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    Default How would you respond to this email??

    A little background: This is a custie I met a few weeks ago and acted intrested in his offer to "take me somewhere tropical" while dancing for him.(c'mon man, if we all had a dollar for every guy who offered us a trip/vacay we'd all be retired haha) We exchanged emails and I sent him a bikini photo of me. Well, he came back to see me at the club this weekend, and I recieved this email in my inbox today:

    From: bg***@comcast.net <bg***@comcast.net>
    Subject: "my favorite redhead"
    To: august***@yahoo.com
    Date: Saturday, September 19, 2009, 12:47 AM


    Hi Cindy,

    I hope you had a good night! I made it back to Fort Collins, no problem, except some sleep deprivation today. Please send some more pics as I seem to have lost (deleted?) the one you sent several weeks ago!


    From the darkness, and our brief interactions, you seem like a beautiful and intelligent woman, worth getting to know. I am worth getting to know as well. Don't judge me for being married, until you know the details, as I don't judge you. An NSA tropical vacation might be a lot of fun, you never know! If there is some place else you have always wanted to go to, or you have other ideas on a fun escape, don't be shy! I love to travel and am open to almost anything, including the trite, but fun, Las Vegas... (much better for gambling than Detroit).


    Are you still going home on Sunday? It would be nice to meet you here in Colorado sometime. Would you be interested in a motorcycle ride on your way through Fort Collins (the weather is supposed to be great!)? You can call me at 970-492-5XXX anytime, and it's OK to leave a message. If Sunday doesn't work, maybe coffee, or dinner, or something else sometime? (I go to Denver regularly, as my company's office is in Englewood, but I usually work from home when I'm not travelling.)


    I hope you have a good and profitable weekend, but take care of yourself.


    Brian




    How would you respond to this?

    keep in mind I am married IRL, TIA!
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    Default Re: How would you respond to this email??

    i love how they always want more pictures...
    i'd probably respond with some variation of "it sounds fun but i'm awfully busy, cool of you to offer but i don't really know you, come see me at work". Or if you want to put a stop to it ask how his wife's doing.

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    He sounds a bit too involved for only having seen you twice. Did he seem uber creepy or stalkerish at all itc? If so I'd back away slowly from this one.

    If he seemed normal itc then I'd respond with something about really needing to get to know him better before you would feel comfortable going on a vacay and mention something suggestive about not being able to really relax and enjoy yourself if you aren't a bit more comfortable with him. Then suggest he stop by work to see you because you'd love to go for a ride or have dinner but are just too busy/have to work/school, whatever.
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    Set a price and ask for it up front. Have him send $50 to a paypal account (or other form of payment like a Visa gift card) for the next set of photos. If he is truly interested in pursuing this, he will send the money for the photos.

    I agree with saying something about getting to know him better. Set a price again for dinner out, say something like $250 plus he picks up the check.

    Don't ever let him think you are interested in him other than a business relationship. 9 times out of 10, he will disappear with the first request for cash. It sounds like he is an out-of-town customer anyway, so it isn't like you have to face him often at the club.

    If nothing else, you'll sell your photos for $50. Score!


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    Default Re: How would you respond to this email??

    Personally I would not get involved with a married man especially OTC.

    Just the other day I developed a slight crush on a custy who is married and he gave me his number because he wanted to take me out to dinner. I kind of ignored him when he said that and told him the days I worked. Then he asked me to only call in the day because that is when he can tend to his phone and delete messages so his wife wont find out.

    Start hittin' this guy up for some cash like others are saying. For photos, lunch and dinner set a price. Exactly what Paris said from the very beginning establish that this is a business relationship. He will either pay or get all pissed off because you are only after his money.

    It cracks me up that he states that he will not judge you or how you MAKE A LIVING (how nice of him.) and you should not judge him for setting up a vacation with a mistress defying the legal contract that he has with the state and another women. Kids? Hope they are out of the house.

    Seriously.

    Guys are like this. They are looking for women to drop everything and be their travel companion. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes you have to pay for companionship and sometimes you don't. Custys ask me this all the time: want to go to Thailand with me? Want to go to Japan? Oh you're taking a road trip? Do you want company?




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    hmmm unfortuantly i already told him at somepoint in our conversation that i would happy to send him some more pix of me after he mentioned how much he liked the one i had already sent him, thats why he brought it up in the email. So wouldn't it be weird to now ask him for money for them?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Oksana23 View Post
    hmmm unfortuantly i already told him at somepoint in our conversation that i would happy to send him some more pix of me after he mentioned how much he liked the one i had already sent him, thats why he brought it up in the email. So wouldn't it be weird to now ask him for money for them?

    No?... he is a customer not your friend or someone you owe something to.

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    Let him know the only way you "can make yourself available" for an NSA trip, is if he is willing to "cover" whatever you would make at work for that period of time.

    He will most likely ask, "how much?"

    Be honest.

    Set up a paypal to collect a deposit for your round trip ticket (or however you choose to do it). Once he sees the invoice he will know your are serious.

    I get requests all the time from guys I've never met to travel with them. I tell them the procedure, if they are down with it they pay!
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    Default Re: How would you respond to this email??

    You shouldn´t even have to be asking this question.
    No offense, but if YOU´re married and HE´s married, then that should be enough to back away from. If he´s so quick to ditch his wife, and you get involved with him, then he´ll be equally as quick to ditch you down the line.

    Don´t bother getting involved with this guy or responding. He´s coming on way too quickly and way too heavily. It´s just weird.

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    I agree with paris about the pics. To me this guy sounds fullovit but I am used to interacting with guys moreso online then ITC!

    If I was you I would stick with your gut. If you only lead him on to get dances, then why consider being alone with him on a NSA vacation? On top of it he is married girl, I know I see plenty of married men in the club and online but do u really want to be that other woman? Doubtful!

    Is this guy a regular of yours? You know most OTC meetings lead to him only wanting OTC meetings, right? Sounds like if you refuse he will never see you, but if you go you will miss out on $$ ITC anyways because once OTC they will always want to meet OTC.

    This sounds to me like the classic "I like to play rich and successful married guy" who just wants to see how far you will go for shits and giggles.

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    Quote Originally Posted by exoticbeauty911 View Post
    You shouldn´t even have to be asking this question.
    No offense, but if YOU´re married and HE´s married, then that should be enough to back away from. If he´s so quick to ditch his wife, and you get involved with him, then he´ll be equally as quick to ditch you down the line.

    Don´t bother getting involved with this guy or responding. He´s coming on way too quickly and way too heavily. It´s just weird.
    Yep it strikes me as wierd, perving on you online type way. I did not know you were married either!!! Shame shame what are u thinking! DONT DO IT!

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    Default Re: How would you respond to this email??

    No. I wouldn't

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    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    Let him know the only way you "can make yourself available" for an NSA trip, is if he is willing to "cover" whatever you would make at work for that period of time.

    Set up a paypal to collect a deposit for your round trip ticket (or however you choose to do it). Once he sees the invoice he will know your are serious.
    I like the idea of him covering what you would make ITC! I would make sure it is padded for what would be your potential and not actually be honest. I mean, he would be getting all your attention and not in a perfect type of situation for you. But, I really like the terminology.

    However, I don't like the paypal account for your ticket idea. Find a travel agent that you trust and set up the ticket with her under your legal name. You can tell her your stage name and have your cutstie call her to pay for "your stage name's" ticket. This way he doesn't get your real name and he knows that you aren't just spending the paypal $ on your bills instead of the ticket.

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    If you dont want to sound weird about asking for money for pics you could take an indirect route. Say you'd love to email him pics but your camera is broken so you can't, unless he wanted to assist you with the money to get a new one. To make it believable you could say you just paid rent and won't get money until you have a good day at work. He can either wait it out for a while (which would be a good way to back off of him if you want) or he'll give you money or a camera.
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    I love the fact that he won't judge YOU for being a dancer , ( like it's bad) if you don't judge him for being a sleazy cheating pathetic scum of a husband. I hate married men that cheat, there is NO excuse. He took vows in front of god, etc, etc. Tell him to get a fucking divorce and stop being a pussy

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    omg guys! I think some of you took my question the wrong way! I have absolutely NO intentition of EVER meeting this dude (or any other guys) OTC, I am very happily married!!! I was just kind of shocked that he would be so forward when I've only met him twice!! Thats why I posted it on here for advice. In hindsight, I should have never even gave him my email address but I have been reading here on HH about using social networking sites/email to keep in touch with regs, and I thought he had like, reg potential, ya know? but no, he's creepy, sending him a photo was another bad call. I sent him ONE professionally shot bikini photo like "hehe, you're so nice, come back and see me and my sexy friends!" and apparently he thought it was something more idk. I actually decided not to respond to him at all, and he sent me the same exact email again today(with a few sentences added) i plan on just ignoring it. And, yes, now that I am married myself I am very disgusted with married men who try to hit on me and suggest OTC, they are pigs. thats all.
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    I wouldn't respond at all.
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    His email strikes me as creepy. If you have no desire to see him ITC just ignore it. If you want to keep him as a customer you could respond with a brief message and either clearly state that you won't meet him OTC or, explain that you don't know him well enough to. I don't know if you want to give him false hope especially if he seemed stalkerish. As for the picture thing you don't have to acknowledge it in your response. I'd just ignore his request for the photo if he wants to see you let him visit you at work.
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    This guys sounds like a creepy asshole.It seems almost as if he implied that him being unfaithful to his wife is better than you being a dancer,dunno,just a gut feeling.I've seen guys like that before.If he gets dicovered he'll blame it on "being seduced" by a dancer.I would stay away from this one.Feel bad for the poor wife .Don't send him any more photos either.

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    fulla shit fulla shit fulla shit. men will tell u shit, and sell u dreams. one smart thing to remember is to always be 3 steps ahead of their dumb asses. i agree wit the ladies about milkin this fool for money for pics. thats actually a good idea. photoshop it with ur stripper name watermark and its all professional n such, im sure hell be willing to pay for them since hes willin to pay to take ur ass to another country.
    i was dating this dude who turned out to be one of my states biggest real estate con men.....sold me tons of dreams, trying to get me to put my name on paperwork (and steal other personal info) to buy a 1.2 million dollar home he convinced me we would live in. HA.
    be smart, and use ur womans intuition. men are full of fuckin shit.

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    remind him he is a customer and not a romantic interest/potential sexual friend. do this in a polite but firm way, as in, "i really enjoy seeing you in the club and id prefer to keep it that way. its more comfortable for me." set your boundaries quickly so you wont have to worry about more emails later.

    also i dislike that he pretends to have lost or deleted your photos to get more instead of just asking or offering to pay. yeah, right. maybe if his wife used the comp or something they were "accidentally" deleted.

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