Ok, this was mentioned in another thread and then my cousin called me hysterical over her hubby's internet activities. So I have to ask...What is up with this?? Is it the new, driving by someones house 10x's a night?
I can't wrap my mind around this phenomenon! Is this as prevalent as it seems? What are people getting out of it? It appears to cause nothing but stress for both parties, and certainly doesn't bring anyone closer together. The worst part is, in many cases it causes jealousy over completely innocent things, which in turn causes people to withdrawl. No one wants someone monitoring their every move! If anyone did that to me, I'd certainly be more than a bit perturbed. I'd hit a whole new level of pissed.
It's pointless anyway. The last time the cuz had a meltdown (this is a semi-regular event) it was over a pic of her hubby and a girl she didn't know...turned out it was a completely innocent picture taken at a bbq at his parents house. So basically lots of drama and stress and a HUGE fight over absolutely nothing.
Why do that to yourself?? Mostly staying away from your partners profile seems to be the logical thing to do, especially if you are the jealous type that is going to wonder and obsess over everything. Am I missing some benefit to this type of behavior? I mean I understand checking if you suspect they are not being honest with you (although I would just ask and observe the reaction first), or even occasionally posting a comment or something, but I hear a lot of girls talk about checking multiple times a week or even multiple times a day. That just seems crazy to me....did I miss the memo that crazy has become the new normal?
What do you guys think of this? How many of you have been the victim/are guilty of this type of behavior? To me it seems to basically be a new form of stalking. Since it is via the internet many people probably percieve it as less threatening and more acceptable and I wonder if this is why it is becoming more common. Thoughts?




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It's kinda scary to think there are that many obsessive, stalker types out there. This has gotten so prevalent sometimes I feel like a freak, like something is wrong with me for NOT being nosier, but I just don't have it in me. I've never had the urge to find out what whoever I'm seeing is doing every second (or my friends for that matter). I'll ask how his day went and he can let me know the important info, our conversations would be nothing but perviness if we already knew all the little day to day happenings.

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