Hi,
I've been a member of these boards for about 3 years. I'm not really known here for I kept my activity down to an observer status while chirping in here and there. 'I remember a few years ago i came to this message board because I was curious about dancing. I'm still young and feel as if i'm already a veteran stripper in my own right. Of course I have nothing on the girls who have made careers out of this and have been working for 10 years+. But for the girls who aren't trying to make it a career (the dance through college or just to make some money), I feel as if I've been through it all.
There are times when I felt as if I could do this forever. There are times I cried and wanted to die. In the long run do I regret it? No. My only regret is not taking advantage of it fully while I had my 3 year run.
I started at a club with about 50-70 girls a weekend night. I walked in there at 19 years old, 90 lbs, flat, bra and underwear, tomboy, and definitely naive. Within 6 months I was one of the top girls. I did a complete physical transformation. Purposely gained about 30 lbs, got some curves, bought some boobs, went blonde, tan, and just became stripperfied. But I didn't realize that I was changing on the inside. After a year it was starting to lose it glam. I was still making money but it was getting harder with all the new girls. I was getting tired. Jaded, didn't want to go out there and even try to hustle. Lapping was boring. So a few of the girls turned me to prescription drugs. I started using painkillers to make it more fun. It was fun. But the habit increased and started to not be fun anymore. Long story short, i sobered up...went back to work and realized I can't do this anymore. Not sober at least. Being there was a trigger for me. I just didn't enjoy it anymore. So I'm done. You will not see a, I"M COMING BACK! thread unless I ever am homeless or have kids and they're starving. This I know more than anything else right now.
So what's the point of this thread? I just wanted to share my experience of being in the industry and offer you young buck's my own personal farewell advice. Please take it as you will, but just know being a dancer has affected my life tremendously and I only want the best for you.
Don't forget who you are. Try to separate your own persona with your dancer persona. I worked a lot and started only hanging out with my clique from work. Therefore I was always my dancer persona, which is like the real more, but more amped up, catty, bitchy, scandalous, and wild. And don't say maybe you're just a bitch, but becoming a dancer can make turn you into a mean, greedy, selfish person. I know this. I was "stripper", super stripper. Lived and breathe it. yeah it's cool when you can hustle other things in life like a free oil change, or flirting your way outta a cab ride..etc. But when it comes to hurting other people to get what you want, or sacrificing your morals to get what you want, please don't. It's not worth the emptiness you'll feel inside when you get it. My views of the world changed, the way I act change, my morals, ethics. I hope you guys are stronger than me and dont succumb to the temptations that surround being a stripper.
If you need to do drugs or be drunk to be a stripper, you're not cut out to be a stripper. If you can't do it sober, then don't do it. Not saying for those girls who drink at work. But if you need to drink or do drugs because you know you wouldn't be able to make it through the day, dancing is not for you.
SAVE YOUR MONEY! SAVE YOUR MONEY! SAVE YOUR MONEY!
Yeah I became one of the top girls quick, but it's always going to be a decline in earnings as time goes by. I am leaving this club with 0 dollars to my name. I didn't save when I was doing good because I had the, oh i'll just buy it and make the money back at work. Well soon you do that for everything you want to buy, and soon you can't start making all the money back. My biggest regret is that I didn't save. I so fucking bad wanted to leave the industry with at least 6 figures in my savings account so I could laugh at everyone who talked shit about me being a dancer while I retired at age 35. Nope, lotta the money I made went to drugs and partying. I'm not even going to lie. Nothing to show for it but a pair of boobs, a room full of clothes and junk, and a whole lotta issues.
If you don't want to do it, don't.
If you do want to, do it.
You're beautiful no matter what anyone says. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It's a JOB, not party time every night.
If you're tired, keep going. There's always more money to make.
Try to stay out of club politics. My group was very cliquey. we got our way with management. Picked on new girls and got them fired if we didn't like them. We were just mean and nasty. You may feel like you're untouchable, can do whatever you want, are the queen of the club...but you're not. For every one of you they fire, they can hire 5 more not so great girls to make up the money that the club would lose when losing you. You are replaceable.
Have fun.
Don't feel loyal to just one club if you're not happy. I stayed at my first and only club for 3 years. I was unhappy probably half the time. I KNOW I could have made more if I went to other clubs but felt a sense of loyalty to my manager, my friends, everyone. But trust me. There is no reason to feel loyal. The main reason they don't want you to goto other clubs is pretty much that's less money for them. thats it. Don't let mgmt treat you like crap. You don't work in some 1970's, pimp-n-ho, back alley, type of environment. You have rights.
Don't lose touch with your real life. All my friends became strippers, bouncers, and just other people involved in the industry. I could relate to them, I could network and get further through them, they understood how annoying it was to sit and listen to "normal" people's problems cuz they seemed so minute compared to yours.. I pretty much lost my social life. You leave a club and ofcourse you'll keep in touch, but not really. You've lost touch with your real life friends because you pretty much pushed them away. It's weird. It's like you got to start over again when you quit dancing. Rejoin society? I don't know lol.
Okay, I guess that's enough. There's enough great advice all over these boards. I think dancing offered great opportunities for me. I just didn't take them all and got lost in the glitz and glam of the industry. What's next for xfatrabbitx? Well, i'm not entirely leaving the industry. I know yeah yeah. But hey, the job market is tough. I have half a degree, no experience in anything, and a 3 year gap in my resume for my work history. So I applied for a waitress position at an upscale club and already know in my heart I'm done dancing. I just knew the only place that I could get a job, no bullshit, hired on the spot for looks, and making money quick was a strip club. So i'll take baby steps, finish my degree, and then figure my next move there. I'm so sad to leave this part of my life, but so happy at the same time. Thanks for everything girls. and Good luck to all you newbies.



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