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    What is the difference between stalking and snooping and curiosity and interest? When does one bleed into the other? Does it purely depend on who is doing it?

    If someone knows your name and punches it into google, is that stalking? What about if he looks at your myspace or facebook without being "friended"? What about driving by where you live?

    What if it's a guy you met and possibly like? Or, would you look up a guy in this way? Better yet, have you?

    I purposely put this here instead of Customer Conversation because I want it to be a general question and not a "customer" question. I have a feeling the knee-jerk reaction of most pinks here would be that any customer trying to find any IRL info about me is automatically a psycho stalker.

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    ^^ the normal way to find out more about a person is to ask them about his or her self.

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    It becomes stalking when it is behavior that makes they person being stalked get nervous.

    I wrote a while back about my experience with a stalker so don't want to tell the whole story again. This guy actually had A FRIEND OF HIS park outside of my apartment sometimes to "watch". How sick is that????


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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    ^^ the normal way to find out more about a person is to ask them about his or her self.

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    Actually, I would completely disagree with that, esp when you are not in daily proximity with the person.

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    If you have to ask, it's stalking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    It becomes stalking when it is behavior that makes they person being stalked get nervous.
    Well that is completely subjective, I was more looking for opinions on what activities constitute stalking, vs. which do not.

    For example I would 100% say sending a friend to park outside your house counts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Perry View Post
    If you have to ask, it's stalking.
    Sigh. Still not helpful, now it's subjective the other way. Some people will think NOTHING they do is stalking, do you really want that standard?

    I am looking for actual opinions on specific activities.

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    I imagine the laws/definitions will vary state to state. This is Canadian, and the list isn't exhaustive:

    http://www.communitysafety.utoronto....definition.htm
    What is Stalking/Criminal Harassment?


    Criminal Harassment - sometimes called "stalking"- is any form of harassment that causes the person being harassed to have a reasonable fear for his or her safety.


    Stalking includes:

    -repeated phone calls, phone messages, or emails that annoy or threaten the individual
    -sending the individual unwanted things
    -following the individual, or his/her friends, family, or anyone else close to them
    -taking the individual’s mail
    -showing up uninvited at work or home
    -trying to get private information about the individual from other people
    -entering the individual’s home
    -vandalism
    -harming pets
    -threats or assaults
    -kidnapping, holding hostage

    Stalking can escalate – at first it may be annoying and harassing, but it may become frightening and cause concern for personal safety.



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    My state's watered downs version: at least 3 documented instances in which the victim fears they are in immediate danger of physical harm or sexual assault.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    What is the difference between stalking and snooping and curiosity and interest? When does one bleed into the other? Does it purely depend on who is doing it?

    If someone knows your name and punches it into google, is that stalking? What about if he looks at your myspace or facebook without being "friended"? What about driving by where you live?

    What if it's a guy you met and possibly like? Or, would you look up a guy in this way? Better yet, have you?

    I purposely put this here instead of Customer Conversation because I want it to be a general question and not a "customer" question. I have a feeling the knee-jerk reaction of most pinks here would be that any customer trying to find any IRL info about me is automatically a psycho stalker.
    Goggling isn't stalking, now if they buy all your information it turns to the beginner creep.
    Everyone looks at your pubic profile without being a friend, its cause it public.. Now if they hacked into your private profile its a form of stealing that can lead to stalking.
    If you don't know this person and their driving by your house looking at it yes that is stalking.
    Guy or girl you shouldn't hide in the shadows watching this person, learning about them thru other means than walking up and saying hi..

    I have been stalked, Sadly more than once.. If you really want to know someone just talk if they don't seem interested walk away from there, don't push or make it that you would see them the next day.

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    Eh. This is subjective. I look at people's Myspace etc. if I'm interested, just to see if they are single and to get ideas for a topic of conversation when I get the nerve to approach them. I would feel fine with someone looking at my page, thats why its not private. However, once you start doing things that might violate someone's privacy,or screw up their lives, that becomes stalking. For instace, an ex once started messaging all the guys on my friends list (thats fun to try to expain, by the way). Also, it does depend on who's doing it. I've had guys tell me I can stalk them, cause they like me. I personally think its lame when guys do it to me, but I understand the impulse.

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