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    as i've said before on here, i got into stripping a month and a half ago and it was pretty much a fluke, but i've discovered that i really like it and am good at it. however, since i NEVER EVER want my parents to know, they think i've spent the summer partying and dicking around and don't know i've actually made several thousand dollars.

    right now i dance two nights a week, and i just got a part-time job waitressing (another fluke, but it's a long story), mostly because i feel kinda guilty for lying to my parents and wanted to be able to tell them i have a "real" job. tonight was my first night, and it was all right, but by the end my feet were killing (why do the four-inch heels i was wearing hurt way more than my stripper platforms?) and i realized that if i wait tables three nights a week, i'd probably make at most $300/week (at that restaurant, anyway). OR i could dance three extra nights a week and make 7 or 8x as much (i average $700-800/night dancing).

    i'm young, my body is bangin', i think dancing is fun, and the boy i'm dating knows and doesn't have a problem with it. i realized tonight that if i'm going to dance, now is the perfect time in my life to do it, and i should treat it like a JOB and stop treating it like an accident. so i think i'm gonna quit the waitressing job and dance five nights a week instead of two. it just makes so much more sense.

    anyone else go back to "normal" jobs after dancing and have a hard time with it? how did you deal?

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    I went on a three month contract with the rail company in my city printing up school tickets for 5 seven a fortnight and found that i was relying on my boy/flatmate to bail me out every week cause i wasn't earning enough to keep up with my lifestyle. i'd dance every now and then but it was only to pay off bills really and the only really good money night i had was spent on buying the boy a birthday present (white suit really snazzy) it was almost a relief when the contract ended and i went back to dancing full time.
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    Default Re: disillusioned with "normal" jobs

    When I was 20 I started dancing and quit at 23. I went on to school and was a make up artist for five years then went back to dancing. I'm investing in several businesses now because a job is just not for me. Can't do it. It's a last resort for some of us.

    Go to school and or start your own business while dancing. Do both if you can.




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    I danced for a year and a half... worked a real job for maybe two weeks and was like "fuck this" and went right back to dancing.
    I've quit dancing and worked BDSM related stuff off and on since then... but no actual work.
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    ya i "quit" dancing and after 2 months at a straight jon im like really? to the op, hun you are making good $! congrats! be wise with it, n thats just coming from n ex retail-therapy enthusiast lol.

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    I find it very difficult to ever want to go back to a real job since I had a real job working full time 9 to 5 and it sucked pickles, and now i only work 3 nights a week for 4-5 hours a night and I still make 10x more than I did working 40 hours a week, and stripping is unpredictable and I meet exciting people sometimes. I can't sit in the office staring at the computer anymore.

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    I'm quitting my day job in three weeks to dance full time and I can't wait. I love setting my own schedule and I'm very high energy so I also love getting in there and talking to new people and just spending the night moving. I also love not being as worried about money because I know I will always be able to pay my bills.

    I lie to my family to but I stopped feeling guilty about it because I am an adult and I know that this makes me happy. Plus I finally have a way to go to grad school, a dream I thought I'd never be able to achieve.

    One word of advice: retirement fund! Set up an ira or something, you are young and if you put away a nice portion of your earnings now the interest over the years will leave you with a massive nest egg when you retire. And if you have a savings account ditch it for a money market account. Higher interest, more money for you to fund more schooling or a house or something when you graduate. You are in the perfect position right now to set yourself up for life!

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    thanks to everyone who replied - i'm relieved to know i'm not the only one who is totally turned off by "regular jobs" right now, because i was worried that i'm just lazy/spoiled. i called my manager and told him that i've accepted a higher-paying job offer - i just neglected to mention WHAT that job is. i'm going to pick up three more days of dancing (i'm also finishing up my bachelor's degree and have classes two days a week).

    i can always tell my parents i'm, i don't know, nanny-ing or something. some "respectable" job that pays in cash. because you guys are right, i'm an adult and can make my own choices.

    it's so funny: i stopped hanging out with a lot of my friends when i stopped dancing because they're so depressed and negative to be around because they're searching for jobs they're way under-qualified for... and can't get hired. sometimes one of them will joke that she should be a stripper... as she reaches for a third donut. it makes me realize how incredibly lucky i am to be making so much money in this sucky economy, and i should take full advantage of it and save every penny i can.

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    Ditch the waitress gig! You are leaving money on the table, and your opportunity to earn that kind of income will on diminish with time. Seriously. You'll be able to pull down a good living as a stripper for a long time, but the fresh-new-dancer attitude will disappear in a few months, and the big $$ nights along with it.

    It takes about 4-6 months of full time dancing (3-4 shifts a week) before your first burnout phase. It will happen a lot faster if you are working a day job at the same time.

    Don't tell your parents what you are doing for work. Just save your money and get your own place ASAP. At $800 a night, you should have enough to move out in a couple of weeks, easy.

    Good luck! I started dancing in 1998, and although I'm not dancing any longer, I plan on spending the rest of my life in the stripping industry.


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    once you get used to earning cash it's hard to go back. You get that first paycheck after slaving away for a week or two and it's like "that's it?!" Once the taxes are taken out it's just...ugh. After working for tips for the past 11 years i think i'm ruined for a so-called normal job.

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    You are leaving money on the table, and your opportunity to earn that kind of income will on diminish with time. Seriously. You'll be able to pull down a good living as a stripper for a long time
    Agreed !

    You might want to use the SEARCH function with keywords 'serious professional dancer' ...as there are a host of past discussions on this very subject !

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    i danced for lil over 3 years. quit recently and got a waitressing gig at a strip club. i just quit. it was too hard for me to be on my feet in heels for 9 hours straight with no breaks. i'm a little embarrassed but not going back to dancing. just doing webcamming now.

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    Soooo disillusioned right here. Making 17o a week at a "normal" pt job. Looking for the exit!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by spyder View Post
    once you get used to earning cash it's hard to go back. You get that first paycheck after slaving away for a week or two and it's like "that's it?!" Once the taxes are taken out it's just...ugh. After working for tips for the past 11 years i think i'm ruined for a so-called normal job.
    depends on the size of the check...

    that said, i still count out my pay in cash, an artifact from dancing.

    curiously, dancing is about the only job where i felt the money was earned through effort more than half the time. any other work i've done for pay felt/feels like i don't have to labor very hard and am just handed money. one can term that a sort of disillusion, because i prefer to feel i've earned money i am paid for labor/services and it is sometimes frustrating that non-stripping work is just not arduous or tough.

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    You mentioned your boyfriend. DON'T give him your money or buy him snazzy things. He doesn't deserve it.

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