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    I worked my second shift last night...I would have ended up owing them money but my manager was amazing and let me keep all the money I made and even gave me back all the money I paid the club for my dances!

    I'm noticing I am really hesitant to approach guys to a point where I almost feel nauseous before I go up to them. OTC I am very outgoing and talkative and have no problem approaching people so I think it's related to dropping the dance question. Between my two shifts I've only sold 7 dances I know my approach is way too friendly and not nearly "stripper-like" and I need to get better at that but I'm not sure if I'm comfortable being as aggressive as the other girls. I'm normally not a confrontational person and when I get turned down for dances (which happens quite a bit) I want to cry. I know I also need to get better at not taking that rejection so personally.

    Like I said in my last post the majority of the girls at my club are tall blonde and super thin and I look much different...l took out my nose ring and dyed my bright red hair all black but that didn't seem to help me too much. I feel like I want to use being different to my advantage but I still don't know how to do that and make it work for me. I've heard the alternative girls can bank if they do it the right way but I have no clue what the hell I'm doing. It's also kind of a huge hit to my self esteem being around all these skinny girls and sitting on a guys lap while he points to the tall blonde girl across the room and says "no no I want that one"

    Does it get easier to approach guys or is this just not for me? I also notice I only tend to talk to guys I find attractive and I know I need to approach every guy in the room. My housemom also told me I might do better if I lost some weight because people are narrow minded and generally like the skinnier girls...I weigh 115 but I'm tiny and carry my weight in my tummy area so I know I could stand to lose my little belly.

    I know I need to be more aggressive but is it possible to learn that or do you just need to have it naturally? I have no problem approaching people normally but I'm not a very good salesperson and that is making me really anxious. I want to get better at this because I like the club and the girls are friendly but I'm so lost and discouraged at this point, and so much is running through my mind, ugh!

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    I was SO terrified the first few nights of approaching customers. I just sat for the first two hours of my shift and my manager came up to me, frowned and told me "you know you can talk to the customers, right?"

    I was lucky and there were a couple nice older girls who double teamed with me to help start conversations and show me how to talk to customers somewhat. But honestly your fear and desire to make $$$$$$ will overcome your shyness. When you start seeing other girls going into the lap dance booths and your wallet isn't getting any fatter, your motivation to make $$ and not be broke willl push you to talk to customers, and with time you will be comfortable (it took me about 4 days, maybe less).

    The first week is hard. I cried halfway through my first shift and driving home the second and third because I was so depressed about not getting enough dances and being rejected. It gets better and your skin gets thicker. My first night was so bad I was ready to leave halfway through my shift and I still don't know why I stayed or came back the next night, but I'm REALLY glad I did. I've been dancing for 2 months and this guy who rejected me my first night came in a couple days ago. I went to talk to him and he didn't even recognize me and bought some dances off me. You'll get better

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    I would spend less time trying to "perfect" or change your body and more time accepting and loving it. What I've learned from everyone here and from other forums is that self confidence is more important than your actual "look." There are so many different guys in this world with so many different tastes, there might be one coming in this week who will shower you with money because he was dragged there with his friends and the Barbie types aren't his thing.
    Also, if you are being overwhelmed by skinny blonde bimbos (no offense to the majority of skinny blondes, I love you ladies!) then maybe you should look for a different club that caters to more of a variety of girls, or to girls who look more like you. Stay where you are for the moment, and hustle your butt off, but just keep an eye out. Most clubs have girls working as independent contractors, so your boss has no right to get angry at you for working at another club.
    Good luck sweetie!

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    You probably just haven't worked a sales job before. Once you ease in to looking at things as " I need THIS MANY YES responses to make the money I want "....... you won't care how many no's it takes to get there. It ISN'T personal. You are providing a service ( someone is BOUND to like your type and want the service you are selling if you stand out ) .

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    You probably just haven't worked a sales job before. Once you ease in to looking at things as " I need THIS MANY YES responses to make the money I want "....... you won't care how many no's it takes to get there. It ISN'T personal. You are providing a service ( someone is BOUND to like your type and want the service you are selling if you stand out ) .
    Exactly, one night calculate in your mind how many times you asked for a dance, and how many yes's you got. For example: you got 10 yes's out of the 20 times that you asked. Let's say that each dance is $20 - so you made $200. So then you know approximately how many guys you have to talk to if say you want to make $400, $500, $800 (example: you'd have to talk to 40 guys to make $400). It's all math girly, it's easier to think about it this way, that way your feelings don't get hurt if you get a few no's.

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    Stripping will eat you alive if you can't take the rejection. So GET OVER IT! Easier said than done, I know, but with practice, you can learn.

    #1. Think of the club as a party, and you are the host. A proper host would approach everyone right? --- That part helps with the butterflies before you approach someone. If it helps, pretend they are an old friend and not some possibly repulsive dude.

    #2. Have a back-up script and just approach, approach, approach! Sometimes, you just have no clever way to introduce yourself and don't know what to say to people. Have different scripts for when it is busy and when it is slow.
    An example of how I would start things when it was slow: "Hi, I'm Maddy! What is your name? Are you from around here? What do you usually do for fun? --insert a couple questions you know they will answer YES to --- You're ready for me to dance now, right?" (Move your head up and down in a yes motion while asking) It is harder for them to say no when you phrase the question the way I did.

    #3. Just keep doing it over and over. You'll learn what works. Your approach will be more natural and you can start getting into the more advanced sales skills. Most importantly, you'll realize that a lot of guys will say "yes", so you just need to get through the "no" guys to get to them.

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    ^^ classic classic sales techniques...

    assume the close. never give them an opportunity to say no. don't ask if they want you to dance. you don't care about what they want! See if they're ready for their dance; that assumes that they're going to get one.

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    What Girlinterupted said, a bazillion times over!

    I used to work in sales, and that's ALL THIS IS...... sales. You're selling your time, and the opportunity for them to spent it with fabulous you. It's a numbers game.

    I worked a job once that wasn't cold calling, but close. They had a sales exercise where we had to try to get to 100 no's, as fast as we could. Even had a sheet of paper with 100 no's on it to cross out once someone said it.

    Guess what? it's really really really hard to get 100 people to say no to you!!! Keep asking, work on your sales skills, and eventually almost all the people you sit with will say yes to you.

    Most importantly, assume the close. It's easy to close when in your mind you're already having a great time dancing with them.

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    This is not a job of looks or popularity. Your success (or failure) depends on your ability to gain rapport with the customer and close a sale. Like any skill there is a learning curve associated with it. It took me 4 years to figure out much of it on my own (SW didn't come around until the end of my 2nd year)
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