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    Angry how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    I work at a topless club on day shift. On my 3rd shift I wore a black tube dress with black full lingerie lace undies. I was talking to a well dressed custy at the bar (he didn't buy me a drink). He talked about how his ex-wife is a stripper in Houston making great $$ (flag, I recall this from the time wasters thread). Anyway he started talking about how we were trying to hustle him (another flag). He calmly grabs the top of my dress, pulls it down to see one of my breast, and pulls it back up. Then he starts to tell me about how I have a great body but I'm not doing good advertising. I was seriously about to change but I had to be on stage. He walks up to the stage (I'm thinking he's going to tip me) to say he's leaving and tips my garter ($1 i found out when I walked off stage).

    I had another guy come in the same shift wanted and did see my breasts, grab my ass, and want me to touch his dick through his pants. He bought another dancer a commissioned drink during this. She walked up to him covered his mouth with her hand and told the bartender what she wanted. I asked if he wanted a dance,told him my price, and that I like to be paid for the first dance. Well, he makes a stank about it so I asked the dancer he bought a drink for if his credit was good enough to let him pay after the dance. She said yes so we headed back. He bought 2 dances and paid but wanted to move my body around like a fuck doll so he could bust. I tried dancing and told me don't work against me.

    I need advice in setting up boundaries so custys don't feel comfy enough to just pull down my dress to see my breasts or grab my ass without permission.

    How much should a custy be able to touch, grab, or see when he is so called "thinking about buying" or bottom line hasn't bought a CR,LD, CD(Commissioned drink), or tipped you for your time?

    Is it worth the time to deal with cheap custys that want to cum in their pants without buying you a CD, tipping, or 1 LP? I'd rather work on my floor & pole moves instead for better advertising for better custys.

    If a custy is too cheap to buy you a drink, is it better to just ask about the LD and move on because none of them have ever tipped me for my time but wanted to touch and see my breasts? (It is illegal to ask a custy to buy you a drink in my state)

    I have no problem talking or getting the custy talking into a good conversation but am horrible at getting them to tip for my time & hint about drinks. Any lines or suggestions?

    I have become a tiny bit jaded because the reality of guys wanting to use me for little to no $ in the club and then have the balls to hint around about fucking me OTC ticks me off. I just need some strategies to cut it short with these jerks as soon as they reveal themselves.

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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    ooops that was longer than I had intended!

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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    Omg thats horrible. I don't really let guys see much when I'm not on stage or in a lap dance room. I figure if they want to see my tits they can spend the $$. You might want to be firmer. If a guy gets handsy grab his hands and pin them above his head then smile and say something along the lines of "you just need to sit back and enjoy the ride" and you can always add (again smiling) "I'm in charge here". Usually if a guy tries to swipe or grope my breast I'll whisper in his ear that his is naughty and can't touch - thats my warning before his hands are pinned over his head lol.

    For the time wasters or the guys that want to cop a feel for free. If you use the right tone you can remind them in a sexy way that if they want to see more of you thats what dances are for. If your allowed to ask for a drink just ask or remind them that you "are sooo much more fun after a (insert drink name here)". If you aren't allowed to ask say your thirsty or bring attention to their drink. If its not a beer ask what it is. You can say something like "I've never had one of those before, is it good?". Work drinking into your convo.

    Don't be afraid to set boundaries. If someone tries to cross them you can warn them nicely if you think it was an honest mistake but if they are disrespectful to you don't have to be nice. If you sit with a guy for more then a few minutes (1 maybe 2 songs) and he doesn't offer a drink it might be sign that he is a time waster. I see purchasing a drink as a sign that he wants to invest time in me later or at least respects my time enough not to completely waste it.
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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    Oh sorry I didn't see the illegal part when I posted. Also do you have hostesses that ask men if they want drinks or just bartenders? If the club wants you to sell them the hostesses/ bartender should help steer a customer in the direction of buying you a drink. I don't know what the laws are for servers but where I am the hostesses always ask if the customer if he'd like to buy the dancer a drink.
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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    They shouldn't be putting their hands on you at all, EVER. Do not allow them to take advantage of you in this manner. If they don't like what they see standing in front of them they don't have to buy a dance, and it is a waste of time to try and sell these guys. If a guy ever did those things to me I'd have the bouncer throw him the fuck out. Set your boundries and stick to them! Do not allow yourself to be touched in any way you are not comfortable with. A customer should never put his hands on you.
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    As soon as a guy starts talking about "thinking of buying a dance" and wanting any sort of free peak, I walk away. Time wasters.
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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    WTF?? If he pulled down my dress I'd smack the shit out of him! This isn't the supermarket- you don't get to squeeze the produce!

    Did you tell the bouncers?

    And the answer is NADA. I don't allow them to touch me or yank on my clothing. You want a dance? You see naked parts. You don't? Fuck off, you get nothing.

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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    I think how you approach your mark in the 1st place helps set the tone.
    Smile, extend your hand and introduce yourself politely, usually they will then introduce themselves. If they don't, act confused, say "I'm sorry, what's your name sweetheart?" then "oh ok," *repeat his name* then, "ooo I like that name!" if your inclined to sit, sit down with your legs crossed pointed towards him. (It sounds like customers at your club like to grope without asking, so at least make it physically difficult for them to do so, by sitting in a position that would discourage it.)
    I don't work at a club that has CD's, but try this line out "i just got here a few minutes ago, I was running late today, I haven't even had a drink yet!" most guys should respond positively to this, as in "oh well we'd better get a drink right away then!" or if he has been in the club a bit and knows you did not just arrive, ad lib that you got there the same time he did, and that you've only had one drink so far or whatever.
    Also, stick with wearing the dresses, the cheap douchebag you came across obviously just want to be able to see as much of your body as possible for free. In my experience when I'm wearing booty shorts and my ass is just out there it is more likely it will get grabbed then when its covered in a dress or mini skirt. hth
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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    I guess the good news is that my newbie cherry is finally popped! I'm ready to do my job and not let cheap guys take advantage of me. Thank you to everyone that posted.

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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    It really depends on what you have in front of you.

    If there's NO customers, I'll put up with an asshole as long as he's being an asshole in the lapdance booth, and not overstepping my boundaries.

    If a guy tried to pull my top down to see my breasts on the floor, I would punch that mothefucker in the face. I DO NOT like when guys try to take my clothes off, it makes me really angry. And on the floor, I do not think so. That shit is $!

    Really dont waste your time with the grabby guys on the floor cause they're broke and just trying to get what they can for free cause they're not gonna get what they need to pay for. When guys are getting grabby, I tell them that we can't do that on the floor, its not allowed and I will get fired, we have to go back to the private area and do an LD. If they are continuing, I give them one more warning. Third time I walk away. In LDs, I physically go against them if they are doing something I don't like, I find it works better than talking-- although 2nd time they try it, they will get a warning (and usually a loud one).

    I love the guys who tell me I don't know how to hustle or am bad at advertising or suck at my job. They are usually fat and rude and stupid and uninteresting. I just want to ask them, really? Well if you're making money advertising yourself, which you must be doing to be able to tell me I'm bad at it, PLEASE tell me your strategies because you must be the KING of hustling to make money off that horrible body & personality.

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    Default Re: how much should a custy see or touch when deciding on a lap dance?

    You girls are lucky to work in a club where a bouncer would do something about you being grabbed. Here they just laugh at you and say "hey its part of the business."
    I cant stand it when guys touch me on the floor...especially when guys are like "o no i dont want a dance thank u tho" and are fucking rubbing my waist or trying to put their arm around me or give me a kiss on the cheek while they do this. What gives them the fucking balls to do this!! i dont go around carressing strange men without their permission, i will never understand why guys do this to us!

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