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    Okay, so I'm working at a new club and I have already made a few regulars. So last night my regular came in asking a girl for me so the girl comes and gets me commenting on my custy

    "He is soooooooo gorgeous! blah blah blah....."

    But I was like w/e, I don't see him like that..... by the end of the night my customer leaves and texts me saying...

    It was good seeing you tonight and I'll see you tomorrow.... is ****** working as well?



    I told the other girls in the dr about it and they said that it wasn't cool of him to do that since he came to the club forME.

    Anyways fast forward.

    Tonight I'm with him again and the same girl unfortunately was working too with me and sat with him first even though I TALKEDwith her about it. He tips me well and everything onstage but then later on he asks if he could get a dance from me then switches it to,

    "Could I get a 3-4-$30 with ******* first then I'll go with you.... is that okay?"

    I didn't want to be a bitch about a 3-4-$30 so I said go ahead. In the meantimeI go to the dr, change my outfit, talk on my cellphone chatting up two conversations with different people, talked with some of the girls then went back on the floor. It must of been a GOOD 20 minutes.

    I couldn't find them.

    So I texted him saying where he was and no response.
    Then one of the girls came up to me to tell me that she saw them still in there when she gave a lp to someone.
    10 minutes later they were still in there while I was waiting for him.
    I'm furious.

    So I'm like fuck it, I'm up onstage again.

    Once I get off the stage ******* tells me that he left while I was onstage. He didn't even say goodbye.

    WHAT THE FUCK.


    I spent a good hour with him and NOTHING FROM HIM.
    They probably did a good 15 or more dances....
    He responded to my text JUST RIGHT NOW saying he went to get something to eat...

    BULLSHIT.


    I'm still pissed but sort of over it........

    Should I be mad at that girl?
    Him?
    Or both?

    UGH!

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    To be honest if it was me yes I'd be pissed but its up to him to 'choose who he wants' so to speak.

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    maybe they found something more special than a customer/dancer relationship. You can't blame him for being swayed by someone who finds him attractive and obviously sees him as MORE than just a customer...

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    Fuck him. Obviously he's not worth your time anymore.

    Unless she knew he specifically came in there for you, don't be mad at her - it's his fault.

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    Lady Xplicit18, I'm sorry you're in a bad mood. *hugs*

    I hate when my $$$ is interrupted as well. Something similar happened to me, but while my co-worker was collecting dollar bills and twenties from my ex-regular, I met (and banked) on a new (and one of my all time favorite) regulars! The usual couple hundred meant nothing when I had a few grand in my hands... and I didn't have to compromise my integrity or piss anybody off to make it. Bad things happen so we can better appreciate the good.

    Hang in there - your AWESOME day is coming soon!

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    It sucks but you can't really be mad at her and he does have a choice. Tough luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by callista View Post
    Fuck him. Obviously he's not worth your time anymore.

    Unless she knew he specifically came in there for you, don't be mad at her - it's his fault.

    True true.
    I'm not mad at her.
    Most of the girls in the dr were telling me I shouldn't talk with her anymore but w/e.
    He was lame anyways.
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    its an open market when he wanted you she came and found you, he can choose which girl he wants, when he hands her money do you expect her to say 'no no go to lady explicit!' no beause its a competition just because he's spent money on you before doesnt mean hes obliged to everytime even if he likes another dancer more, he asked before if she was in so i would say he was telling you he would be back and warning you it was more to see her in a very polite way, he probably already knew she was working, then you text him and nag him like your his wife! x

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    Quote Originally Posted by cashing in View Post
    he probably already knew she was working, then you text him and nag him like your his wife! x
    uhm.... not really....
    The man was gone for almost an hour and I specifically came to work for him.
    So.... not exactly.....
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    You shouldn't be mad at neither of them. She was working, did her job, got the money. Customers don't "belong" to anyone. They are the CLUB's customers. He can choose who he will be giving his money to. I can't believe you even went and told everyone in the dressing room about it (you said most of the girls said you should ignore the girl)

    Drama in the making.
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    I would be pissed at him, but only because you came in to work just for him. Respond to his text and tell him you are sorry, but you can't come in just to see him anymore if he is going to vanish on you, but will be happy to see him on your regular days. Be nice and upbeat, not naggy, his response will let you know if he just wanted a little variety that night, or if he is gone as a reg.
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    why get so mad over this? he's a consumer and allowed to make whatever decisions he wishes in regards to which dancer he wants. he actually tried to be polite about it...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Xplicit18 View Post
    uhm.... not really....
    The man was gone for almost an hour and I specifically came to work for him.
    So.... not exactly.....
    Please write on this post if you'll be giving useful advice like Callista or minalynx......
    gone for almost an hour! wow!
    that was useful!you just want advice you like! men come in for no strings attached fun not to be texted asking where they are and what they were doing, leave him alone, let him have his fun wih the girl he chooses!

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    All regulars have a shelf life, some longer than others, but eventually you either marry the guy or he moves on. Ultimately, you have little control over how long the sales relationship lasts, but can simply enjoy it while it does.

    Personally I hated regular customers and would purposely work at clubs that attracted tourists and bachelor parties for that very reason. I wasn't in the business of developing fake relationships and found regulars to be too high maintenance for my tastes. There also seemed to be the law of diminishing returns at work in the financial relationship with a regular customer. He felt entitled to more attention for less $$ per hour the longer he had been coming in, and I felt that possibly a raise in income might be deserved due to my consistent service and attitude. Eventually he or I decide that the amount of money just isn't worth it and we move on to greener pastures.

    If you are able to maintain a regular customer for a year, you are beating the odds. Generally 3-6 months is the maximum.


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    I WOULD say something to her. You don't have to be nasty or loud about it, but just tell tell her that you did not appreciate her stealing a customer from you that you informed her was your regular and that you would hope that she would treat you the same way she hopes to be treated. That is always a good line to use in any situation.

    While it was rude of him, that is the way customers are. I've had guys promise me (I usually make them pinkie swear, haha) that they will come in tomorrow at x time. I think about 2 of the 20 have actually shown up. And while I wouldn't skip something important unless the custy had a track record of keeping to his word, I have left something early to get to work earlier, or on a night I wasn't planning on going in, only to be strip-club-stood-up. I've also had customers promise me a dance later or a VIP, only to see them go off with another dancer never to return. So really you can never count on a customer and shouldn't take it personally or seriously. I would have gone and hustled another custy, and glanced around to make sure that he hadn't returned and was looking for me.

    However the girl is another story. She knew he was your regular and stealing other people's regulars is fucked. What goes around comes around.

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    You can't steal anybody's regulars!!!! Who came up with this line???!?!?!

    He is a clubs customer, not someones property..! holy cheezus...

    If he was so exclusively into you, he wouldnt get dances from others. But he HAS THE RIGHT TO COME TO THE CLUB FOR VARIETY... the girl has the same opportunities as you to make her money. You have no right to "talk to her" about avoiding a custy. If someone would say that to me I would laugh and say "I don't answer to anyone and will make money MY way".. thank you very much.

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    It's a dog eat dog world. You really can't be mad at anyone. Step up your game, and maybe he'll choose you next time...or move on and make your money elsewhere. Can't put all your eggs in one basket.

    I can't think of any other cliches, but you get the point.

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    I'd say cut your losses honey and move on. There's really no sense in being pissed at either of them. Besides he's a liar anyway and who wants to be associated with that? Bad karma fucks up ones hustle.
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    Customers come and go. I sometimes see some of my regulars going back for dances with other girls for one reason or another. Guys get bored of the same girl over and over again especially if the relationship stays the same. I have no interest in anything more than a dancer/customer relationship so I end up losing customers in the long run and gaining other girls customers.

    I don't see it as a reason to complain. You'll find someone new eventually. Customers don't "belong" to you so there is no reason to blame the dancer he favors or him for his choices.

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    I agree with Paris that most regulars have a shelf life. It's ignorant to try to stake claims on a customer. The best you can do is treat them really well and NOT make it easy for them to communicate with you via phone. You contributed to spoiling the fantasy for him (via texting) and now he's found a new fantasy. Live, learn, and move on. Next time he comes in you will know better than to waste your time with him. In the mean time every time he comes in you should tell him you are going to go get the other girl for him, and let her know that when the time is right your expect her to return the favor. The only "band-aid" to this is knowing that eventually he'll probably dump her as an ATF as well because she's so into him that she's more likely to see him OTC for free or give him her phone # - i.e. she'll spoil the fantasy as well.
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    I don't see a problem using the texting to set up appointments, and I don't think it's fair to assume the other girl is "doing more." Paris, Carly, Kylea and everyone else who said he has the right to choose who he gets dances from are correct.

    Question: did you specifically tell him that you were only going to come into work for him when you were setting up the appointment? or when he asked if you were working friday did you just txt back "yes" and decide to work that night.

    When setting up appointments, you have to play a little hard to get. Then make him feel special that you changed your plans JUST for him.

    Regulars do have a shelf life...and it depends on how often you see them. I've had one for 5 years, but he only comes to town twice a year.
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    ^^ I agree that he has the right to choose whoever he wants, but if he told her he was gonna do a dance with her and then didnt she can be annoyed about it.
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    I agree with some of the above posters. It's a sucky and irritating situation, but it happens, and there's not much you can do about it. As was said, regulars come and go. I would, however, avoid that girl if at all possible. Just go about your business and try not to associate with her unless you absolutely have to. I'm not saying she shouldn't have done the dances if he wanted her... but I feel like she could have gone about it in a better way. You don't have to confront her about it or whatever, just choose not to work with her.

    Also, I'd take the "high road" when he comes in next. Be polite with him, say hi, etc... but find ways to excuse yourself and go work the room. Don't let on for a second that you're upset at all by what he did. If he brings it up just be like "Oh, I don't mind, I'm glad you had a good time!". My reason? Because he either did it because

    A. he didn't realize it would bother you or that he was doing anything wrong.. in which case it does no good to make him feel bad about it.. even if you want to.

    B. did it because he WANTS to play games/make you jealous/etc... in which case it is VERY IMPORTANT that you do not allow him to think he "won". You being all upset about it is just going to swell his ego.

    either way, IMO, you are better off letting it go.
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    I can't even stand to read your post because of all the different text sizes and colors.

    Ok, I read it. One of the hardest parts of this business you must accept is that the customers are going to buy what they want to buy. You can't control him by saying "He came to the club for MEEEEE". The business is cut throat, so the girl just out-hustled you or he liked you better. Move onto a different customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CarlyMIA View Post
    You shouldn't be mad at neither of them. She was working, did her job, got the money. Customers don't "belong" to anyone. They are the CLUB's customers. He can choose who he will be giving his money to. I can't believe you even went and told everyone in the dressing room about it (you said most of the girls said you should ignore the girl)

    Drama in the making.

    i agree. i even kind of think you're kind of wrong in the situation. well but that's only my opinion because all my stripping career giving out numbers to customers is a no-no. but i totally respect and don't judge people who do.

    To me, you sound like the girl who's been working for less than a month and claims that every guy that dances with her more than once is her regular. we always laugh at this girl.

    you said you're new, how long has he been your regular. i usually don't consider someone my regular unless he consistently (probably more than 5-10 times comes in and dances with me, and only me. he doesn't sound like your regular.

    and honestly i think if i was dancing with him, and knew you were texting him knowingly that he was with me. i probably would have came out the dancing room and gave you hell. that's rude. don't mess with people's money. she didn't do anything wrong but maybe out-hustle you. and that's your fault.

    he's the club's customer. even if you text him or whatever and made plans to see eachother. once he's in the club, it's fairgrounds. i'll dance with anyone's regular if they want to dance with me (with exceptions of girls i like, and girls who will cause so much drama that the moneys not worth it).

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