who the fuck knows....blah.
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    What do you say to the guy when you go up?

    I never ask, are you hiring? I just state, "I want to audition. Is the manager here?"

    I have never had a problem. Just be confident, smile. And if the doorman is giving you a hard time, say you want to speak to the manager. Doormen like to pretend they are managers when they are not.... they are doormen. So ignore them. If he's still cockblocking you from going to the manager, walk out and call up the manager from you cell.

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    I walked up to the guy & just said 'I'm here to audition. Manager X told me to come during this time'.

    Then he started giving me bullshit about how they just hired a bizilion girls & blah blah.

    I'm thinking in my head, yeah f'in right dude, go get the f'n manager.

    Then after standing there for awhile, I just felt completely embarrassed & left. Ugh....
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    Seems like you are a bit new from what u said above. Maybe the manager did not hire you due to lack of experience. In these tough times people want experienced dancers, they make more money for the club. Get some expreience under your belt and don't give up. if at first you dont succeed try and try again

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohiogirl26 View Post
    Im caucasion & Im not a super skinny girl at all. I have curves...im not heavy at all but I do have a lil xtra mid/bottom areas. No biggie...doesn't about everybody? lol Maybe he was looking for stick figures....who the hell knows....

    Well guess I'll have to find a dive bar just so I can get dancing, making money, & getting in better physical shape.
    Without seeing a photo, maybe you are too heavy for those clubs. I'm not big, but I've been rejected for being too heavy. Weight a lot of times has to do with where you are big. I've noticed in general women with bigger butts/boobs tend to have an easier time than those with flabby bellies, cellulite, etc.

    Dives aren't always that bad. I've worked in a few dives, and I found I tend to like them better. Not as much hustling, and a great place to learn tricks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohiogirl26 View Post
    Well guess I'll have to find a dive bar just so I can get dancing, making money, & getting in better physical shape.
    I love my dive bar. Sometimes they get a worse rap than they deserve. There's nothing wrong with working in the right dive.
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    Maybe you're getting TOO done up for the places you're going. If they "hire anybody" maybe the club isn't that great. The manager may be thinking "why hire this girl if she's going to quit after an hour." Or maybe if you are waaay hotter that the girls he already has, he's concerned they will all get pissed off. I think you're selling yourself short; you should audition at the freakin' top club in your area and see what happens. Seriously, try it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Without seeing a photo, maybe you are too heavy for those clubs. I'm not big, but I've been rejected for being too heavy. Weight a lot of times has to do with where you are big. I've noticed in general women with bigger butts/boobs tend to have an easier time than those with flabby bellies, cellulite, etc.

    Dives aren't always that bad. I've worked in a few dives, and I found I tend to like them better. Not as much hustling, and a great place to learn tricks.

    I am starting to think my weight has someting to do with it. For being 5'9", I am a little over what my "ideal/healthy" weight would be, but not much. I get a ton of attention OTC from men, so I never once thought I was to heavy to get a job ITC.
    I don't know what to think really, I just want to find a place & get dancing....I'm getting impatient & frustrated.
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    Don't give up!
    If it's your dream to dance then keep trying
    Apply everywhere, and even if you end up at a shitty dive, do your best and get your name known! Make those other managers sorry they passed you by >

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohiogirl26 View Post
    I am starting to think my weight has someting to do with it. For being 5'9", I am a little over what my "ideal/healthy" weight would be, but not much. I get a ton of attention OTC from men, so I never once thought I was to heavy to get a job ITC.
    I don't know what to think really, I just want to find a place & get dancing....I'm getting impatient & frustrated.
    Hard to say, but yes that could be a problem. I've had that problem and I was never large. I never understood when clubs would reject me for that reason because I always had guys hit on me in clubs (including strip clubs). I remember one club I got several dollars in tips on the audition, along with a few guys who wanted to buy dances from me. I was so sure I got the job until the manager told me to come back after I lost 10 pounds. I never bothered because I knew I wasn't large, but I saw the girls and they were all tiny there. If the girls at the clubs were tiny where you went that might be the reason. Places do reject based on weight often. That's not to say you can't dance, but you might have to lower your standards for now. You might have to try a dive and you might like them better.

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    Dives, depending, can be OK...Pretty decent to start in too.

    I'm not a skinny ass girl, and I find that it doesn’t matter too much if you have the personality and the confidence. I know that i will always bag older men, black men...because they are more into curves and curvy woman.

    Anyways...i know two girls who are in some ways bigger than me and they make way more money than i do. One is because she is supper friendly, and the other has gorgeous long hair and wears her weight well. This is at a pretty decent club too.

    Men like woman. Men like real woman. But unfortunately some managers think they know what all men want. Sadly at times they can be mistaken.

    Let us know how it goes. Don’t give up.

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    Ok, another poster mentions maybe if there was a photo to look at, you guys could tell me wtf is wrong....be harsh on me, I can take it. I want to know exactly what to change.

    I already changed my hair color from dark to platinum blond (avator pic).

    Look at the attached current photo of me, so you can actually see my body.

    I date stamp on the pic is wrong, I just took it last week, so it's a new pic!!


    Let me know. what I can to improve & to make it in this wild world
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    Do you mean the avatar photo? If so, I think you are very pretty. Since you mentioned you were previously a brunette, maybe you look better as that. I'm not saying that would work (and you look good as a blonde), but who knows.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Do you mean the avatar photo? If so, I think you are very pretty. Since you mentioned you were previously a brunette, maybe you look better as that. I'm not saying that would work (and you look good as a blonde), but who knows.


    No didn't mean avatar. I tried to post photos in that reply but it didn't work.

    I re-posted again & my photos are on there. Brunette vs. Blond
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