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    I am so upset and dont know wnat to do my older brother came into the club last night with a bunch of his friends and when i saw them i panicked and tried to run off and hide but they all saw me and his face just dropped.

    none of my family know what i do, and he's really protective of me so i hid in the dressing room, and i came out about 20 mins later, peeped to see and they were all gone, but a few of the other dancers said all his friends were clapping, whistling and patting his back and stuff till he actually threw a punch at one and got dragged out by the bouncers

    i havent spoken to him yet cos im so embarassed and upset and i dont know what to say, he hasnt tried phoning me or anything but his facebook status is 'had a shit night' i feel awful and feel sick, i feel like quitting

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    This has happened to all of us at one point or other.

    Quitting won't make this better honey. He already knows, now you just have to deal with it. Give it a few days. Talk to him rationally and calmly. You might be his baby sister, but you're also a grown woman who gets to make her own decisions. Stripping doesn't make you the devil. If he loves you, he will learn to deal with it.

    Take a few deep breaths, and keep your head up. It will all be ok.
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    ^^^ Yep. Give him a couple of days to calm down (it took my dad a couple of weeks to get his head round it) and after all, its a strip club- not a brothel!

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    Awww! He punched his friend for you? WOW! What a great brother!
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    I'm so sorry ! This is my worst fear and it's why I don't dance in my home area. I have experienced what you have in a way though. My dad found out I was waitressing in a club in college and I was just horrified. I quit really soon after, but he was so upset. I was so much more upset though ( I think ! ). I have never lied to my family about anything ...... except strip club related activities. I remember him saying " no woman should have to do this " in a very protective way and I just wanted to die.
    I just wanted to offer support.
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    still no word

    should i make the first move?

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    Awww hun. Im sorry big hugs. I now how bad you must feel. You need to talk it out w/him. It sounds like he really cares about you and may be hurt.

    Im glad my brother is gay. If he walked into my club hed probably just try to pick my songs for me or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskaylee View Post
    still no word

    should i make the first move?
    You probably should. He might be just as embarrassed as you. I don't know how your relationship is but it sounds like he is protective of you and thats good. He might be mad/hurt/embarrassed/worried but he should be able to get over it.
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    This is what's to be expected in this business. Better to be up front with everyone including your family.

    If they don't understand, too bad for them. You need to make some Cash and this is one of the best jobs available in our economy right now.

    Your poor dumb ass brother ! ! !

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskaylee View Post
    still no word

    should i make the first move?
    Yes. Call him. You won't get anywhere by not talking about this.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cheyanne View Post
    This is what's to be expected in this business. Better to be up front with everyone including your family.



    If they don't understand, too bad for them. You need to make some Cash and this is one of the best jobs available in our economy right now.



    Your poor dumb ass brother ! ! !

    This was rude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marilynxoxo View Post
    You probably should. He might be just as embarrassed as you. I don't know how your relationship is but it sounds like he is protective of you and thats good. He might be mad/hurt/embarrassed/worried but he should be able to get over it.
    yeah, think about how you'd react if you saw the same thing happened, then your friends gave you hell about it.... poor guy. the situation sucks, but one of you has to reach out first, and let's face it.... guys aren't always the best at doing that.

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    Take the high road, call him and deal with it. Honestly, this is exactly why I'm such a proponent of people not hiding dancing from their families. You making the first move though will show him that you are responsible enough to deal with things - which is really important when you are dancing.
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    Thanks lovelies

    Well I took your advice, I called him and we spoke for a good while and basically i think all is ok, he said it was more about his friends seeing his little sister like that and the goading he had, and that he'd be a hyprocrite if he hasled me about it as he was in there too and he wont tell our parents as its up to me, i lub him xxx he just didnt know what to say

    Oh, and two of his friends have added me to fb with stupid comments attached, god

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    Aaaawww, I just wanna give you a big bear hug! I thought I felt bad when my cousins, my brother-n-law & his cousin saw me, but YOUR BRO???!!!
    I'm glad he has a good attitude about it, though. that will make the embarrassment go away a lil easier

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    Aww I'm glad it worked out for you. Do you have any other male relatives or people you don't want knowing about your job? If you do you might want to consider telling your family at some point. You would be surprised at how well people take it. It's also less shocking than discovering your topless daughter/sister/niece/cousin twirling around on stage. During a family party my drunk aunt begged my mom to let her visit me at work (she knew I was stripping) lol. My mom likes hearing about my job but she doesn't want to see me in action - she said no.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marilynxoxo View Post
    Aww I'm glad it worked out for you. Do you have any other male relatives or people you don't want knowing about your job? If you do you might want to consider telling your family at some point. You would be surprised at how well people take it. It's also less shocking than discovering your topless daughter/sister/niece/cousin twirling around on stage. During a family party my drunk aunt begged my mom to let her visit me at work (she knew I was stripping) lol. My mom likes hearing about my job but she doesn't want to see me in action - she said no.
    Yeah, my dad actually, but i dont think he'd ever come in, its not really his thing

    im just a bit worried my brothers friends are gonna start coming in a lot and hassling me

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    Well don't encourage them on facebook if they aren't hitting on you just keep it light and maybe turn the whole embarrassing thing into a joke. By seeing you dancing they might have just realized that your not just their friends little sister but a hot chick. If they are really his friends they wouldn't do that. When I stripped in my hometown club none of my brothers friends ever came in to see me even though they went to the bar across the street from it. My dad told one of his coworkers that I was a stripper and the guy told him he ruined the SC experience for him because he would always wonder if it was his friends daughter on stage lol. That was when I was hopping around to different clubs in Philly where my dad also works. The Philly clubs are safe for now.

    Is your club the kind of place that is close to home or would attract people that might know your family? My first club was filled with local people that lived where I'd grown up. I should also mention that I lived in a gossipy small town. I never made a secret of it just because I figured it was pointless. Who you tell and how open you are is always your decision. It might be better if your parents here it from you if you think they're at risk from finding out elsewhere. My mom actually told me she was relieved because she felt the SC was a safer environment then me just going out and partying on the weekends- so many times at regular clubs/bars guys followed me around and started trouble, I also wasn't getting drunk at the SC.
    Oh and if your brothers friends did start to come in (which would make them complete creeps) you could possibly have the bouncers remove them (they have already been kicked out once). If they try offering to come by just be firm and clear that you really don't want them there. Hopefully they'll leave it alone.
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