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    Default Custie has me a bit confused......

    I'm wondering if the guys, or girls can help me with this as it's kind of bugging me.

    There's this custie, that's been in to see me about 3 times this past week or so, and he's given me a decent amount of money each time. We always go back to the LD room and sit there and talk. He doesn't really want me to dance, just wants to chat......I'm certainly not complaining, lol.

    So this is what bothered me. The second time he came in to see me, he told me that he was married(not what was bothering me) And I told him the same thing, as I just can't lie when asked this question. So we spent a little bit talking about our spouses, lol. Odd I know. And he told me that in the time that he's been with his wife, he's been happy with her. Which I thought was great, because they've been together a long time.

    So fast forward to last night. He came in again, and after he left, a few of the girls and I were in the dressing room, just BS'ing about whatever, when the custie came into the conversation. One of the girls used to do dances with him, and she told me that when she went back with him, he used to say that he had a miserable marriage, and he never had sex with his wife.

    So this is where I'm bugged. I mean why tell two us two totally different things? What could he possibly gain from it? And he has said to me that he is a pretty up front guy, so I'm a bit confused.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    Frist, do you trust the other dancer is telling the truth?

    Secondly, I dunno, could be a number of reasons. Perhaps he feels that since you and him are still new to each other that telling you the truth might make you wonder about his intentions with you. Perhaps his telling the other dancer got a negative reaction which is why he no longer gets dancers from her. Perhaps when you said you're marriage was good, he wanted to have some level of common experience to share (maybe the other dancer told him her relationship sucked.) Perhaps he's just taking advantage of the idea that SC's allow for both sides of the tip rail to roll play a fantasy life. Could be something else entirely. Who really knows but him.

    IMHO is if he bahaves himself and keeps coming into spend money on you no big deal right?
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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    I think guys just have as much fun as dancers do pretending to be something they aren't. I love having a stage name and I will lie about details to fit the customers desired image and have some fun with it.

    One guy came in and told me his name was Ron. He told another dancer his name was Charlie. This was in the SAME night and I was about two feet away from him when he introduced himself to her! If you want to have a customer name fine, but maybe stick with one for the night?

    Like verfolgung said perhaps he wanted to feel like he fit in better with you and so said his marriage was good, or perhaps the other dancer said something about her boyfriend being an ass and he didn't want to make her feel bad by saying he had a wonderful wife. Or maybe he thought he had an opportunity to get the other dancer OTC but had fucked up and mentioned he was married, so tried to fix it... and he doesn't see a possiblity of getting you OTC.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    If he's been in the SC 3 times to see you in one week then I doubt that he's happily married.

    I would take what customers say to you with a grain of salt, a lot of customers like to BS.

    I know people don't like to be lied to but this is in a SC environment. Besides, he's a customer, who cares what BS comes out of his mouth, as long as he's paying you for your time.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    Why would a guy spend money to go to a SC and tell a dancer what a great marriage he has?

    Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't... that's immaterial... The real objective here is to build rapport with you... He wants you to trust him and feel comfortable around him... Maybe he just wants you to like him and nothing else... or maybe he has other motives...

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    out of curiosity, are you hoping to make him a regular? if so, do you like your regulars to be straight shooters because maybe you are too?...im just wondering why this is important to you.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    It's also entirely possible that he was telling the truth both times. I know people that can be slightly dramatic and when they're going through a tough spot you'd think they were in the worst relationship ever, but when things get better they get some perspective and realize that things are actually pretty good. Or as others have said he could be playing around. Or he said something that the other dancer misinterpreted.

    In the end it doesn't matter. If you want to keep him as a customer then playing along with whatever story he wants to tell isn't that big a deal.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    You guys are right, it's not really a big deal. I mean he is coming in and spending his money.

    Dreamer, I've never had a regular before, I was kind of hoping to try it out, lol. I guess maybe I was expecting way too much. I've always been an honest and up front person, even in work. But I do, of course know what to say, and what not to say. Maybe I need someone to give me a crash course in having a regular, lol.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    Quote Originally Posted by Vodka Keeps Me Sane View Post
    Dreamer, I've never had a regular before, I was kind of hoping to try it out, lol. I guess maybe I was expecting way too much. I've always been an honest and up front person, even in work. But I do, of course know what to say, and what not to say. Maybe I need someone to give me a crash course in having a regular, lol.
    <-- wishes he was in Jersey to be Vodka's regular, lol.

    thats cool that you're upfront. some guys dont really like all the stripper fantasy stuff and appreciate a straight shooter.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    No happily married man goes into a SC. He's full of shit. But hey as long as you are getting money from him who cares if he's happily married or not, or whether he is lying or not. The whole industry is a front anyways.

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    Default Re: Custie has me a bit confused......

    No happily married man goes into a SC.
    Not true AT ALL, just so ya' know.

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