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    turned a guy down to do a lap dance?

    the reason i ask is last night i was dancing on my clubs nude stage and it was the only guy up there. he kept trying to get cheap feels from me so i just danced mostly in the middle of the stage. at the end of the set he asked for a private dance, i knew he was going to be trouble from the beginning not only because of my set but because he asked the question "so do you give a good dance?" i saw $$$$ on him even though it was $30. i gave him a horrible dance on purpose. throughout the dance he kept trying to get to places he had no business being in. i got my money, but it ruined my night, i froze up and couldn't shake it off. luckily there was a regular that gave me $100 back message at the end of my night. i just want to know if next time this happens, i could just say "no i don't want to give you a dance."??? i hate saying that i'm busy and playing the avoiding game.

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    I did one dance for a grabby guy later he kept begging me for more dances. I ignored him for a while finally I told him he had to pay me upfront for 5 dances other wise his 20 bucks wasn't worth my time (or energy restraining his hands) . He actually agreed lol. Barely into the second song he whipped out his dick- luckily I wasn't touching him since I was giving him practically an air dance. He got kicked out and I got to keep the money. Really though if someone gives you the creeps you shouldn't feel bad ignoring them. I was lucky I worked at a small club where the bouncers were vigilant. I think my new club is a little lax with touching and I would be hesitant to go into the CR were there isn't any supervision. If a guy is disrespectful to you don't feel bad being blunt and telling him what you think.
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    I don't deal with guys like that, it's a waste of time and energy, and yes it will mess with your mood and attitude. I just completely ignore them, if they approach me I'll just say something like, I have to go to the bathroom, be right back and disappear for ten minutes or so
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    Yep..many times. I'd tell them straight out that based on their behavior thus far,i dont trust them to follow the rules. If they insist they'll be good..get the money up front and tell him that the FIRST time he gets out of line the dance is over and no refunds. Be bitchy as hell...you didnt want to dance for him anyway,so if he does cough up money its a bonus!

    Plus you might get a guy thats a closet sub and will like you bossing him around and being bitchy. THEN you charge 2x,3x or more per dance..and if he so much as SAYS something inappropriate...stop dancing and DEMAND a tip to continue.

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    Yes. All the time! I used to work entire shifts telling all the customers "Sorry, I don't give lap dances."

    You have no idea how much fun that is. If the club takes a cut of the dances, they may have issue with you turning down everyone, but to be sure, turn down anyone that creeps you out. It is not your job to be someones sexual assault victim for $30 a dance!


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    I wouldn't even pretend to be nice about it if he was already being a douche to you.

    Grabby customer: "Hey, can I get a dance from you--?"
    Me: "No, sorry, I don't have the time right now." (I stay sitting and watch the stage.)
    Customer: "Uh you don't LOOK too--"
    Me: "I said I'm BUSY." (I keep watching the stage.)

    That was a fun moment......

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    Ive turned down dances by saying "Oh sorry, thats my regular there, I have to go say hi!"
    Then picking a guy, saying "can I sit here? Im avoiding a jerk customer, who didnt treat me like a lady"
    9 times out of 10 the guy has said, "we'll why dont we go for a dance, so he'll definitely leave you alone"
    I just dont have the patience for jerks anymore.
    Theres no sense crying over every mistake,
    you just keep on trying till you run out of cake

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    Hell yeah!!!

    All the time at my last club. There was some "secret code" that the pervs there had. I noticed that all the guys that did it to me would go and hook up with a dick sucker later or I'd see them all over a girl during a dance, the girl letting them finger her or putting their crotch in his face with g-string to the side.

    It was a little *wink" then a flicky tounge action. I would have guys come up to my stage and tip me, then try to see if I would respond to the "code" by going over and giving a dance. I would always walk right by those fuckers with my head high and made SURE they saw me.

    I have also stopped dances and demanded my money. Especially if they were the type that would start to try to rip my top off or tug at my g-string....or come at me with the bass mouth towards my nipple

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    ^^^^^ LOL^^^^^^ The bass mouth thing

    My BF and I called that "the guppy effect", when you put your boobs in a guys face they start opening their mouth and reaching for them like a hungry infant. They look like fish, with a stoned look on their face opening and closing their mouth. Sick.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    Hell yeah!!!

    All the time at my last club. There was some "secret code" that the pervs there had. I noticed that all the guys that did it to me would go and hook up with a dick sucker later or I'd see them all over a girl during a dance, the girl letting them finger her or putting their crotch in his face with g-string to the side.

    It was a little *wink" then a flicky tounge action. I would have guys come up to my stage and tip me, then try to see if I would respond to the "code" by going over and giving a dance. I would always walk right by those fuckers with my head high and made SURE they saw me.

    I have also stopped dances and demanded my money. Especially if they were the type that would start to try to rip my top off or tug at my g-string....or come at me with the bass mouth towards my nipple

    Also, as far as the "secret code" thing, it was a known thing at some clubs that girls that carried little purses were dirty. They carried hand sanitizer and condoms in them. Well, I have always carried a purse, so one time a waitress frantically stopped me, took one look at my purse, and asked if she could pay me a dollar for a condom for a VIP room she was taking care of.
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    Disregard this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AznExtasy View Post
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    Not very often at my home club (they're a little picker about how drunk you can be to come in) but at my traveling club I reject someone at least once a night on a typical night. When you get a feeling about a person, or you know they're grabby, there's nothing wrong with putting your safety or sanity before money. You can always make money later, and it's a lot cheaper than having to go to therapy later on for traumatizing experiences. Putting yourself through something that makes you uncomfortable for money is only going to end in shame and unhappiness. Do what makes you comfortable, and that includes turning people down if you don't want to dance for them.

    Everyone has different limits, and there's nothing wrong with sticking to them. In fact, there's only something wrong with IGNORING your limits.

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    If you don't feel comfortable dancing for someone--YOU DONT HAVE TO DO IT! No one is making you. A few clubs may give you grief about it and if you're turning down EVERYONE, you will probably get fired, but if you're doing it 1-2 times a week or less and turning down disgusting pervs, then there is NO WAY you'll get in trouble for it.

    Just tell them straight up--I don't dance for people that are handsy, and I'm not interested in dancing for you. If they backpeddle and promise to shape up, it's up to you to try it, and I suggest getting the money upfront and the SECOND they try something, stop dancing and don't refund their money and get them kicked out. If you don't feel like giving them another chance, just WALK AWAY. No one is going to come after you and if they do, have them booted.

    Saying NO should be very easy. Don't EVER put up with any shit from ANYONE let alone customers that you aren't comfortable with. End of story.

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    I've turned one guy down because he was so grabby in the first one. He was pissy and I told him I was tired, he kept nagging me and I told him I don't dance for people that don't respect my boundaries... he kept being pissy and I just walked away.

    You don't have to play games and make up excuses if you don't want their $ anymore! Tell them the truth, hopefully they'll learn for the next girl (unlikely tho!).

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    I'm so glad I ran across this thread!

    I really needed to read something like this.

    I haven't worked for a month because I went on a cross country trip and now that I'm home I have been kind of stressed out about going back to work.

    I still haven't been back yet and have been home for 10 days now.

    I think its because before I left for the trip I was so desperate to save as much money that I could for this trip and telling myself it will pay off later that I dealt with asshole custys I should have never wasted energy on!

    This is why I love stripperweb!

    Whats the use in an extra 50 bucks when you have a gross memory you need to erase out of your head?

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    Often. You don't have to compromise yourself for a dance. This is one of the best things about being a stripper! You can turn customers down if you don't want to dance for them. All you have to say is "no thanks". Or just walk away.

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    First let me state this: I am by no means racist. really.

    That being said, due to past experiences I will almost always turn down anyone who doesn't speak English. I don't even care where they are from. No English, no dance.

    the only exception is when the non-english-speaking customer is with another customer who -does- speak English and I am able to convey (and confirm that I got through) dance rules.

    I will also turn down any guy who grabs a quick "free" feel while I'm standing/sitting next to him. In fact, I've outright asked for money when this has happened lately. I will say something like "Honey, that's not for free. You can't just 'take' it".

    Maybe two weeks ago I came off stage for the 2-4-1 and asked a guy who was staring at me. As I leaned over (he was sitting) he reached around me and -seriously- grabbed my ass, while also quickly sliding his hand between my legs after wards. He said "Oh. no thanks" and I pretty much told him he owed me for the dance for doing that. I got the 20 bucks out of him, but I was still pretty irritated.

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    with overly handsy guys i always play domimatrix, hold there hands back like i'm going to put them in handcuffs, boldly push my knee into there crotch (not on but into, unless they're too big and i can't get my knee on the couch in front of them). Fake choking. Most guys LOVED to be choked and have there hair pulled.

    They're usually too busy being like, "ooh rough" and fascinated they kind of "forget" to be overly handsy and just sit there and take it in.

    Doesn't work for overly handsy overly drunk guys though, I just avoid them.


    Edit: on another note I almost got fired from a club for not dancing for a guy. This dude asked me for a dance and I felt like shit. I had only been dancing around 2-3 months and I felt sick. I had to go on stage one last time and I got off, I probably looked fucked up because I felt so bad and this creepy ass dude that kept trying to feel me up in a very strict no touching the girls club asked me for a dance and I said I couldn't and he went and complained to three girls and one told the management and the management came to me later like, "wtf, you can't turn down dances because this is a fantasy and you were that guys fantasy and now he didn't get his fantasy and is going to leave disappointed" because i was so new i just apologized and said i wouldn't do it again (thank god it was never again an issue) and it was eventually dropped but yea.

    I've never turned down a dance since then, I've done some really shitty dances but they were still dances. lmao

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    ^That's really shitty of your club, IMO. At my club we're allowed to refuse dances so long as we are "polite" about it. I mean, I'm sure if a girl was refusing tons of dances all the time it would be an issue. But, something like that? Come on.

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    You are an independent contractor. You can act however you want towards customers and say what you want, within reason. Management cannot tell you to give a guy a dance, EVER. I've had guys kicked out for what may be considered silly reasons. A guy tipped me a 5$ bill and asked for four ones back. He was promptly kicked out. Don't forget, ultimately YOU make the rules, not the customer.
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    Yes one guy who wanted to buy more dances and I told him I didnt want to dance for him anymore cuz he kept on trying to finger me and I kept on having to push his hands away, just really grabby and aggressive. SO annoying and totally not worth the extra few bucks!

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    yes i have. i would much rather go home without feeling dirty than making a few dollars off of a dirty whore ass customer.

    i've given those guys dances before, and i know what i'm getting into.... and quite frankly, i don't dance full time anymore, so i don't need their money. i'd rather go home broke and with my ego intact versus having someone trying to rape my boobs. i know this isn't the case for everyone, but really.... would you rather have a bad day money wise or emotionally wise? i think emotions are worth much much more than cash.

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    Yep. Quite a few times. There's this guy that sticks out in my memory. Booger. He was uber gross and would walk around picking his nose; and, he would wipe it on his shirt. Barf. So long story short. He'd follow girls around and beg for dances. I think everyone pretty much knew his gross habit. Well, one day this fucktard would not stop following me around. I turned around and said, "Sure. I'll dance for you. But, it's $300 a song." hehehe Of course he said he didn't have that kind of money. Whew. Just quote them really high and they won't be able to afford it. Works like a charm. I've yet to have someone say ok I'll do it lol But, hey maybe there is that one gross grabby guy that'll pay $300 for 1 song. You never know...
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    I had a guy last night who wanted a dance, but he fucking reeked. Like rotting teeth, stale beer, shit, and filthy laundry. I started to give him a table dance before I realized how bad he smelled. I held my breath, gave the shortest table dance I've ever given in my life, pocketed the money, and then he said he wanted a dance in the back. I told him I had something to do first, and I totally disappeared. Lucky for me, I really was selling lots of dances last night--it's 2-4-1 Tuesdays at my club, so I sold like 10 dances, which was in reality 20 songs. I just couldn't bring myself to bring a guy who reeks so bad it makes me nauseous to the back where I'm in close contact for two songs. *shudder*

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