^^^ Well, there's parenting and then there's over-parenting. Personally I think this case is the latter.
You're mom needs to understand that she's got to let go. As Erich Fromm once said ...
"The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense,
tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's
side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from
the mother and to become fully independent."
In a way, by keeping such a close watch over you, not only is she saying that she doesn't trust you to be an independant adult, but she is also saying that she doesn't trust her own abilities to have raised you the right way.
The funny thing is, I wonder if her concerns stem from her own experiences as a young adult and if she's possibly being a tad hypocritical - maybe, maybe not.
Hopefully you and your mom will be able to work this out.
Take care.
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