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    Sad i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    (this is kinda long...bear with me...)

    i used to dance at this club in south carolina. it was the first club i ever worked in, and i was very comfortable there. being a new dancer, i didn't make a ton of money, but on the weekends it was JUST SO BUSY that i walked out with a pretty hefty chunk of change. housefees/tipout were low, and the club had a very strict no touching policy.

    school ended, and i went home to dallas. dallas was very good to me. it wasn't OMG HARDCORE $$, but it was steady, even during the week.

    i got an opportunity to come back to the carolinas, and so i did. i'm here for two months, and while i love the club, love the girls, love the customers, i've never ever had such a bad time.

    first night - friday - not unusual to walk out with 1k per shift (my avg is $500-800)
    no money. it was like pulling teeth to make the $125 that i did make.

    saturday - same thing. club was dead untill 4 am, and i made only slightly more. $150.

    monday - totally dead. was seriously upset by a douchebag early in the night, and then another one later in the night. went home with $120.

    tuesday - much better, $$ wise, but it was dramatic. a girl sitting with a guy for an hour, but as soon as she gets onstage, he comes to get me, cause he wants me. she's PISSED, and drunk, accuses me of being cuthroat, and while she and i kiss and make up, i don't get my CR because of the time she kept me in the DR trying not to kick my ass. she was drugged, turns out, and goes home sick. i make abolut $400 in dances, but feel really bad.

    i didn't work wednesday.

    thursday was SO DEAD. my old regular came in 30 minutes before the club closed, and saved me, but if he had come in 20 minuites earlier, i would have gotten my CR. :/

    ALSO - a new girl is hired. my stage name is Molly. she and i get to talking, and she asks my name, i tell her, and she says OHHH you're molly. they wouldn't let me have that name, so i'm going by MJ. i'm still going to introduce myself as molly though. i shrug her off, because there's so many girls and customers (60 girls on a weekend) that it's not an issue.

    friday - it becomes an issue. i'm upset because i've been taking a co-woker home. she and i are relatively close, and i take her home almost every night. she asks me to pick her up to take her to work (after telling me the night before that she didn't need one) and so i turn around to get her. it starts raining, and i text her telling her that we won't be at the club in time to avoid house fees. she says okay. i get annoyed at this point, and tell her we have to go to my house to get cash, i don't carry any on me. she says, oh, i'll pay your house fee, you can pay me back later. (THE HELL I AM. I CAME TO GET YOUR SORRY ASS AND NOW I'M LATE FOR WORK, YOU WILL NEVER SEE THAT HOUSE FEE AGAIN.)

    the moment i walk in the club, another dancer grabs me and says, your customer is here. i get dressed, and go to sit down with him.

    i say hey! he acts like he doesn't know me. i say you asked for me, bby, don't you remember? he says, i asked for MOLLY. i say, but i AM molly. he says no you're not, and is visibly annoyed with me.

    i tell him he's looking for MJ and that she's not coming in tonight.

    another dancer is being bitchy for no apparent reason, but i ignore it because it's petty, though it does upset me. she's a mean, racist dancer who has a massive chip on her shoulder. (you only get dances because you're white. excuse me? for one, you're making 25x the amount of money I'VE made tonight, and you're telling me it's all a conspracy to keep the black people in slavery? wtf. not even your so called "black bretheren" are as ignorant as you.) but it's whatever, i can brush it off.

    i've made $15 tonight. i get called up onstage. fuck it, i'm going to make 4 more dollars and then get dressed and go home.

    i get onstage. my first target is a guy talking to his friend. i hope into his lap and say

    "how am i supposed to be sexy for you if you're not paying any attention?" (this has never failed me.

    the jackass says "oh yeah like mine and 900 other dicks opinion in here matters" i say

    "it absolutely does. you pay my salary and every other dancer in here profits from you too, so yes, your dicks opinion matters. if you're not going to tip me, get the FUCK away from my stage."

    he says i was going to tip you, jeez...

    his friend immediately comes back to sit down with his beer and says STOP TALKING.

    i don't even let him sit down.

    YOU GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM MY STAGE

    but...i...

    GO. NOW. YOU DON'T EVER TELL ME WHAT TO DO.

    the bouncer (bless him) says, "if the lady says go, you need to go"

    i cross the stage (its huge, a solid 12' square) do my little dance and mosy on around.

    i spot a guy who looks like hes about to drool. i lean over the edge of the stage and put my head in his lap (gross, i know, but that's what we do here. ) i hold out my garter for a tip. he shrugs his shoulders and acts like he doesn't know what he's supposed to do. he leans up to me and says "you're beautiful"

    this is it. i've had it. "compliments do not pay my bills" my song isnt even over and i just get up, collect my clothes and my tips, and get offstage. no one is spending money, i've been hustling my ass off all night, and i don't even have enough for a full tank of gas. i'm going home.

    i take saturday night off. i am worn out, and the thought of going into that club makes me sick. some drug dealers come in, and get thrown out. a number of girls get upset. aparently he is well known for being trigger happy. one of the bouncers pulls a gun, and the police show up and clear the place, question everyone. one of the managers quit, and the other is being charged with a felony. (i'm SO glad i wasn't there.)

    i skipped out on tonight, there was a flash flood warning, and so i stayed home.

    my boyfriend tells me this is a sure sign that i just need to give up and come back to texas. another dancer tells me the days have all been like this, and that they probably won't get better.

    i'm starting to believe that the universe just wants me to suck it up and come home.

    sorry for this being so long, i just needed to vent.

    what do you think?

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason and this club no longer sounds like the place for you. Even if there was money to be made it does not seem like a good situation for your mental health (and possibly personal safety) and it seems like your mind is already sort of made up. Especially if you are feeling anxiety about going back there, I think it might be time to think about getting yourself back home.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    At the very least, the universe is telling you to find a different club. I also definitely have a problem with staying at shitty clubs because of some dumb sentimental value I hold for them. I've done it, too. I strongly doubt this is the only club you can work at.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    hmm when is payday normaly, here it is the last friday of every month so maybe you should give it 1 or 2 more weeks because your earnings depend on customer pay days usualy x

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    Quote Originally Posted by cashing in View Post
    hmm when is payday normaly, here it is the last friday of every month so maybe you should give it 1 or 2 more weeks because your earnings depend on customer pay days usualy x
    the clientele is mostly millitary. i came on a pay weekend, no luck. this upcoming frisay the soldiers get paid, we shall see if it gets better.

    i basically have to at least stick it out till i make some money to go home. i have enough saved to go home, but i do want to stick around for at least another week, then i['m going to try a new club, and then go home if that doesn't work out either.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    sometimes people like to get ll their finances sorted then go out with the remainder causing a delay in spending x

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    Yeah, I'd say go home. I give you credit for staying as long as you have. I would have high tailed it after the first two events!

    It sounds like some bad mojo has moved into that club. It's one thing when a club has bad mojo from the beginning and it's a known fact....it's another for a place that you normally love and feel comfortable at to become that way....it sucks.

    p.s. I used to have a girl at my last club, crazy as a coo coo bird, that would trip the fuck out every time we worked together, she was pissed because I was using a stage name she USED to use at another club! She just wouldn't drop the issue....it was so ridiculous. She'd always follow me around in the DR going "That was MY name! I was *name*! That has always been MY name! That's me! It will be forever!" I asked her "Well, if you like the name so much, why aren't you using it here?!" ......she goes "Duh, bitch, cause YOU already had it!"
    Ummm......she worked there long before I did. Dumbass! or, just nuts....

    Thank god she got fired for being crazy

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    yup. time to move on.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    F*** that, I'd be running for my life!

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    I know you feel really comfortable at this club and you probably are because of all the good memories you have, but you need to be strong and accept change. Never be afraid to try something new and just let this club go. There's tons of strip clubs in almost every city of the US ... Don't be afraid to search for something better.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    Quote Originally Posted by glitterhips View Post
    I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason and this club no longer sounds like the place for you. Even if there was money to be made it does not seem like a good situation for your mental health (and possibly personal safety) and it seems like your mind is already sort of made up. Especially if you are feeling anxiety about going back there, I think it might be time to think about getting yourself back home.
    I agree 100%. If I feel that badly in a place or situation, I get out asap. I feel it's a huge waste of time, energy and emotion to stay if it makes me feel bad.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    thanks guys. i guess i just needed that last push out the door. i had a little hope in my head, maybe it will be better next week... but now i realize it's just not worth my time.

    i went to another club and got hired last night, i start tonight, wish me luck!!

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    Good luck!

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    Good for you as you know when to listen to your intuition.

    Maybe you need a break so you can "tune in" and see how you feel about things in a few days, weeks, months.

    Good look at the new place. Sometimes we just need to switch things up a bit.




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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    So how was the other club?

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    everyone has bad days. last night some fn drunk fat guy fell on me cuz he was so wasted and i dislocated my hip or something.

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    Default Re: i think the universe is trying to tell me to go home...

    Quote Originally Posted by femmefatale88 View Post
    everyone has bad days. last night some fn drunk fat guy fell on me cuz he was so wasted and i dislocated my hip or something.
    oh goodness, that does sound like a bad day.

    it wasn't that i just had a few bad days, it was close to two solid weeks of bad days.

    when i moved to the other club it wasn't much better. the girls were very friendly, i love the atmosphere, but the customers see it as a neighborhood bar that just happens to have strippers. :/

    when a girl told me that $100 was a good night, i was scared. when i walked out the second night with $60, i said UGH I AM GOING BACK TO TEXAS.

    and so i went back to the first club, just to earn some money to go home, and made like $800. and turns out, the bitch causing the drama went to miami. so all is well. i may stick around...

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    damn, wish i made 800

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    Good to hear it Glad you're making money again.

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