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    What are your thoughts about dating a customer? I know most of them are horrible dating material (i won't even list in what ways), I'm not naive and would never date 99% of them. But i had a customer, who really only came in occasionally, want to date me. I'm really cautious about the whole thing and am taking it really really slow to make sure he's not just interested in a piece of ass. He seems pretty normal, descent job and common interests and respects my choice to take it slow. Does anybody have any helpful advice, can you meet a normal boy in a strip club?

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    Yes you can. I actually met a really cool dude in the club once. He took me out to breakfast the night we met and then we became really good friends. He is a truck driver so he would come see me when he was in town. Ww would go out and kick it.

    He never tried to sleep with me. When he seen I was struggling he offered to move me and my kids to Boston with him but I declined.

    I know some guys you meet in the club are asshole and just looking to bang a hot stripper but some are genuinely nice. Just be smart about it.

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    i totally agree with BLicious. i have, on one occasion, given my phone number out to a guy i met ITC, and we dated for several months.

    just make sure you KNOW he is an okay guy, before you try to get with him. even perfectly nice guys can be creepers. be very careful.

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    I'm marrying my best regular next year.

    It's possible - but you have to be VERY VERY VERY careful.
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    A good friend of mine dated someone who started as a customer for three years (he was a real cool guy) they almost got married, but she wasn't ready yet, which is too bad, because he was nicer/cuter/more successful than the guys she met outside the club after they broke up!
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    I'm of the old school opinion that you should never date customers. Someone in the industry, fine... but not the customers. I've seen it done plenty of times, I've never seen it work. Even the girls that married customers ended up divorced when they cheated.
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    Don't give it up too soon or you just fulfill the stereotype

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    I met my best friend and honestly the man i love in a crappy dive club we were just ment to meet he is one of the best things to ever happen to me. just take it slow

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    If a customer would come to me asking if I would date him, I would definitely say no. With some people you, however, just end up in a situation where starting to be together just feels right even though nobody has consciously tried to get to that point. If you know what I mean. It's a different thing because that way you know the man is not in it just to get the goodies for free.

    Not that I would have any experience but *cough*

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    The best part is that you don't have to tell them what you do for a living. They would be a hypocrite to tell you that you shouldn't be dancing.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    I'm of the old school opinion that you should never date customers. Someone in the industry, fine... but not the customers. I've seen it done plenty of times, I've never seen it work. Even the girls that married customers ended up divorced when they cheated.
    Um in that case you should never date anyone period. It is very rare that a girl doesnt get cheated on after being with someone in a while. It's not just customers who cheat...Isn't it 50 percent of marriages that end in divorce? And probably a good 40 percent just put up with the cheating. It is very rare to find a man who doesn't cheat, period.

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    I haven't seen it work out in the long term, but if you are in it just for fun go for it. If you are looking for long-term, marriage and the works, I would suggest against it.
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    I wish you the best!

    ... but if it doesn't work out, be prepared to see him in the club getting dances from other girls, hearing about how much he spent/what big ticket items he bought them, and/or dating one (or all) of your co-workers... all very possible, yet awkward scenarios!

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    I am on the mindset to never, ever date customers. I do think that some of the guys that visit clubs are good guys just there for fun, but I would avoid dating them unless we just clicked.

    Very, very rarely, I do believe you meet people in places you would never consider looking that you are just incredibly compatible with. Would I walk away from that? Nope. I'm old enough to realize how rare that kinda thing is.
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    I've dated 2 customers in the past 6 years I've been dancing. One turned out just to be lust on both parts... RIDICULOUSLY Gorgeous and to be honest.. I was probably hooked on the cawk. haha

    The second one came years later (last year) am still dating him now. Couldn't ask for a better more supportive man that gives me 'pep talks' to crack me up at work when I need a perk to get out on the floor.
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    I'm REALLY amazed how many strippers I've worked with who have met their boyfriends in a strip club.
    You know. I'll say. MAYBE. If you met someone that you REALLY cliked with... then... MAYBE. and it's a big maybe... I could understand doing it.

    But I never would.
    To me... it's seeing your customer outside of work... and that's just not okay.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    I'm REALLY amazed how many strippers I've worked with who have met their boyfriends in a strip club.
    You know. I'll say. MAYBE. If you met someone that you REALLY cliked with... then... MAYBE. and it's a big maybe... I could understand doing it.

    But I never would.
    To me... it's seeing your customer outside of work... and that's just not okay.
    I've met two people in 3.5 years that I would ever consider dating (had I been single). It's pretty rare, but had I been single, I would have asked them out. However, since I have a lovely boyfriend of 4.5 years, I didn't Just saying, I totally see how it happens.

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    i met my man ITC. he was always low-key when he would come in...when we first met, i already had a BF....and i let him know that...but we became "friends" at my job for about 6 months before i broke up with my BF at the time. then he offered to take me out to dinner...i accepted. a year and a half later, we're still going strong. will be moving in together when he gets back from Washington state in January for the Military...never been happier in my life. and who woulda thunk? i found the love of my life while i had a thong up my ass and 7 inch plastic shoes on my feet.

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    I think it all depends men r men so it might work might nor, ive met guys friends and an ex thru the club worked out mostly.
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    It's definitely possible,many girls do it,I've done it too.But besides being very careful with that,I would recommend to stay away from those who "live" in the club,meaning,the club is their whole life,friends,etc.Those custies who don't have a life or any friends outside the clubs they regularly visit,are a little strange and creepy.You can definitely be friends with those,but dating?No.

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    I am in a long standing relationship with someone who i met at work. He is not a SC frequent in fact i think he has only been in SC all of 2 times since we met. he was traveling for work and it was the only bar close enough to his hotel for him to walk to, he came in for a few drinks and to watch the baseball finals. But he ended up drunk and being annoying so the bar tender asked me to get him out out of her hair. So I talked him into buying a few dances, but whole time (that he paid for) we did nothing but talk. He gave me his number and said to call him if I wanted but wasn't expecting it. I called him a week later and we talked for a month over the phone being that he was out of state. That was 3 1/2 yrs ago and we now have a son. My only regret is that he talked me into quiting (not really talked as much as insisted,pleaded, then tricked me). Otherwise I enjoyed mostly all of our time together.
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    you know what i rethought this i didnt turn a custy into a bf he turned me into his gf We have an untradtinal relationship but i am very happy with him.

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    I met my fiance at a club. We had a great conversation (witty, serious, silly, mildly flirty but respectfull) after which he bought two lapdances to compensate me for my time. I never asked him for a dime after that night- he was too cool! 5 weeks later I moved in craziest thing I've ever done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bella du jour View Post

    Sometimes, just sometimes, customers are people too
    haha they say the same thing about us

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    I met my man in the club I worked in and we've been together for almost 11 years now. I wouldn't say it's common, but it's certainly not impossible.

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