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    Default Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    So, my second night dancing I made a regular, one of the girls grabbed me and told me her friend want to buy me some drinks. The rest is history lol I have known him now for almost 2 months (I know, not incredibly long). Apparently a few weeks ago something happened that he misinterpreted and its been bothering him (this is according to the girl who hooked me up with him in the first place). Here's the incident:

    Regular and I are sitting at the bar chatting with a group of people. Another girl comes up (we'll call her stripper #2) and sits next to me, which was fine, I talk with her at work a little.

    Me: Hey, Regular, have you met Stripper #2?
    R: Hi, nice to meet you.
    S#2: Nice to meet you too.

    more chit chat, then Regular starts talking about a new shot that goes great with coffee.

    R: Do you want to try one?
    S#2: No I can't, I'm only 20.
    R: oh don't worry about it, they know me. Bartender, can you get her a shot?
    B: No she's not old enough
    R: Well then get one for me

    Regular tells S#2 to hand him her coffee under the counter and he pours his shot into her drink and gives it back.

    B: Your coffee wasn't that full a minute ago.
    S#2: (stammering) yeah it was
    B: Did you give her your shot?
    R: No, I drank it (and was backed up by a couple guys at the bar)
    B: (takes drink away from her) I'm not risking my job, Regular, she's underage
    R: Sorry



    Now, the only part I had in this was introducing the two of them. Apparently his version of the story is that I practically begged him to buy my friend a drink and he didn't know she was underage. WTF?

    Not only this, but the week prior we had been in VIP, he did a few dances with me, and I RAN because I got sick (puking and all). I ended up going home and apologized, he said not to worry and he'd see me later that week. Later that week I very politely reminded him that he never paid up for those dances because I ran out sick. He insisted that he paid me and I was just "too drunk to remember." (which by the way I wasn't, I was buzzed, but not close to drunk)

    Since the incident with the other girl he has not taken me back to VIP, he has not bought any dances from me, he has not told other guys to buy dances from me (which is what usually happened if he wasn't going to buy any), he hasn't tipped me, offered to buy me dinner... NOTHING is the same except he still buys my drinks, but he's not usually there when I'm there anymore, so thats not even as often as it used to be.

    Part of me doesn't even want to smooth things over because I did absolutely nothing wrong, if anything, he was the one doing wrong. BUT, he was helping my money when things were good, soooooo that part of me wants to smooth things over.


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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    Sounds like this guy is trouble. Trying to sneak drinks and saying, "it's ok, they know me!" Um, ok buddy. Sounds like a cocky asshole to me. I wouldn't waste my time, especially if he won't pay, what a hundred dollars that he owes you? Or less? That's cheap and not worth the hassle. If you know you did nothing wrong, and this guy just outright won't pay you, cut your ties with him (for now) and take it as a learning lesson. Or pick pocket him when he's drunk
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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    Sounds like he's outlived his usefulness- on to the next one!

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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    Personally I wouldn't bother. If he's going to lie about something so trivial he doesn't sound like the type of person you would wanna hang with anyway. Toxic people screw up a hustle.
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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    I'd be wary of him. especially since he was openly reprimanded by the bartender and is trying to insist you begged him and you know that you weren't. It doesn't add up too well when looked at on paper:

    1)He only buys you drinks now?
    2)The time you did a VIP, with alcohol,you suddenly got sick.
    3)He's trying to rewrite your own memory on more than one occasion (money owed, bringing the other dancer to meet him, etc)

    It might be too out there, but I'd be too paranoid that he was or is capable of doctoring drinks or otherwise looking to take advantage of inebriated women. At the very least he sounds passive-aggressive.

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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    He owes you money he won't pay you.
    He doesn't buy dances.
    ...Why waste your time?

    I guess maybe if you wanted to get drunk for free at work, it'd be okay to talk to him for a bit for that... but I wouldn't waste any time on this guy otherwise.
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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    this reg is done. And thank god, because he's obviously become more trouble than he's worth. Stop hanging out with him, even for drinks, so you can make way for the next (better) regular.
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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    There will be plenty of future regulars in the sea, so you should probably forget him because he seems to be somewhat of an asshole and not worth the money.

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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    I'm just worried to completely sever(?) the (ITC) relationship we have because he really IS in pretty good with a lot of people (management, other dancers, support staff, and other BIG spenders). I would hate to get a bad reputation just because I pissed off the wrong person. So maybe I'll just slowly drift away...
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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    ^^^^^that might be the best idea if its really true that he's in w/ management, staff, big spenders, etc.

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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    What's there to smooth over? You didn't do anything - HE chooses not to spend on you (for whatever reason), end of story. Regulars come to you, not the other way around. The little prick probably slipped something in your drink the night you got sick. If he were a true regular, he would be more concerned with what he can do FOR YOU to help you, than that "Oh, you were too drunk to remember I already paid you" type bullshit.

    There are plenty of good regulars out there. Don't limit yourself to this p.o.s.

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    Default Re: Need advice to smooth things over with a regular... or should I?

    Agree with others,move on.Be polite around him,but don't expect much more out of him.It will be impossible to get a guy like that to act the same way as before,he's done.

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