i live in a small 1 br apt. the rent is cheap and i really dont need any help paying my bills. my bf, who just recently got a job, works 2-3 days a week and sleeps/hangs out at my house, but still mostly lives at home. is ht wrong to ask for money?

i live in a small 1 br apt. the rent is cheap and i really dont need any help paying my bills. my bf, who just recently got a job, works 2-3 days a week and sleeps/hangs out at my house, but still mostly lives at home. is ht wrong to ask for money?
Yes, it's wrong. Unless he is calling your house his primary residence (is on the lease, receives mail there, has bills in his name at that address etc.), then asking him for money when you don't need it sounds like you don't like him enough to just enjoy his company.
If you feel like he is there more than you want him to be, just tell him to go home.
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I'd just make him chip in for groceries if he's constantly raiding the fridge.

thanks ladies. i wasnt sure. he had offered to help pay, but i didnt take him up on his offer. this month im a little short, thats what i left out. lol


How much is he hanging out there? Is he sleeping over more often than not? Showering there? Is he hanging out there when you are not?
I think the answers to these questions will tell you whether he is your guest(in which case you were right not to accept anything) Or whether its kind of his secondary pad.(in which case, I wouldnt feel too bad about accepting his offer)
If he is eating your food then he should at least help pay for groceries. Also he could help you by cleaning the bathroom, men are such slobs.




...it does not matter if he is staying with you are not.
BF = help you out as much as possible when you ask/really need it.
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Especially if you are short this month, he needs to help out.
Maybe you guys need to talk about how you can split up chores, etc...OR he can pay a bill there or something...
If he's sleeping & hanging out there, then he should be helping you out instead of running back to his parents house.
Just my 2 cents
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Money is not everything. When we die, we cannot take money with us.
So, the question you need to ask is this, is it worth ruining your love relation with your boy friend over money?




But she can take the boyfriend with her when she dies?








That depends. Were you trying to say that the dude should be buried alive with her?









I dunno how long have you guys been dating>? If you need a little help, it's better to ask for it than to be late on the rent but like Paris said, if he doesn't actually live there then don't ask him to pay 1/2 the rent every month!!! Drop some hints and see if he offers, if not just ask. As far as the groceries go I'd expect him to help with that weekly.
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