Earlier this year I made the mistake of dating someone from the club. Not so much a customer, a friend of the owners who would sometimes end up working there for short periods of time. To make a long story short, he ended up being creepy and controlling, and very stalkerish when I ended things. He is no longer allowed in the club when I'm working due to some freaky behavior, but he still tries it and frequently has to be kicked out, which makes me anxious and freaked out all over again.
So now I'm having a hard time dealing with customers that seem even the slightest bit creepy. And lately I've been getting a lot of the clintelle that tries to date me. I used to be good at the whole "I'd have to get to know you better!" thing. But now I'm actually a little afraid of leading these folks on.
And it just so happens I have one coming in tonight. The last time he came in, and I told him I couldn't date him because I "just met him!"(after a string of dances) He happily announced that he'd be back on Friday (today) and we'd "get to know eachother better."
I used to just let customers do this until they got tired of me and moved on, having realized I wouldn't date them. Now, warning bells go off and I worry about someone getting creepy and I just want to avoid these people. But I can't- they're everywhere, and I have to keep selling dances. It's slim enough right now as it is. Anyone have any advice for dealing with my nerves? Any advice on continuing to sell dances to these guys?




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