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    Default BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    I had my first shift last night and I am super sore and discouraged this morning. Throughout the night I only sold 4 dances in a 7 hour shift which is totally depressing for me. Granted I've never danced before so I'm not sure what I'm doing but if my house hadn't been free I would have ended up owing them money

    I was surprised I got hired because all the girls looked like barbie dolls but that manager said he hired because I am different...I'm petite and curvier with dark hair. He said he gets Latin guys coming in all the time asking where the normal looking girls are and that they have money to spend. I think though part of my problem is that I don't look like cheerleader barbie because I think the guys at this club are sort of looking for that. I also have bright red hair and a nose ring and tattoos so I have a very distinct look about me...I zeroed in on the one guy in audience with tattoos and piercings and he ended up buying a dance from me for his friend but all the other guys were getting dances from the tall blonde girls.

    I would go sit down and talk to a guy and then have him turn me down for a dance, then five minutes later see him heading to the dance room with another girl. Im sure their hustle was better than mine but I just don't know what to do. I'm still sort of awkward asking for dances from anyone and I was having a harder time approaching people as the night went on. Does that get better and easier with time?

    I'm not even sure if I can hack it as a dancer because after I gave my first few dances I just felt weird about it. Maybe it's something I need to get used to so I can separate myself from the act of rubbing my naked body all over some old guy I don't know but I thought it would be a lot easier than it was.

    My next shift isn't until Tuesday so I guess I have some time to decide if I want to go back or not. The management was really helpful and told me to come back because it will get better once I figure out how to hustle but I don't know if I'll ever get good at this. I'm also wondering if I should try to go to a club with a bigger variety of girls and that might increase my chances of being appealing to more men...although I've heard a lot of girls say guys don't always buy dances from girls that are the most attractive to them, it's all about how they hustle.

    Any tips? I want to be good at this and make money but I'm sore and discouraged and sad.

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    Read the hustle hut. The girls here have great tips and it takes a little time learn the art of hustling. I had a pretty depressing first week to tell you the truth, but I have hope that it will get better. Hang in there!

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    You always want to stand out. Standing out is good. And keep in mind: lots of people aren't making shit because the economy sucks. Last Saturday, I don't think I broke $100.

    To a certain extent, it's true that being attractive doesn't close the deal. Every once in awhile, you'll have a guy approach you for a dance, but if you're the one who is approaching them, you can't skate by on your looks.

    I highly recommend DancerWealth, aka Strip and Grow Rich. There's a thread for it in Hustle Hut, and there's the website http://www.stripandgrowrich.com.

    A lot of time it just takes perseverance. It took a few months of stripping before I really had it down and saw a significant increase in earnings.

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    Hun, my first night sucked too! I only made $76 and that was because house was free, and I only got 2-3 dances, the first one of which I accidentally knee-ed a guy right in the face. I couldn't believe he even paid me at the end!

    But really hun, you pick it up as you go along, the more you're there, the more you'll realize that you deserve to be paid and that these guys are lucky to get a dance from you, not the other way around. Also, I really understand what you mean with what you said about, guys say no to you then 30 seconds later they head for a private dance with someone else. That drives me INSANE but it's just part of the job I think! *hug*


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    i only sold 1 table dance and 1 lapdance on my first night. Took home $40 (would've been $20 if I'd had to pay house fee). Nowadays (3 months later) on good nights I average that amount every HOUR that I work.

    I've always been super shy and awkward, with tattoos and a stutter.
    Believe me it gets easier with time!

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    first you say its your look but leter you describe how it must be the way you sell, which an be improved and will do anyway with the amount of time you put in x

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    You'll get better with time. Since your different from everyone else you just have to work abit harder at first, sometimes people don't want to waste on the new girl. My look is different in a sence, people most of the time think I'm some goth type or emo and it freaks them out, I just have to sit down with them for a song, talking to them to show I'm not a sterotype. After a week or so most people will get the picture.

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    It most definitely gets easier. The first week or so was terrifying for me. I was in full-scale panic mode the entire time I was working. You'll also get better with your hustle.

    The blonde Barbies will always have their fans, but lots of guys get bored with that look, especially in a club that is full of them. I rock the barbie look at work and lose dances to girls with a more alternative look or girl next door types all the time. Variety is the spice of life...and men love all different types of attractive women.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    I sucked so bad the WAITRESS had to get on stage to show me what to do and I think I only made $40- $60 a night for like my first three weeks so don't worry about it! You are starting at a really shitty time tough
    XoXo Gia
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    i didn't do any private dances until like my third shift...i was too scared! things will come easier the longer you work. I've been dancing for 8 months and i still break milestones every week. When i first started i would bring my house fee with me to work, cause i was scared of being embarassed if i didn't make house and tip. Hang in there, it will get easier.

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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    Hang in there girlie! I don't think one shift is enough time to decide anything about it. You may be overanalyzing it also, just due to it being your 1st shift. So what if it sucked? Alot of our first shifts sucked, your not alone. Go back on tuesday & knock em dead. DOn't let one shift ruin your motivation or confidence. Give it a few more shifts & see how it goes. Then maybe you will have enough to make a decision to leave or not, ya know?

    How does that saying go? FAKE IT TIL U MAKE IT..........so there ya go!
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    Default Re: BAD 1st night..dont want to go back!!!!

    Thanks girls I feel much better knowing I'm not the only one who had a rough first shift, I though I was a freak and ugly and repulsive toward men or something! I do want to give it another shot but I'm worried that I won't make house fee which is sort of high for us ($140) but I guess I can talk to the manager if I'm having issues. I've been thinking about buying dancerwealth but I don't want to drop the cash on it if I decide dancing really isn't for me. I guess I just need to try to get better at my hustle...

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    Glitterhips,

    Keep your head up. Dancerwealth I'm sure is a wonderful option. ALSO, for the meantime, go to your book store or library and get THINK AND GROW RICH, by Napolean Hill. It it SOOO worth it.

    I remember my first night and I was like..omg..I have no hustle, I don't look like all these barbies. I was ready to be done with it all..and even made excuses for myself the next day to not return...AKA..it was ALL my own fears.

    But girl...remember, every guy like different types. I tell ya what worked for me a lot, was a good ole fashion smile and sweetness. Look like you're having fun and DO have fun. You're in control..you just walk up to them with confidence and be your bubely self. Touch their face, hug them, whatever. Then after a song..say what you want..like lets play, or whatever.

    If you set a goal for yourself..you will try hard to push it. Try for so many dances an hour. See what happens. Be reasonable for yourself since you're just starting..but see what you can do. If you reach your goal, great. If not, you KNOW that you tried your hardest. So then you just go back the next night, ok!

    Biggest thing.. SMILE, SMILE, SMILE!!! I tell ya it works!!! Go get'em girl!

    DQ

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    it will get easier with time, trust me. you will learn how to read customers and drop a few lines. How are you asking them to buy a dance? instead of saying "want me to dance for you now?", try looking at them seductively and say "Ok, I'm ready to get naked for you now" or " lets get me out of this dress" or something to that effect . Hustle hut has a lot of advice on how to sell dances, read through it. A positive attitude and a smile go a long way in this business.

    140 is high for a house fee, especially if you are a beginner. If things dont start looking better, I would either start working at another club at the same time or take leave from your current club to work at a different one. A divier "wanna dance" place with a low house fee and high volume of people is a good way to start and get your confidence. First off, not being the only alternative girl in a group of tall blondes will help you. Second, at a busier divier place dances are often a bit cheaper and therefore easier to sell. This way you can develop your hustle. However, the management where you are at now sounds nice, which goes a long way. I wouldnt burn any bridges there, if you leave i would set it up in a way so you can come back after you develop some skills.

    Also, as a previous alternative girl, I know you dont want to hear this but i would try to normalize your look. Dancing is a great job, but you must treat it like a business if you are serious about it. Your body and your looks are a significant part of your bsuiness, along with your people and sales skills. I used to rock out blue hair and have pale as fuck skin. When i moved to a more upscale club, i ditched the blue hair for black hair and started using sun-labs tanner too look less gothy. I used to make money with blue hair, but it did frighten away a lot of potential custies. There were some who really were into it, but the few who were into it was much less than the majority of hte crowd that i appeal to now. Also, I had to hustle much harder to make what I make now. I know you dont want to hear that you might need to sell out a bit, but thats life. Standing out can be good, but do it in a way that doesnt make you too scary. If you really want to keep being alternative, maybe get rid of the bright red hair and go with a brown or blonde color with maybe red tips or red underneath or something. That way you can still feel like yourself while having a look that the patrons of the club are ok with.

    Also, if you got hired, you are good enough looking to work there. Start believing it and you will make more money .
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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