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    Question Pay me before the dance or after?

    Ok, I just need some opinions here. Being a newbie, Prior to the dance starting should I request the money first? or just do my thing, then collect after?

    what do you guys do?

    Then if we are doing repeat dancing, obvioulsy it would suck to stop & collect payment in between dances, so I guess just keep track in ur head how much & hope to collect at the end?

    Also, If a guy hands you a $20 for a $10 dance, do you just automatically assume the rest is tip? Or do you hand the $10 back to him & let him extend it to you?

    I'm just being a dumbass tonite....must be a full moon!
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    Default Re: Pay me before the dance or after?

    Always get money in advance. If he pays you more...just ask if he wants to go for longer or if he's just feeling generous. Always get the money each time he extends. Otherwise you will lose track especially if you drink at work. Don't feel bad about being straight up about the money. You are offering a service that he must pay for. Its better to get it out of the way at the start and then if anything goes wrong... he acts inappropriately and gets kick out...you still have the money you are owed. Treat it as a business transaction. Get it out of the way quickly and then move onto the fun part!

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    I don't make them pay me up front. I've been burned out of $800 total, but I've made more than that with the custy getting lost in the moment and paying me hundreds more than he originally intended. I've gotten better at picking customers that are going to pay and I stop them for at least the first hundred. It's probably better to get in the habit of getting paid first. I'm just one of those people that believes everything will work out in the end.
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    I almost always collect at the end because that's what most guys are accustomed to, and it is easier to keep the flow going to do more dances that way.

    Just be careful stacking too many dances without getting paid. Occasionally a guy might not have enough money or purposely try to stiff you. There are tips about this on the forums here if you search for them

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    Default Re: Pay me before the dance or after?

    this depends on the club, so they they will let you know how its done. a lot of times the club collects the money for you up front. In cases that they don't its better to get the money up front, and ask for a tip at the end
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    I always collect afterward, unless the guy, on his own, chooses to pay me first. I have never had a guy run out on me, and it generally increases me likelihood of getting a good tip.

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    I've been burned a couple times already, so I always insist on money upfront. I tell them its club policy and if they whine about it I tell them I'm not willing to lose my job. I haven't had to stop and collect inbetween yet because I've been upselling myself before we even start (we could do one song for 40 or 3 for 100) and I make it sound like if they don't take the 3 for 100 deal right then and there it will expire, they almost always go for it.

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    Default Re: Pay me before the dance or after?

    okay i always get the first dance money first
    and i peek to make sure they have additional money
    if they want an additional dance or two
    and i KNOW they have the money i will keep going
    if i don't know then i'll stop and ask for money
    also by asking for the dance money first you can end the dance
    and then ask for a tip sweetly
    they'll be more liking since they've already
    just been immersed in LD land lol

    if a guy complains about paying upfront
    that's a red flag
    another thing with getting the money first
    if they guy acts inappropriately part way through
    you have the money and you are GONE

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    Quote Originally Posted by ohiogirl26 View Post
    Ok, I just need some opinions here. Being a newbie, Prior to the dance starting should I request the money first? or just do my thing, then collect after?

    what do you guys do?

    Then if we are doing repeat dancing, obvioulsy it would suck to stop & collect payment in between dances, so I guess just keep track in ur head how much & hope to collect at the end?

    Also, If a guy hands you a $20 for a $10 dance, do you just automatically assume the rest is tip? Or do you hand the $10 back to him & let him extend it to you?

    I'm just being a dumbass tonite....must be a full moon!
    number one rule of lapdances: don't dance until you're paid...
    to avoid having to stop dancing and collect after each song, just say something like "i hate that i have to keep stoping after each song...just as i'm really getting into it, the song ends. did you want to just pay for 2 or 3 at a time so we won't be interrupted (sp?)"

    rule number two: don't assume a tip. say something like "you didn't need change did you?" but don't say "did you want change?" you want him to say "NO, i don't need change" and by using the first line, you're more likely to get that answer. by using the second line, you are inviting him to say "yea, gimmie some of that back!" but you NEVER assume a tip, you may piss off a guy that would have tipped you well anyway. you wouldn't go to a restaurant, buy dinner in cash and let your waiter/waitress ASSUME your change was a tip, would you? same difference...

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    i took the money first, or asked to look in their wallet to see that they had enough to pay me. the mere act of asking was enough to ensure payment, and the boldness meant many offered me their wallets and said 'get what you will out of there'.

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    Default Re: Pay me before the dance or after?

    i never even mention money first, and this has worked for me. guys that are curious how much dances are ask, and (we are 20$ as song at my club) and i just keep encouraging them to go for "just one more"

    a club i work at occasionally has a bouncer that collects money beforehand, and i never do as well because the bouncer cuts off like, at EXACTLY 3 minutes and there is no real chance for an upsell. here is where the tip becomes more important...but i still think it is harder to get money up front.

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    Default Re: Pay me before the dance or after?

    I usually collect at the end of the dance. However, since there are assholes that often try to rip girls off for $20 dances near the end of the night (like when the club is nearly empty) that's when it better to collect up front.

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    At my club, we have to get the money first. Even if he gets repeat dances, he has to hand us the 20 before we continue. Unless you saw a lot of money in his wallet, you should probably collect the money before continuing. I always say "it's another 20, sweetie," and I hold out my thong (this would only work in a topless club).

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