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    Default Despondent in London

    Apologies in advance if this comes out as a big splurge (it most likely will!) but I have to get it out somewhere and figured you have all been there/seen it/done it/doing it.

    I've been working in London for 3 weeks and finding it extremely difficult. I can't work out if its me, do I not look right? am I not working/hustling hard enough? or is it the club, the City, the economy...........

    Is it me? well I'm obviously very new so that could be it? Will I get better, am I not reading what people want from me ie the ones who want a decent conversation or the ones that want a tarty conversation?
    My 'look' is unique in the club as I don't wear fake tan, lots and lots of make up, my hair is naturally long blond and straight, I'm very slim with big boobs and a lot of the guys tell me I'm beautiful and have a killer body BUT would I appeal to more of them if I tarted up more?

    Are my lap dances not good enough? I've had a few multiples so they can't be bad and the first one I ever did the guy asked for 2nd so thats a good sign............unless they are after extras girls, then they are going to be sorely disappointed.

    Do I work/hustle hard enough? I make a point of approaching every guy that doesn't have a girl glued to him and constantly work the room providing its not dead and there are people in there.

    It frustrates me that the dirty girls I know do extras are making loads, one of them told me she made 900 on friday night. well I made 300 and that was my best night so far.

    Should I get another job along side stripping? I don't want to as I love this when it works but I have bills to pay, debts to pay off and live on my own so I need to make money. I feel like a lazy cow sat at home tonight and not working in the club but as its Thursday there will be over 50 girls in tonight and the house fee is the highest tonight all week and I'm scared of not making the house fee. (the club will be making over 4k just in house fees tonight) On Tuesday I broke even, literally made my house fee and petrol money there were 30 of us on and no one did very well and last night I did 6 dances which means after house fee I made 60. God knows how as some of the more experienced girls only did one and went home in minuses. One said she made 200 and although I try not to compare to the other girls too much it proves to me some people in there had money to spend, right?

    The veteran girls are saying its shit at the moment but they are still making what I think is ok, I asked one of them if she thought 300/400 per night 3 or 4 nights per week was realistic and she said totally. I hope I am being realistic- am I?? Some customers bang on about how we all make 1000 a night but I know thats crap, I hope I'm not being greedy or naive.

    Am wondering if I ought to go to the coast for the summer but I also wonder if every other stripper in london who is having a hard time of it is going to do the same thing.

    Thank you to anyone who made it to the bottom of this loooong post!

    Any comments/advice/observations/kicks up the bum gratefully receieved!

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    Default Re: Despondent in London

    There is a buttload of English girls working in my club here in Australia. The interesting thing is that although our club has always had 1 or 2 inexperinced backpackers trying to make some money before heading off to their next destination, this year we have had 10-15 EXPERIENCED dancers flying over here specifically to work in the club. They all say it's impossible to make money back home that's why they've flown halfway across the world to dance.
    Going by that it sounds like you are doing pretty well considering.

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    Default Re: Despondent in London

    It's not you it's London!
    Being a rookie in London at the moment must kill!
    I'd say try Spearmint Rhino in Norwich or Bournemouth a Friday and Saturday and you'll def make more than 300 if you work and look the way you say!

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    Default Re: Despondent in London

    I think eye makeup really will help. Your natural beauty will still shine through- it's just that with low lighting and stage lighting you can look very plain without it. I know have naturally long lashes and a pretty face but I always wear false lashes and makeup becausecompared to girls much less attractive than me, I will always fade out if they have makeup on and i dont.

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    Default Re: Despondent in London

    I think the main thing for you is lack of experience and confidence. It's hard making money everywhere, but it is much much harder when you are new and not the most confident.

    I haven't danced in London for a few years, but I have been around and believe me, it is difficult everywhere, even for the very experienced girls. Don't think there's anything wrong with you; it is simply a hard time for everyone.

    The experience part will come if you don't give up. Keep trying, and as you get better you will automatically gain more confidence.

    Another thing I notice from your post is that you mention how much other girls are making a few times. Do not concern yourself with what anyone else is doing or making at work. Concentrate on your own hustle, literally forget the other girls, and you will begin to do better.

    As for the extras girls, don't be so sure that girl who made 900 is an extras girl. Actually, don't assume anyone is, unless you personally witness it. This goes along with what I said about concentrating on your own game, but really, if you are busy worrying what some other girl may or may not be doing for her money then you can't focus on your own goals.

    It is extremely frustrating to go to work night after night and see other girls making money while you make crap; I understand. But rather than focus on that negativity, make yourself focus on finding your own customers and figuring out how to sell them.

    Also, thinking positive helps. Rather than go to work thinking about how much money you need for bills, just think about how much more fun it is to be a stripper than a secretary or whatever. Do whatever it takes mentally to get yourself in a good mood for work and keep working at it all night, and don't even stop to think about numbers. Trust me, when you feel desperate, you project that to customers and that is a huge turn-off. When you're in a good mood, you project that, and it draws more customers

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    Default Re: Despondent in London

    ive been working with lots of chicks from london..they say its hard to make money there. not that the clubs are dead but that the custies are hard (cheap) and very picky which is a hard combo.

    All the girls ive danced w/ from london have came back from multiple bookings. The curvy ones say the really do less well than the thin girls in london.

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