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    Duh Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    So ladies I need your help! A web of lies is maybe a bit of an exaggeration because I always tell customers the truth. I find it's too hard to keep your stories straight if you constantly lie. But the one thing I always lie about as do most dancers is being "single". I am actually married.

    Now the problems have started since I have a few customers that are constantly asking me out on dates, wanting to give me gifts, etc. I've led them on as you do for $$$ in the club here and there and I've promised of one day meeting OTC. A few of them already have my number, but they are not psychos or anything, so I'm not worried about that aspect. I need to stop them calling and pushing for dates but don't really want to tell them the truth because they are regulars at the club and I don't want anyone else to know and I think it will be really awkward when I see them.

    I already know my mistakes were 1) giving out my number and 2) leading them to believe that I would see them. Unfortunately I can't change the past, just learn from it.

    But how do I get myself out of hot water without getting myself burnt??? Is it too late?

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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    Possibility of getting stung for this...it'll only hurt for a minute.........
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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    One of my friends pinned up a picture of her deceased friend with a warning note all over the dressing room a few years ago. The girl had a great regular and eventually said she would go out with him. He took her places and was a real gentleman and bought her stuff. Then he invited her over for Christmas I think it was was... and brutally murdered her.

    Tell them that story. They'll say "Oh well I would NEVER do that! *gasp!*" ... but how do YOU know that?

    Also... I had a regular and went places with him. It just got weird. It doesn't stop at just going places, then they want extras. It's better to just sit them down and tell them you are really uncomfortable with the idea of going somewhere with them. Let them know you are sorry and you love seeing them when they come in for work but you want to be completely honest about how you feel.
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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    They will eventaully get sick of asking and move on to another girl. If I were in your situation I would always pretend to be busy and make them only see me at work. Don't go out with them and don't tell them you're married but in future, don't give out your number like this.
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    I would at least get a prepaid phone for work and tell them your number changed... give them the prepaid cell phone number and only use it to text them when you will be at the club. You could even play off of that... you had to change your number because of a stalking customer, so you are being more cautious and don't want to meet OTC. And/or don't answer their calls and when they ask for dates just always have an excuse how you're so busy with whatever. They'll eventually quit asking.

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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    I've never promised to meet a custy OTC to make him spend more, and am still mystified why girls do this. That is dangerous. I also never give my phone number out. They can give me theirs if they want to see me in the club again. If I feel they are a worthwhile customer and not a freak I'll call them and tell them when I'm working.

    Only give your ALTERNATE number to guys that know the deal. The relationship is strictly a monetary one. I text and chat with customers all the time but they have never asked me out, still spend money etc.

    Same deal how come girls feel it is good business to meet customers for coffee? Keep it in the club. I knew one dancer that was always "meeting a customer for a drink". Uhg!

    Forgive my rant.

    Eventually they will fall by the way side. You may as well get as much money as you can from them before they give up. Just tell them you started dating or something. That is sorta the truth.




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    Tell them that you are sorry, but your new girlfriend would get very upset with you. (In my experience, most men think that having a GF is hot while being married having a bf is not. It'll also give you tons of new material for ITC visits, as you answer their pervy questions in a coy manner about your "relationship.") Remind them, in a firm, non-waffling manner, that you still like them very much and value their companionship...ITC of course.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    Instead of giving out your phone number give them an e-mail address, it will be easier to avoid them and be unavailable.

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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    Block their numbers from your phone. If you aren't sure how to do that call your service provider and ask. It should be a free service with your phone. Then when they come in next time, tell them you didn't have the money to pay your phone bill, so you can't get any calls.


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    Well why dont you wanna go on a date with him? Just because your married? If you really dont want to go on a date with him, either tell him that you met a guy and your dating him or tell him the truth about being married. But I would just tell him you met someone so the trust thing isnt really broken.


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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    I have been in this predicament and like the others said, eventually after avoiding/ignoring calls & texts long enough they will get bored and move on. I would not mention you are married however, as I'd be worried a customer could turn psycho and try to blackmail you by trying to cause problems with your hubby threatening to tell him things. Sounds paranoid, but I'd never want a customer to know my personal life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KatGrrl View Post
    I have been in this predicament and like the others said, eventually after avoiding/ignoring calls & texts long enough they will get bored and move on. I would not mention you are married however, as I'd be worried a customer could turn psycho and try to blackmail you by trying to cause problems with your hubby threatening to tell him things. Sounds paranoid, but I'd never want a customer to know my personal life.
    I tell all my customers I am married. They are married too. It makes everything so much easier.
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    Default Re: Help! How to untangle a web of lies...

    Thanks for the tips girls... I ended up telling one Im married and he was totally cool. He was like I'll still see you in the club and happy to go out and pay you but understand that its just a professional relationship...whew! Im trying the ignore tactic with the other.

    Not worried about fucking anything up with hubby anyways because we have an open relationship and he is cool with just about anything as long as its all in the open.

    Just a note... I only meet customers OTC for extreme amounts of $$$ and definitely do not do extras... that is always clear to them..

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