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    Default I can't stop bitching!

    I just realised last night how nasty I am!
    Its like I THINK I am open minded I dont care what people do I THINK I wouldnt judge them but I do and I see flaws in almost everyone (I dont bitch about my friends atall I really do love them too much lol) but people I just meet or have met a few times I find myself being fine to them then as soon as they walk away me and my friend start bitching..
    Its not like someone is really nice to me and Im nice back then I bitch its like we met a girl in the toilet at this club and she got her boobs out randomly so we bitched about her lol and some girl always makes a point of not wearing shoes so we bitched about how shes an attention seeker and like lots of things like that...its like I know there is no point to it but I cant stop! Is there anything I can do to just shut my mouth lol I also over react to stuff on purpose when I dont feel like it actually bothers me..its like I want a reason to be in a stress with someone? Im crazy lol

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    Consciously make an effort to not say anything negative about anyone. Seriously. Put an invisible piece of tape over your mouth when your girlfriends all start gossiping about someone else. You wouldn't believe how much drama this will save you later, and also nobody will ever gossip about you. I consciously don't chime in or comment when someone is talking negatively of someone else, I only comment on someone else if it is something positive, and it really keeps me in a good mood, to only compliment and never criticize. I do have my slip ups though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    Consciously make an effort to not say anything negative about anyone. Seriously. Put an invisible piece of tape over your mouth when your girlfriends all start gossiping about someone else. You wouldn't believe how much drama this will save you later, and also nobody will ever gossip about you. I consciously don't chime in or comment when someone is talking negatively of someone else, I only comment on someone else if it is something positive, and it really keeps me in a good mood, to only compliment and never criticize. I do have my slip ups though.
    Thanks I am really going to make a concious effort to not say negative things..I didnt realise I did it so much till some guy was like 'lets record when bexxx actually says something nice about someone' he was slightly joking but obviously theres truth there! I'm so bad lol its hard I dont get why i just look at the bad things atall

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    i'm the same way when i'm around my sister. we talk so much crap together its crazy. i've been doing mantra where i repeat if i dont have anything nice to say dont say it at all. it kinda helps.

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    One should stop criticizing or hating others, even the sinners/evildoers, because no one is free from fault in this world.

    Instead, one must try to acknowledge one’s own faults and try to correct them, rather than pointing out those of others. We can only change ourselves.

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    for every time you want to say something negative, try to say something positive instead. i work with a girl that doesn't wear shoes on stage, but it's because she is crazy amazing on the pole. and if a girl whips her boobs out in the bathroom, comment on how it's nice how she's so confident, and doesn't have to be trashy and whip them out on the floor.

    turn the negatives into a positive. try to turn two out of three negative comments into a positive. you'll feel better, i promise.

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    Quote Originally Posted by callista View Post
    for every time you want to say something negative, try to say something positive instead. i work with a girl that doesn't wear shoes on stage, but it's because she is crazy amazing on the pole. and if a girl whips her boobs out in the bathroom, comment on how it's nice how she's so confident, and doesn't have to be trashy and whip them out on the floor.

    turn the negatives into a positive. try to turn two out of three negative comments into a positive. you'll feel better, i promise.

    haha it wasnt a strip club.. it was just a normal club. And its not on stage she litterally walks down the street and goes everywhere with no shoes on her feet are black lol. But yeah my none bitching isnt going great! ahh I will try harder

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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    It's a habit, like anything else, it takes a bit to break yourself of it. Don't try to go cold turkey, but try to catch and stop yourself when you feel like complaining about someone. When you are able to catch yourself, give yourself a little mental pat on the back for keeping quiet in spite of your desire to complain about someone.

    Don't even go so far as to compliment someone. If you can work on just keeping quiet, that is good progress. It is all a matter of switching off your habits.


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    Default Re: I can't stop bitching!

    I dunno. You're out having fun, you run into someone who you're likely to never meet again, something about them sticks out in your mind so you toss around a little humor with your friends. It's not the best thing in the world, but it's not the worst thing either.

    I think it depends on how cruel and malicious you're being as well. However, I don't see any harm in a few light hearted observations. Sure, someone might over hear you and then you'll have to make a mea culpa, oh well. IMO, it's all about give and take. So long as you're willing to be on the receiving end as well, I tend to say no harm, no foul.
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