I worked my second shift last night...I would have ended up owing them money but my manager was amazing and let me keep all the money I made and even gave me back all the money I paid the club for my dances!
I'm noticing I am really hesitant to approach guys to a point where I almost feel nauseous before I go up to them. OTC I am very outgoing and talkative and have no problem approaching people so I think it's related to dropping the dance question. Between my two shifts I've only sold 7 dancesI know my approach is way too friendly and not nearly "stripper-like" and I need to get better at that but I'm not sure if I'm comfortable being as aggressive as the other girls. I'm normally not a confrontational person and when I get turned down for dances (which happens quite a bit) I want to cry. I know I also need to get better at not taking that rejection so personally.
Like I said in my last post the majority of the girls at my club are tall blonde and super thin and I look much different...l took out my nose ring and dyed my bright red hair all black but that didn't seem to help me too much. I feel like I want to use being different to my advantage but I still don't know how to do that and make it work for me. I've heard the alternative girls can bank if they do it the right way but I have no clue what the hell I'm doing. It's also kind of a huge hit to my self esteem being around all these skinny girls and sitting on a guys lap while he points to the tall blonde girl across the room and says "no no I want that one"
Does it get easier to approach guys or is this just not for me? I also notice I only tend to talk to guys I find attractive and I know I need to approach every guy in the room. My housemom also told me I might do better if I lost some weight because people are narrow minded and generally like the skinnier girls...I weigh 115 but I'm tiny and carry my weight in my tummy area so I know I could stand to lose my little belly.
I know I need to be more aggressive but is it possible to learn that or do you just need to have it naturally? I have no problem approaching people normally but I'm not a very good salesperson and that is making me really anxious. I want to get better at this because I like the club and the girls are friendly but I'm so lost and discouraged at this point, and so much is running through my mind, ugh!



I know my approach is way too friendly and not nearly "stripper-like" and I need to get better at that but I'm not sure if I'm comfortable being as aggressive as the other girls. I'm normally not a confrontational person and when I get turned down for dances (which happens quite a bit) I want to cry. I know I also need to get better at not taking that rejection so personally.
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