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    Ok, this was mentioned in another thread and then my cousin called me hysterical over her hubby's internet activities. So I have to ask...What is up with this?? Is it the new, driving by someones house 10x's a night?

    I can't wrap my mind around this phenomenon! Is this as prevalent as it seems? What are people getting out of it? It appears to cause nothing but stress for both parties, and certainly doesn't bring anyone closer together. The worst part is, in many cases it causes jealousy over completely innocent things, which in turn causes people to withdrawl. No one wants someone monitoring their every move! If anyone did that to me, I'd certainly be more than a bit perturbed. I'd hit a whole new level of pissed.

    It's pointless anyway. The last time the cuz had a meltdown (this is a semi-regular event) it was over a pic of her hubby and a girl she didn't know...turned out it was a completely innocent picture taken at a bbq at his parents house. So basically lots of drama and stress and a HUGE fight over absolutely nothing.

    Why do that to yourself?? Mostly staying away from your partners profile seems to be the logical thing to do, especially if you are the jealous type that is going to wonder and obsess over everything. Am I missing some benefit to this type of behavior? I mean I understand checking if you suspect they are not being honest with you (although I would just ask and observe the reaction first), or even occasionally posting a comment or something, but I hear a lot of girls talk about checking multiple times a week or even multiple times a day. That just seems crazy to me....did I miss the memo that crazy has become the new normal?

    What do you guys think of this? How many of you have been the victim/are guilty of this type of behavior? To me it seems to basically be a new form of stalking. Since it is via the internet many people probably percieve it as less threatening and more acceptable and I wonder if this is why it is becoming more common. Thoughts?
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    Default Re: Facebook and Myspace stalking??

    Since I am not a jealous person, it is hard for me to answer this completely. There is, imo, for some, a part of the human brain that can not help this type of behavior. The internet has opened up an entire new, completely anonymous avenue to get into ppl's lives and ppl who, for one reason or another would not have acted this way IRL, can now behave in this manner without having to worry about being seen. You don't have to lurk in your lovers backyard at night anymore. Chances are you're on their friends list or a follower of their twitterings and you know where they are, who they are with, and what they are doing 24/7.

    Im more curious as to ppls obsession with keeping everyone up to date (or rather up to the min) on what they're doing. You give the stalker ample opportunity to stalk you and then get scared or angry that your privacy has been violated, or that you have some creepy dude watching your every move.

    I had a myspace page for awhile, but frankly, Im too old for the bs, and I have no time or patience for it. I don't care what my friends are doing, I don't care that some random guy in Louisianna thinks Im "hot", I don't care that so and so broke up last night. The social networking sites cater to the stalkers. That's why they put up mood buttons, and blog pages , and update spaces. It is truly a stalkers paradise and is much more prevalent than I think anyone knows.
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    ^^I'm not a jealous person either, and maybe that is why this is so damn baffling to me. It's kinda scary to think there are that many obsessive, stalker types out there. This has gotten so prevalent sometimes I feel like a freak, like something is wrong with me for NOT being nosier, but I just don't have it in me. I've never had the urge to find out what whoever I'm seeing is doing every second (or my friends for that matter). I'll ask how his day went and he can let me know the important info, our conversations would be nothing but perviness if we already knew all the little day to day happenings.

    From the lack of responses, I'm guessing this is something that most people either think of as normal or haven't came across with much frequency (which I find hard to believe as often as I see/hear about it).

    Jayatee - I totally get you on the feeling to old for the social networking sites. I've got a Myspace acct, but I only sign on to snitch pics from my family, I haven't updated the thing one time. It just bores me.
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    Default Re: Facebook and Myspace stalking??

    Honestly, I'm not a member of any of the social networks (myspace, facebook, twitter), but my opinion is that it simply boils down to: people do it because they can.

    In a way, I can also see it as a two way street. If someone is going to make themselves available on-line 24-7 via their Facebook page, than they can't really blame people for looking at it. If having an on-line profile is going to cause drama, than is it really worth having?
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    Default Re: Facebook and Myspace stalking??

    I tried to create a flickr page and after a few pics lost interest. For my personality it just is not a match but I can see the appeal as well and why some do it.

    People are too trusting, arguably naive even about the extremes to which some humans can go. It can be risky for sure, but chances are it is a waste of time telling them and every new generation of people has to learn it for themselves through personal experience. Especially the exceptionally attractive, and maybe more so females, risk some wacko stalking them online.

    But that said I'm as bad as everyone else. Careless to let details about my personal life slip slowly, but if someone wanted to they could add up the info and maybe guess my true identity. Such is us people.
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